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To feel like a minger at the dentist

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Anotherdayanotherusername · 16/03/2024 08:17

I've always tried to look after my teeth. I brush twice daily with an electric toothbrush, floss & use those little brushes to clean in between. I visit the hygienist at least every 6 months, every 3-4 months at their suggestion at times, but it's pricy!

However, within a couple of weeks of visiting the hygienist the tartare starts building up and is hard to control. I've even tried chipping it off with dentist tools I bought in Boots with limited success. By the time I go back to the hygienist, there's a significant amount to remove & I can tell she's not impressed. I once caught a glimpse of my notes which read "poor oral hygiene" which was mortifying. However, a dentist once told me that some people produce more plaque than others so need to work harder to control it. The gaps between my teeth are also very narrow so harder to reach.

I've just seen the dentist who says I have gum disease and bone loss. She's recommended a "non-surgical treatment" which is basically an hour long hygienist session but if that doesn't work I may need surgery to save my teeth. I'm so upset. She said that while they can do their best, a lot of it is up to me.

I'm wondering what I could've done to prevent this. Maybe brush my teeth after every meal or snack, which is not really practical. Turns out the brushes I've been using are the wrong ones for my teeth so have bought new ones, but probably a bit late. I would add that my teeth don't look bad. They're not as white as I'd like but I haven't needed a filling in years (don't eat much sugary stuff) and the gums don't bleed when I brush which I thought was a sign of gum disease.

Am I just unlucky or actually a minger?

OP posts:
neveradullmoment99 · 16/03/2024 08:25

Dentist said to me it's something to do with production of saliva. It's not your fault. Some people have it worse than others.

winewolfhowls · 16/03/2024 08:23

I'm beginning to suspect my dentist is trying to sell expensive procedures rather than think about the actual needs of the patient.

Even an everyday check up is a big sell for whitening.

VestibuleVirgin · 16/03/2024 08:22

Sympathies! Gum health can be familial, if your parents had bad gums, you may well have a tendency to this. Even with meticulous tooth and gum care, disease is inevitable.
I'm afraid such deep-cleaning will become the norm as it's the only way to stop disease progression
It's not your fault!

Loopytiles · 16/03/2024 08:21

Get a nicer hygienist!

wubwubwub · 16/03/2024 08:21

Are you flossing properly?

Are you using your toothbrush correctly?

BreakfastAtMimis · 16/03/2024 08:20

I would get a second opinion, if you can afford a consultation with another dentist.
I have terrible build up of tartar and plaque, my dentist just cleans my teeth once a year at my appointment and doesn't say anything else is needed.

WinteryConditions · 16/03/2024 08:20

I brush my teeth multiple times a day, use a water gun once a day and use floss a couple of times a day. I still get a little plaque build up.
Do you use an electric brush.

LastRites · 16/03/2024 08:20

I’m not a dentist, but I suspect there’s nothing you’ve done wrong. I have similar oral hygiene to you (regular dentist visits etc, brush twice daily, floss daily) but I don’t use an electric toothbrush and never have. I rarely get plaque building up (if ever) and I have no decay or fillings. I think it’s probably more to do with genetics than routine!

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