thirst trap facebook reels?

Thank goodness Internet wasn't available when my ex husband was cheating.. I'd have drove myself even madder.. finding out how l did was awful.. but to do this would drive me insane.

Why do you have access to his social media? You shouldn’t be going through his account, that’s not normal or healthy behaviour.

If you are worried he is wanking over these reels which is where I think you were going with YANO, well rather he wanks over that than some trafficked woman on porn hub or something.

I wouldn’t be overly impressed if my husband was looking at women half dressed on the internet either to be honest but he isn’t interacting with them, it’s not a chat site or whatever. I would let this go, roll my eyes and get the ick at him being so immature.

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I’m a heterogeneous married woman and I had a few weeks of nearly naked women popping up on my reels too (but none on my husbands profile?). I kept trying to block them but didn’t work and then after my husband did some clearing of cookies or something they finally went. I don’t look at porn or sexy websites… so maybe sometimes they do weird things.

I’m sure someone’s gonna come along and tell me my husband was watching porn or something now…

I am from the fact that you've come on here to say that you're monitoring his social media.

That's not a part of any healthy relationship.

I've started to get loads of this shit in my FB reels, women walking around supermarkets pulling their waistbands down to show off their fannies, a lot of videos from India of fully dressed people in alley ways having sex, women getting their tits out to 'breastfeed' dolls. It's constant and it's only been happening in the last month or 2, it isn't stuff I look at or ever has been and I block all the reels but still they keep coming.

"i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7 besides"

What does YANO mean, I've looked on the acronyms list but can't see it.

I do understand where the posters saying about trust are coming from.
After everything I have been though I will never blindly trust again. I never ever checked my husbands phone, I wish I had done, he was on it so much and I blindly trusted he would never break my trust. I could have got out of this hell hole of a relationship decades ago had I just been a bit less naive.

I trusted my husband 100%, I thought he'd never hurt me. I thought we were a team.

I'm not advocating constantly checking up on your partner, however if there is something making you uneasy your partner should be able to show you his phone to put your mind at rest. It is a mine field.

I'm not sure if she's talking about cheating or videos she doesn't like on Facebook.

I strongly suspect the latter.

No, what you're asking for is uncritical validation.

Most people reassured you that your partner's feed is not evidence of wrongdoing, but pointed out that your description of your own actions is.

You didn't like that at all.

Are you sure that you yourself are such a good communicator?

Ye you didn't mention there were cheating issues in the past

You've just mentioned checking at least twice in the past week. And enought times over the year for all the arguments.

And then him spending 24/7 with you outside of work, where he texts you. That's overbearing.

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Your relationship stands a very good chance of failing -

'since we are together 24/7'

It must be incredibly stifling for him when he comes home from work and is with you constantly.

Yes. Instagram and Facebook both show me an unreasonable amount of fairly naked women that cannot really be explained by the things that I follow or regularly engage with on those or other platforms. I think a large part of it's algorithm is:

MALE Y/N? IF ANSWER IS Y GOTO: PORN

And it would be on the most part a fairly efficient algorithm

That's not how trust works. If you only trust your partner after searching through his phone, then asking a bunch of strangers if what you're seeing is ok, then PP is correct - the relationship is doomed.

He would have had to have watched at least a few for them to keep coming up. The first may be thrown up by FB but for them to keep coming he would have had to look at them.

Being with each other 24/7 means nothing. 25 year marriage, working with my husband and living with him, he had a very active porn addiction which I knew nothing about. All on his phone (which I never checked)

I am not saying this is him, of course, what I'm saying is that being with them all the time means nothing, sadly.

You have no trust in your relationship.

Rightly or wrongly, it's doomed.

Because in your OP you use phrases like
"i have noticed over the past year", "i have spoke to him about it loads of times", " had some nasty arguments over it" "they are still showing."

which makes it sound like a constant thing, not a one-off.

Has he actually done it, or did you just make the same assumptions?