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To think most make up is a waste of time?

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HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:03

I've never been a girly girl, never seen the point of tanning, nails, fashionable clothes, makeup etc. I do wear makeup on occasion, but it takes me 5 minutes to apply- some powder, a little mascara and maybe some lip tint.

I used to use more makeup to cover blemishes when a teenager.

But I know so many women who spend hours a week on their face. The time, the effort and the expense seems to be immense. I just don't get it. Why spend so long applying expensive paint to your face? Why not just look how you look? Men don't go through all this nonsense and somehow we are able to stand to look at their bare faces.

I know some people are going to say makeup is their hobby, they enjoy it, fine. I'm more addressing those who feel they have to put it on before leaving the house every day.

Help me to understand!

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HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:26

@AllProperTeaIsTheft

I think that's sad though. That people feel they 'have' to do that every day.

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Gibs0nGirl · 11/03/2024 19:26

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:11

@GoodVibesHere

Right. I feel like hrs a week is a waste of life honestly.

So let's say I spend...maybe 2.5 hours a week doing my make up. Around 20/25 minutes a day I'd guess, max. Usually pre-7am.

That's a waste of life is it??

What other hugely satisfying and important tasks could I be completing at that time and in that short window, that wouldn't baffle your little head so.

IWearMakeUp · 11/03/2024 19:26

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:16

@Midnlghtrain

Fair, I suppose everyone has their hobbies. I'm not trying to boast that I'm not like other girls haha. I just don't have much of an interest in stereotypically female things and I'm curious to understand what makes others tick. I suppose I've always felt like a bit of an oddball in that way. Idk.

Curious? Let me educate you - I was glassed in the face in 1992 in a pub through no fault of my own, two drunk guys having an argument at the bar behind me, I turned round to see what the noise was about, then I realised something wet was running down my face on to my top. My friend started screaming and everyone was looking at me. I won’t bore you with the other details as I wouldn’t want to waken your ‘curiosity’ any further.

So, let’s answer your question shall we?

But I know so many women who spend hours a week on their face. The time, the effort and the expense seems to be immense. I just don't get it. Why spend so long applying expensive paint to your face? Why not just look how you look?

I don’t like the scars on my face that’s why I don’t want look how I look.

I spend hours applying what you call “paint” to fill in the scars.

I spend time to cover the scars because quite frankly I hate them. I also didn’t want my children having to answer questions on my scars. And before you ask people do ask. People stare and I wouldn’t like to scare any children either.

People wear make up for many reasons. HTH.

heartsinvisiblefury · 11/03/2024 19:25

For a lot of people make up can be a mask for imperfections and can make people feel less on show. If I had perfect skin I'm sure I'd be happy to go without but I look tired and washed out without it and I need it to cover blemishes and bad skin. I'd LOVE to go without but can't.

Cleaningupthemess · 11/03/2024 19:25

Right. I feel like hrs a week is a waste of life honestly

I think hours spent on a games console or watching hour after hour of tv, a waste of a life. But you like what you like and who is any one to say what is or isn’t a waste of time/ life? You could say the whole of human life is a waste of time. We all die, we all are forgotten after a few centuries, so what’s the point of anything ?

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 11/03/2024 19:25

@AllProperTeaIsTheft

I understand that. I'm asking about people who feel they must wear makeup every day.

Confused Lots of people have blemishes and other skin imperfections all the time and therefore wear make-up every day.

Blueblueblueblueblu · 11/03/2024 19:25

HappierTimesAhead · 11/03/2024 19:24

I honestly don't think OP is coming at this from a judgy point of view but could be wrong 🤷

They literally just called it a waste of life sooo... They might want to be more mindful if they aren't wanting to come across that way

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:24

@HappierTimesAhead

I get that, I'm sure I could look a lot better if I could apply makeup skillfully. But then I wouldn't look like me so what would be the point?

