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AIBU - Weeing in lay-bys is anti social and fines should apply

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Thriftnugget · 17/03/2024 08:27

Item in the news- Dacorum Borough Council have stopped issuing fines for wild wees in lay-bys.
I know that this is on a technicality (anti littering law used and wild wees not classed as litter) but I think people weeing in lay-bys is appalling. It should be subject to fines. I can forgive toddlers/ young children but not adults. There are solutions for those with medical conditions that mean urgent wees are a symptom. And it’s always men. Women need urgent wees too (possibly more so, pregnancy etc) and we don’t pull up in lay-bys and squat in front of passing traffic. AIBU?

OP posts:
RampantIvy · 17/03/2024 08:52

We need more public toilets.

GiantHornets · 17/03/2024 08:51

I wee in lay-bys 🤷‍♀️don’t see the problem.

CormorantStrikesBack · 17/03/2024 08:51

PanadTe · 17/03/2024 08:43

It’s shame the UK are so behind on this in comparison to European countries were there are toilets and Aires dotted all over.

If you really need to go you really need to go!

This. Our city has shut 99% of the public toilets due to cost. Other countries have much better facilities both in urban areas and on roadsides. Here unless you can find a shop toilet you can use or a motorway service station you’re stuck

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Thriftnugget · 17/03/2024 08:49

@Ofcourseshecan Well I’ve had 3 kids, interstitial cystitis (and an enormous ovarian cyst) so you could say I have had a share of desperate for a wee experiences …. But I’ve never had a wee in a lay-by. Also … she-wees/ and whatever they are called for men (large necked bottle!) for those who need them. …?

OP posts:
VladsPants · 17/03/2024 08:49

I cant get upset by folk have a wee in a lay-by.

ShiteRider · 17/03/2024 08:47

I used to think like this and then a loved one got prostate cancer and I ended up finding out how it affects a lot of people’s continence.

Now I’m less judgemental because I get that whilst some people are lazy, others have actual bladder issues.

Of course it’s better if you can be discreet and most people will be but it’s not always possible.

PanadTe · 17/03/2024 08:43

It’s shame the UK are so behind on this in comparison to European countries were there are toilets and Aires dotted all over.

If you really need to go you really need to go!

Ofcourseshecan · 17/03/2024 08:41

May you never suffer from a dodgy bladder in a 5-mile tailback on the motorway, OP.

greencurtainshanging · 17/03/2024 08:39

I agree with you. I remember once driving past a guy who was weeing at the side of the motorway, literally about 1 foot away from the sign for the Services.

I get it - people are caught short but it's a yucky thing to witness and in most cases, I would imagine it's avoidable. Just hold it and wait for a loo.