thirst trap facebook reels?

Hi, I have no idea why these women are being so rotten. I see nothing wrong with your post. I hope you are ok xx

I guess I'm just saying that life isn't always just black and white, sometimes there is gray and only OP knows if she has truly overstepped the mark.

That really does suck for you. But it still doesn't make it ok for any random person to go through their partner's phone.

I think that people are taking things a bit far with OP, even saying she has committed a crime.

As I said before, I wish I had committed the crime of checking my husbands phone, would have saved me 25 years of being cheated on online and a porn addicted husband, which I would not have chosen.

I did give him complete privacy. I trusted him implicitly. I wasted my life.

Noticed you haven't answered my questions OP.

If you are accessing your partners phone without his knowledge you are committing a CRIMINAL offence under the computer misuse act 1990.

If you are demanding he shows you his phone, you are potentially committing offences under the Coersive and Controlling Behaviour sections of the Serious Crime Act 2015.

Sounds like you are the one with the issues, not your partner.

A thirst trap is basically an attractive woman making a short video of her doing something - usually dancing around or trying on outfits. They're usually pretty tame, tbh.

And yeah Facebook suggests things based on what they predict a typical user would like. I get endless adverts for shape wear even though I've never in my life bought any, never shown any interest in them, and I'm a size eight so I don't need them. It's Facebook being like 40 year old woman must want shape wear. I've tried hiding them, reporting them, blocking the pages, everything. Nothing gets rid of them.

I get loads of irrelevant stuff posted to FB based on my basic demographics that I have never looked at and I seldom look at reels - there's every chance algorithm is just going 'Oh, it's a male aged 25-45, we'll give him thirst traps'. As people have said, if you're opening them and watching them, it'll put them up again.

I have no interest in pages about The Big Bang Theory, Schitts Creek, 80s/90s nostaligia, bad AI pictures of sand scupltures of Jesus, photos comparing celebrities 30 years ago with how they look now, or reels about wedding dresses or hair dye jobs but they still pop up because it just assumes that as a 40-something woman I'll be interested in these.

So, end your relationship if what he’s doing is unacceptable to you.

For the record, you don’t have boundaries, you have controlling tendencies and should probably be single so that you can work out on your self esteem.

So he sits on the sofa all day, he’s got previous examples of being a shit partner and you’ve got access to his SM accounts for some reason and check them…

Yeah this is not a relationship.

DrJoanAllenby Fingers crossed the children don't suffer.

So glad I’m not the only one wondering what a thirst trap reel is 😂. Not curious enough to Google, though.

Why are you checking his phone/Facebook? That’s not acceptable, and makes you seem very insecure and controlling, so you should work on that.

People have a right to their privacy, and it’s not up to you to control what your partner looks at. If you’re not happy and things he’s watching are dealbreakers for you, then you end the relationship, but you have no right to dictate what he does.

Being together 24/7 besides work is not healthy and that would feel completely suffocating to me.

Do either of you have friends or hobbies outside of the relationship?

As other posters have said, the more you look for and watch things, the more the algorithm will keep showing it to you, so it’s you that’s causing it to keep showing.

Also, what are thirst reels? I could Google, I know, but I have the feeling I probably don’t want to 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Looks like they both have a lot of animosity towards each other and would have split up but now there are children in the mix there is resentment, suspicious, deviousness and manipulation going on.

A relationship won't last under all of that strain and hopefully before the children don't suffer at being caught in the middle.

Why did you choose to have a baby with this bloke if you don't trust him and have really nasty arguments with him?

Yes and that's fine.

You leave the relationship if your partner keeps stepping on your boundaries. You don't control what he does, what he watches or anything else that descends into a row and you certainly don't have to right to go through other people's phones when you want. Nobody owns the other. It's not a good environment to force kids to live in.

What’s a “thirst trap reel”

is he watching people drinking water, or is it code for porn? Can you even get porn on FB?

Or are we thinking videos a la Denise Richard’s in Wild Things?

have you checked his browser history for actual porn?

Why do people focus on the wrong thing?
OP if he's a sleaze then get rid.

In your first post you say "since you've had access to his accounts/social media", how did this come about, did you ask for access? If so, why?

Does he have access to yours?

Stop looking at his phone. Everyone is entitled to privacy.

I would be pissed off if anyone went through my phone, then chastised me for it.

Especially reels. They are generally targeted at age and gender and if you watch them for long enough they go from one subject to another not necessarily linked subject matter.

I came here to pretty much say this. I cannot imagine needing to scroll through my partner's social media accounts, who has the time or headspace for that? 🤯

@PinotPony Every relationship has different boundaries and those are OPs..

I know you're pregnant and stressed, but if the sexes were reversed you'd be torn to shreds.

And for what it's worth I love thirst-trap reels about Taron Edgerton amongst other hot celebs. Doesn't mean I don't love or fancy my husband and it's not cheating.

@KrisAkabusi Ok sassy pants

And if you have to argue about privacy in a RELATIONSHIP where you have children, there is an issue. If OP believes her partner isn’t respecting the mother of his children and has proved he hasn’t done so in the past, she has every right to go through his phone.

No she does not!