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HappierTimesAhead · 11/03/2024 19:24

I honestly don't think OP is coming at this from a judgy point of view but could be wrong 🤷

NewUser1111 · 11/03/2024 19:24

I do wear make-up every day and wouldn’t go out without it voluntarily. However it takes me roughly three minutes every morning: foundation, blusher, mascara and eyeliner. So I’m not sure I’m the sort of person you’re wondering about. I wear it because it helps make me looks less tired and pale, gives definition to my eyes and generally (I think) makes me look a bit better (though that could be psychological I guess.)

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:23

@Midnlghtrain

I'm not trying to put anyone down. Yours sounds like a healthy mindset.

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StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips · 11/03/2024 19:23

You could say the same about anything though, why do people spend ages on their hair, or lots of money on clothes, or have tattoos or piercings.....

Because people like to look a certain way and enjoy shopping/having tattoos/putting on makeup.

Why do you need to understand? Different folk like different things.

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HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:22

@pinksheetss

Hadn't thought of it that way

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Midnlghtrain · 11/03/2024 19:22

@HuckleberryBlackcurrant

Phew 😂 so many times people try saying "oh I don't understand how people feel the need to wear makeup" as a way to put people who want to wear it down, you'll see it on this forum often I find.

Makeup is honestly really fun to me and others - I love how I look without it, I also love how I look with it. I enjoy seeing what other people can do with it and love getting a compliment on mine. It's like self care, it's calming and time to myself in the morning. I'm not saying I wear a full face every day, mine is normally quite neutral - but it's soothing to do!

I used to have to wear a full face when leaving the house every day, I wouldn't pop to the shops without it. I think it felt a bit like a mask back then, with it I felt confident and like I could do anything - without it I definitely didn't. Now I've had a huge mindset change and I love how I look, so it's all about enhancing or playing with my face rather than covering anything up.

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:22

@PuppyMonkey

I don't see what makeup has to do with hygiene and basic grooming....unless we have been conditioned to think that women need to wear makeup to be 'presentable'.

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HappierTimesAhead · 11/03/2024 19:22

dreamygirl25 · 11/03/2024 19:20

Wearing make up stops the 'are you ill?' 'you look tired' etc etc etc comments I get when going about without it.

😂I empathise, it's like when I don't put a bit of fake tan on my face or don't draw my eyebrows on (I look like a different person)!

dreamygirl25 · 11/03/2024 19:20

Wearing make up stops the 'are you ill?' 'you look tired' etc etc etc comments I get when going about without it.

pinksheetss · 11/03/2024 19:20

Make up can be a form of art and expression for people, even your general day to day wear. It's an enjoyable process for most. It's also a form of self love for some people and if it provides confidence to people then so be it

So the hours 'wasted' might not seem wasted to others when it's an enjoyable process

HappierTimesAhead · 11/03/2024 19:20

I also think it depends how skilled you are at applying makeup. Some women I see on Instagram can make themselves look AMAZING because they are so talented at applying makeup. If I was that talented I would probably wear it everyday too!
Whereas some people haven't mastered the skill or they are buying the wrong makeup so they don't really see the full impact? (No judgement, I am mediocre at doing my own makeup)

PuppyMonkey · 11/03/2024 19:20

I put a bit of make up on before I leave the house, it makes me look better. It takes me about 5 minutes. Just like I brush my hair before I leave the house because that makes me look better too.

don’t you do a few things to make yourself look more presentable before you go to work or meet a friend OP? Or do you just turn up straight from your bed without brushing your hair or teeth or choosing clothes or anything? Confused

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 11/03/2024 19:19

@Gibs0nGirl I really don't understand how anyone can enjoy putting makeup on. I can easily spend an hour doing it and still look shit.

I want to enjoy it as much as you do, I have watched many tutorials and still can't make it look nice. How did you learn?

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:19

@AllProperTeaIsTheft

I understand that. I'm asking about people who feel they must wear makeup every day.

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AllProperTeaIsTheft · 11/03/2024 19:18

I should add that I am by no means a pretty woman. I would say probably below average, and I do have facial blemishes. I've just ceased to care about covering them up I suppose.

So you don't understand why some people want to conceal blemishes etc, even though you say you used to wear more make-up to do exactly that?

PersephonePomegranate23 · 11/03/2024 19:17

Wow, you're so cool and not like all the other women. 🙄

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