DH has gone out for drinks with his friends in a city about an hour and a bit train ride away. Left at 11am and isn’t likely to be back into the train station until midnightish, then needs to get home.
I’ve had our 2 children all day (4 years old and 1) which probably sounds a bit petty and ordinarily wouldn’t be so bad, but I have ADHD and have been communicating for a couple of weeks that I’m in early burn out stage, lack of sleep makes it feel worse. Managing a home and 2 children plus working full time in a job managing a caseload in the justice system who’re all either putting their own trauma onto me or expecting me to solve all of their problems.
I only have a weekend to try and reset myself but that’s usually filled up with chores or time with the children which I love, but it’s mentally hard at times.
We don’t have anyone else to really help aside from FIL who does a couple of days weekly childcare and not a lot of money at the minute for me to do something for me. This month is the worst for money as DH has just started a new job.
Anyway, rambling (!) I put the children to bed just over an hour ago as usual. 1 year old has been having screaming episodes quite a few nights this week where she goes for hours even if you’re holding her or she will constantly writhe around on you and refuse to settle - a nightmare for someone in a bad ADHD place. She’s still not asleep now and I’ve still got the usual nightly tidy round tasks to do before I can sit down; I haven’t had any food yet either.
I’m starting to think it coincides with having a breakfast she could be reacting to but DH thinks it’s great and keeps trying to give her it so tonight is one of those nights.
He’s expecting to have a lie in tomorrow - they’ve both started getting up at 6:30am now - AIBU to tell him that I’m not facilitating it? Or should I not be the ‘party pooper’ and get up with the children?