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ballybean · 14/03/2024 23:49

My son's school has an all glass isolation room in the hall with three desks, children are put there as punishment? Teachers and students walking passed

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Nantescalling · 22/04/2024 18:41

MrsPerfect12 · 15/03/2024 00:03

This

This too!

Papyrophile · 27/03/2024 21:11

That needs to change, quick-time.

Edited to alter the mood of my previous post.

Papyrophile · 27/03/2024 20:46

@northernbeee , until actions DO have consequences, fast and unpleasant ones, then kids will take the risk and the piss. Better applauded by your peers than respected by your teachers.

OfTheNight · 27/03/2024 19:17

They’re ok to misbehave in front of everyone though? They’re fine with stuff like bullying peers, damaging property, physically and verbally abusing other students and staff. That’s fine to do publicly. It’s just the punishment that’s not ok?

CowboyJoanna · 27/03/2024 17:54

WhiteLily1 · 15/03/2024 12:24

No child should EVER be deliberately and purposefully humiliated no matter what they’ve done or how much they are a ‘little shit’
What’s the matter with you?

The matter with me is that I don't spoil my kids rotten unlike you apparently

DisabledDemon · 19/03/2024 01:10

ballybean · 14/03/2024 23:49

My son's school has an all glass isolation room in the hall with three desks, children are put there as punishment? Teachers and students walking passed

Gee, I don't know .. ever thought they should simply, I don't know, behave themselves?

Having taught in mainstream schools, I can tell you that this is quite mild. They're not being excluded. They're not being sent off to PRUs. Oh dear me, they're in an area that may be easily observed, how awful.

northernbeee · 18/03/2024 11:43

And this is exactly why this world is going to sh*t!! Children don't seem to realise that actions have consequences, because it doesn't happen at home anymore! Misbehave in class, go sit in the glass room - don't want to sit in the glass room, don't misbehave!

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 18/03/2024 10:33

cottoncandy260 · 16/03/2024 20:58

Absolutely.

Unfortunately the things that work - 1:1 relationship building, parental therapy, mediation, restorative justice, smaller class sizes, trained and qualified SEN/nurture teachers etc etc - all take time, money and resources. Things that our cash-strapped, staff limited schools simply don’t have.

Isolation booths are a quick, ineffective short term fix that solve nothing.

But they so solve something. They solve the immediate issue of potentially 29 other children having to forgo their own education because of one very disruptive person.

I don't disagree with you about the things that should be happening - but there is a reality here that this cannot be supported.

Two of my children are already in lower sets, struggling with dyslexia, and adding in a disruptive class (and no regular teacher - another issue) just means that they're more likely to come out of school with very low GCSEs. It worries me. And sorry, while I care in the abstract that the disruptive children probably have difficulty home lives etc. I have my own children and their futures and lives to worry about too. I don't see why their needs are lower down because they aren't the squeaky wheel.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 17/03/2024 21:14

@cottoncandy260 absolutely not. It's the parents and bloody mollycoddlers who are creating chaos NOT the over worked underpaid teaching staff who are barely allowed to teach and are expected to be counsellors, best buds, scapegoats etc!

cottoncandy260 · 17/03/2024 21:07

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 17/03/2024 20:24

I do hope you realise I was being facetious... or do you think pupils today should behave with impunity?

Of course I don’t. Your ‘facetious’ comment just had an air of school blaming about it. Like all the teachers just sit around letting the kids misbehave because we think the behaviour is entirely appropriate and there should be no consequences.

Mh67 · 17/03/2024 20:54

It would be a fantastic insensitive for kids to behave.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 17/03/2024 20:24

cottoncandy260 · 17/03/2024 20:13

You really haven’t stepped inside a school since you were 16, have you?

I do hope you realise I was being facetious... or do you think pupils today should behave with impunity?

cottoncandy260 · 17/03/2024 20:13

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 17/03/2024 19:46

It's now known as 'big feelings' and requires mollycoddling, blaming others, and lovely treats, NOT being told its unacceptable!

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You really haven’t stepped inside a school since you were 16, have you?

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 17/03/2024 19:46

GoodnightAdeline · 17/03/2024 18:24

What’s with flipping tables all of a sudden? I never witnessed this once at school, throughout the whole 14 years. Now it seems to be a daily occurrence.

