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thirst trap facebook reels?

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Quackidy · 13/03/2024 10:21

hiya, since i've had access to my partners accounts/social media i have noticed over the past year these sexual/thirst traps on his facebook reels.

i have spoke to him about it loads of times, even had some nasty arguments over it and he denys ever looking at any of that stuff. we had a recent argument over it about a week ago and i have gone on his facebook and they are still showing.

i'm am struggling with trusting him or the algorithm of these reels. i am currently 38 weeks pregnant and we have a 2 year old, it is quite simply hurting my self esteem/confidence a lot.

i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7 besides when he is at work and he isn't allowed his phone besides breaks where he is messaging me.

i am sick of the same arguments over it, i dont know what to do, is it him or is facebook literally bugged out?! he has also deleted fb a few times to 'ease' my mind but recently got it back to look at cars etc.

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Quackidy · 13/03/2024 10:48

YoureWinningAtLife · 13/03/2024 10:32

i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7

Then why is it an issue & why don’t you trust him?

because he has done this before in the past after the birth of our first child..

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Quackidy · 13/03/2024 10:46

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 13/03/2024 10:42

If you are repeatedly clicking these reels on his FB then you're "teaching" the algorithm that it needs to show them...

You also sound overbearing. Constantly checking his phone, spending all your time with him when he's not at work. Even when he's AT work his breaks are taken up messaging you...

overbearing? constantly? i haven't looked in ages! he has previously lied to me before about this stuff, how can you even assume that about me from one post?

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YouDidntEvenAskIfSheWasThereMoriarty · 13/03/2024 10:43

That's really not cool, OP. Red flag from you.

  1. Stay off his Facebook and give him some privacy
  2. Facebook reels are targeted based on age, gender, and location. Not that you should be trawling through someone else's social media in the first place
  3. This is how you end up destroying a relationship. Is that what you want?
ButWhatAboutTheBees · 13/03/2024 10:42

If you are repeatedly clicking these reels on his FB then you're "teaching" the algorithm that it needs to show them...

You also sound overbearing. Constantly checking his phone, spending all your time with him when he's not at work. Even when he's AT work his breaks are taken up messaging you...

BoohooWoohoo · 13/03/2024 10:41

Op is right. By watching his reels, you are encouraging more thirst trap content. Leave his phone alone.

BoohooWoohoo · 13/03/2024 10:39

Do you always get relevant Facebook reels content ?
Mine sometimes shows me content that I’m not interested in like football or dancing young women because it’s presumably popular rather than because it thinks I will like watching it.
I feel sorry for your partner having very little free time though.

moderate · 13/03/2024 10:36

So to clarify: you are “going on his Facebook” and looking at these reels, and the algorithm is learning accordingly, but this is his fault?

YoureWinningAtLife · 13/03/2024 10:32

i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7

Then why is it an issue & why don’t you trust him?