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My mum moved in but barely lifts a finger

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Mumoftwinsandasingleton · 15/03/2024 12:32

My mum was sent a section 21 for her rented flat back in August 2023. She has been living with me and my husband since. We had twins in September 2023 and have a 3 year old. My mum works as a cleaner from 6am to 9am. She is then free throughout the day. She despises helping out with the children as she just wants to sit and watch day time TV without the children in the way. She can't cook, so always waits for me to prepare all meals. She also doesn't clean the house or help out with any chores aside from washing her OWN clothes and washing dishes. She contributes £20 every week but not a penny over. Whenever we go for shopping, she always expects me to pay and then whines that she only has x amount in her purse if I do ask her to pay. On mother's day, she chose to go out with my sister and sends her money regularly even though my sister refused to take her in during her dire situation. My husband really tolerates my mum and keeps saying I'm clearly not the favourite child. She needs to move on but is still waiting for the housing to get back to her. Any advice?

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BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 15/03/2024 12:38

The housing is unlikely to rehouse her as she is currently not homeless. What conditions/parameters did you set before she moved in with you? She’s doing the bare minimum of hours working so she possibly feels that the 20 quid a week she’s paying you could be seen as fair. It isn’t. I’d expect more from a lodger in terms of a contribution towards house-work and money. She’s taking the piss but you’re letting it happens

HotChocWine · 15/03/2024 12:37

Serve her with an eviction notice

Wisterical · 15/03/2024 12:37

Stop being a doormat.

iLovee · 15/03/2024 12:36

Tell her to move out. Give her 1 months notice and then change your locks!