It's now known as 'big feelings' and requires mollycoddling, blaming others, and lovely treats, NOT being told its unacceptable!

Grah · 17/03/2024 19:36

ballybean · 14/03/2024 23:59

I think it's humiliating for them. They aren't put there because they are a danger. They are put there if messing in class, distracting others etc

So if they behave and follow school rules, they are not put in there? 🤔 You know what I'd say to my kids in that case? "Don't be disruptive, spoil your education, the education of others in your class, and the teacher's lesson. Then you won't get put in there. Simples!!'
Suppose you want them to have a day out or a treat? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️No wonder teacher's are leaving in droves with this attitude from lily livered parents.

Scottsy200 · 17/03/2024 19:33

Teachers have very little tools at their disposal these days to discipline students, maybe a bit of humiliation and degrading might work, kids don’t even respect teachers these days and all the parents do is complain that their previous little Mason can do no wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️

Papyrophile · 17/03/2024 19:08

There are not enough over-ripe tomatoes or rotten eggs.

My teacher training PGCE is 20 years old, and I decided then I was never going to work in the state system. Education is a leg up and a route out of poverty in most of the world. But here, it's free and mostly quite decent. In the words of the immortal Dorothy Parker: you can lead a whore to culture, but you can't make her think.

DisabledDemon · 17/03/2024 18:39

ThisOldThang · 17/03/2024 18:25

People that prey upon the elderly and disabled.

The problem would be building enough stocks to keep up with the demand!

ThisOldThang · 17/03/2024 18:25

DisabledDemon · 17/03/2024 18:22

Personally, I've got nothing against the stocks for certain elements of society - people who mindlessly tag freshly painted walls, fly tippers, able bodied people who park in disabled spaces ... it'd be a just punishment.

People that prey upon the elderly and disabled.

GoodnightAdeline · 17/03/2024 18:24

What’s with flipping tables all of a sudden? I never witnessed this once at school, throughout the whole 14 years. Now it seems to be a daily occurrence.

DisabledDemon · 17/03/2024 18:22

Personally, I've got nothing against the stocks for certain elements of society - people who mindlessly tag freshly painted walls, fly tippers, able bodied people who park in disabled spaces ... it'd be a just punishment.

ballybean · 17/03/2024 13:40

Alcyoneus · 17/03/2024 11:02

So what do you want OP? Give them a medal instead for misbehaving?

Yes, give them a medal. Thats the alternative I've suggested throughout the whole thread

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Trumptonagain · 17/03/2024 13:19

TitaniasAss · 17/03/2024 11:29

Got it in one. My Head is just great at telling everyone what they're doing wrong in the classroom, but hasn't taught a lesson in 10 years.

The Headteacher at my DS previous primary school won't, yes I said won't, disciplin bad behaviour of selected DC "incase their parents go mad, they'll come in to see me and won't be happy"

Joke of a Headteacher, not fit for such a position where their decisions affect those that just want to get on with their day.
All they did is reiterate that bad behaviour is to be rewarded.

ZebraDanios · 17/03/2024 12:22

@MrsSunshine2b I think some schools need to rethink their priorities regardless of budgets. My DD got a strict telling off for wearing a pink hair tie in Year 2 while the worst-behaved child in the class got to spend the afternoon on an iPad if he’d managed not to overturn any tables that morning.

MrsSunshine2b · 17/03/2024 12:08

ZebraDanios · 17/03/2024 11:55

This is the crux of the whole argument for me.

There’s a lot of talk on this thread about children “facing the consequences” of their behaviour. We look at this with small children like this: the consequence of throwing sand is that you get taken out of the sandpit. The consequence of not being kind to your friend on a playdate is that you get taken home.

So… The consequence of disrupting others’ learning is that you get removed from the classroom: makes total sense. The consequence of wearing the wrong coloured socks is that you get put in a classroom by yourself for a day (and we know this happens, there are stories about it every September!): what?!

Yes, I agree, and if it's a consequence it needs to come with learning about why it wasn't OK and what needs to improve. But budgets are squeezed and I kind of agree with @Teajenny7 that the priority needs to be the kids who are behaving themselves.

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