To get married with a newborn

Tiffany rose- was the maternity wedding gown web site I got my dress from for the evening- it was lovely.

Just to mention, I had a forceps delivery, episiotomy, was induced, the wound got infected. But again I managed it fine! What's important is that you buy a comfortable dress, I had one I could breast feed in, wasn't too fitting would hide big pants.

I popped up to my wedding night hotel room every now and then to either breast feed or pump, but I had a willing crew of baby sitters- so I could definitely let my hair down and do some boogying! My venue in the evening was like a 3 sided barn which really helped because it wasn't that noisy in places so the baby had plenty of places to go away from the music.

Now you've got me thinking 'just do it'. 🤣

No I don't. Do you think you could have a car accident uninsured then take out car insurance to cover it..? I guess if you haven't yet booked certain vendors they might be able to cover that, but since you're already pregnant it might be excluded. You generally need to take out wedding insurance before you even pay deposits or vendors won't be covered. I suggest you change the date or risk losing all your money! Also PP makes a great point about the guests, it's one thing to gamble your own money but you'd also be risking theirs.

Honestly, I think I'd say fuck it and just go for it!

Yeah you might be tired, you might have a colicky baby, you might not look princess perfect, but if you have the right sort of personality for it, it could be great!

If you are a laid back sort, good at rolling with the punches but also well organised and plan ahead, don't mind having to be a bit more selective about the type of dress, and have friends and family who will be supportive and helpful, it could be wonderful.

Does that sound like you?

If you will put yourself under loads of pressure to look "perfect" , don't like to accept help, and are disorganised, I'd be more inclined to suggest rescheduling.

I couldn't have managed this personally, I had a forceps delivery and at 3-4 weeks post partum could still only manage short walks and was regularly icing my stitches, not to mention still bleeding, which would definitely have put a dampener on the wedding day! I understand the reluctance to postpone when you've been looking forward to it and clearly some people have a much breezier recovery than I did but, as others have said, it's worth considering what happens if you don't...

Oh and I asked for maternity wear advice on here, and was I was stupid, that I should LTB because of the timings and that my wedding would be a miserable affair..... it was none of those things!!!

Personally, my second baby was a breeze. Harder to establish BF but I was up and around two days later with my newborn and her 2.5 year old sister. I was back at work part time when she was six weeks old. I would advise against it if it was your first baby. Only major complication would be if you needed a c section.

I did exactly this. Covid changed our wedding plans and moving date. I moved house on the Friday, gave birth on the Saturday, went to a wedding on the following Saturday had my own wedding the Saturday after!

He was 2 weeks old at our wedding, I have to admit that I was tired, but it was a lovely day, my dress fit ok, and I have some absolutely adorable baby photos! It was great for almost every family member to see him and have a cuddle!

But it was a mad three weeks! And my 'well this happened, then this happened' Craig David seven days story!!! X

You will be fine, just buy a dress that's not too fitted (I bought a maternity dress for the evening, pink lace number which was so much better than my day dress) and big underwear! X

My friend got married abroad with a 6 week old. Totally doable. It will be lovely!

None of this matters !! Except being married when you have two children !!

So many women make the terrible mistake of having kids without marriage because of the way the law is in the UK ..

So... IF you earn less than him .. OR have less assets in the way of property .. DO NOT CHANGE THE WEDDING ..

If however you have a private trust fund then put it off as long as you want .

Can you keep the date for a registry office + 2 witnesses wedding...
Then you can be married and make your family as you want it, you won't be so disappointed in the day and the financial risk is much lower..
Then have the party celebration as your wedding would have been, guests, meal, the works, when you and baby are both ready?

Well, depending on your appetite for risk and your stamina and humour you could just take a roll of the dice...
I think gambling with guests finances would be the potential show stopper in terms of thinking 'let's risk it for a biscuit'...
If people are shelling out on travel, accommodation, outfits etc... Then it's cancelled 😬😬😬

Suppose you could come out smelling of roses unless there is a poonami and be delighted you took the chance, or...

Do you have wedding insurance that would cover health-related cancellations? If so, I'd go ahead knowing at least you'd be able to rearrange if something happened at the time that made you too unwell to go ahead (hopefully nothing serious but overdue, c section etc). If not I'd say you probably need to rearrange. Could you bring it forward?

Honestly I wouldn’t do this. As you know newborns are such hard work and you could be utterly exhausted! Not to mention if, god forbid, any thing went wrong or baby was poorly you could still be in hospital.

Are you a super chilled easy going person? Do you have someone who would take over care of the baby for the day so you can enjoy it?

If you have a colicky baby and you haven't slept it might be hell.

And 9 months is very different to one month as we know. Both in terms of baby care needs and physical recovery.

Realised i misread the date format in your op, so what I read as baby would be a week old is actually baby will be a month old (unless you go over by a couple of weeks of course).
Which is a bit less mad. 😁
I think consider the worst case scenario and work out if you and your guests could absorb that, then go from there.

I got married with a 9 month old and 3 months pregnant.

I would go for it, but highly suggest a babysitter/nanny to help out. It is well worth it.

Our relatives were meant to help out..but ended up drunk on the bubbly and didnt haha.

I ended up late to my own wedding forgetting my bouquet.