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To think most make up is a waste of time?

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HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:03

I've never been a girly girl, never seen the point of tanning, nails, fashionable clothes, makeup etc. I do wear makeup on occasion, but it takes me 5 minutes to apply- some powder, a little mascara and maybe some lip tint.

I used to use more makeup to cover blemishes when a teenager.

But I know so many women who spend hours a week on their face. The time, the effort and the expense seems to be immense. I just don't get it. Why spend so long applying expensive paint to your face? Why not just look how you look? Men don't go through all this nonsense and somehow we are able to stand to look at their bare faces.

I know some people are going to say makeup is their hobby, they enjoy it, fine. I'm more addressing those who feel they have to put it on before leaving the house every day.

Help me to understand!

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MsCactus · 11/03/2024 20:54

*I also love it

MsCactus · 11/03/2024 20:53

I hear you. But honestly people treat me completely differently when I wear makeup. And it doesn't take long to put on, maybe 5-10mins each morning. So it's worth it to me

DivergentTris · 11/03/2024 20:36

I'm like you OP, I don't get any of it and personally hate it, but I'm not so ignorant to think that everyone else should think like me. Some enjoy it, some, it boosts their confidence. Whatever their reasons for doing it, I respect their choices and I respect that everyone's choices and preferences are different.

Sparklfairy · 11/03/2024 20:19

I don't really get it either and wish I did tbh. People that are really 'into' make up and new techniques and experimenting look like they really have fun with it.

I put the bare minimum on so that I don't scare small children when out and about. Beyond that I feel like a toddler drawing on my own face.

Overtheatlantic · 11/03/2024 20:17

Why should anyone have to justify themselves to you? We’re not all the same. Ffs

Revelatio · 11/03/2024 20:17

Why does anyone do anything that’s not essential?! Generally because they like it and want to do it.

Make up is essentially artistic and a way of expressing yourself. It’s like piercing your ears, wearing certain clothes. It’s mostly fun for the people that like to do it.

ineedtogoshoppingnow · 11/03/2024 20:16

I'm one of those who doesn't like to leave the house without makeup, I look and feel a lot better with it on and it's not a waste of my time, I enjoy putting it on.
I probably spend around 30 minutes on hair and makeup before work each morning and around an hour if I'm going out, to just pop to Tesco then I can do it in 10 minutes. I've had this same routine since I was a teenager and I'm now in my 40's.
As to why I started, who knows?!? My mum never bothered. Someone mentioned nails being a waste of time, I disagree.. I love it when I can escape for half hour to the salon, same with getting my hair highlighted.

misssunshine4040 · 11/03/2024 20:10

I enjoy makeup, I like the results.
I like buying it, applying it and how it improves my appearance.
It makes me look polished and professional which is a must in my industry.

WandaWonder · 11/03/2024 20:07

It is all a waste of time for me so I don't do it we are not forced to wear it

GoodVibesHere · 11/03/2024 20:06

I find it a boring waste of time but I mean make-up in some form has been used for thousands of years, the ancient egyptians stained their eyebrows and wore a type of rouge on their cheeks. I don't know if that was just the females, or whether men used make up too. So there is something that compels 'us' to make-up our faces.

Squirrelsnut · 11/03/2024 19:54

I like a few minutes thinking about myself each morning. I like the pretty colours and textures. I like making my features more defined.

DinaofCloud9 · 11/03/2024 19:52

I haven't read all the replies but for me it's about looking different each day.

I love creating different looks, maybe a 50s style with eyeliner or more natural the next day then a more dramatic look.

I couldn't look exactly the same with the same hairstyle every day. It would bore me.

Sparklesocks · 11/03/2024 19:47

because some people like it. And want to do it.

You could replace make-up with all sorts in this question - why go for long country walks in cold/wet weather? Why spend loads of money on gourmet food? Why spend all your time digging up the garden? Why only go on holiday in the U.K.? And so forth.

It’s all the same answer - we all like different things and live in different ways. Something that is enjoyed by one person will seem a waste of time/money/effort to another.

Meowandthen · 11/03/2024 19:44

I look better with it, more alone and thus I feel better. It takes a matter of minutes unless I am going to a smart night out when I might spend a whole 10 minutes for fancy warpaint.

In my line of work it’s best to look polished so I have my nails done every three weeks, and forget about them in between, and always wear make up when meeting clients.

My time so my choice how I spend it. I think watching soap operas or trying to police how other women should look is a waste of time but each to their own.

samestyle · 11/03/2024 19:43

I've got fair eyebrows and lashes, I would wear less if I was darker naturally but they need defining
I'm not blessed with flawless skin due to acne scarring from my teens but a tinted moisturiser and a touch of bronzer to take off the ghostly white look just makes me feel more confident. Less than 10 mins in the morning max, I go for natural as possible but makes me look more polished and together.
I would feel a bit scruffy if I didn't wear make up.

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:43

@Namechange666

Yeah I get that, I look heaps better with it on too!

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HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:42

Thanks everyone for your insight. I still would consider makeup to be a waste of my time on the whole but I am understanding more of why people do think it's a worthwhile use of theirs.

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Namechange666 · 11/03/2024 19:41

The reason I do it is because quite frankly, I look better when I do.

I am have auburn hair naturally, so even though I have long thick lashes, they cannot be seen unless I wear mascara. Need help with my eyebrows too, especially since they are now microbladed.

On top of that, I have rosacea, so I wear makeup to even out my skin tone. I wear quite a natural look but I do like to enhance my features when I go out to dinner with my partner or drinks with my friends.

And most of all, I enjoy it. I enjoy looking at it, buying it, putting it on and displaying it on my dresser.

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:40

@Pinkflowers19

I am so sorry. Bullies are just the lowest of the low.

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HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:40

@Zola1

I understand objectively, I'm trying to talk to real people and get their thoughts. So far people have raised a lot of interesting points. I think that's one of the best parts of being human, trying to see things from someone else's point of view.

I haven't met many women who typically don't wear makeup so this has been very interesting.

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Pinkflowers19 · 11/03/2024 19:38

I wear a full face every day. I had really bad acne in my teenage years and was horribly bullied about it. I am left with some scarring although I'm told by the very few people who have seen my bare bace that it's not as bad as I think it is. If I was to leave the house without it I would instantly feel like that child being bullied all over again and feel people were staring and laughing although my adult self knows that isn't true I would still feel that way. Its my mask in both ways

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 11/03/2024 19:38

@Foxblue

Well said.

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Zola1 · 11/03/2024 19:37

Congrats, you're totally not like other girls

I very much doubt you need help to understand why some people prefer to wear makeup to leave the house

Foxblue · 11/03/2024 19:36

Among all the other reasons mentioned...

Because women are exposed to literally thousands of images from birth of beautiful women with flawless skin and enhanced facial features, with or without makeup, and this has increased tenfold with the Internet, and beauty is a billion dollar industry that is an incredibly well oiled machine at inventing new 'problems' to fix in order to sell product. Because newspapers and magazines deliberately seek out unflattering pictures of celebrity women's faces and skin in order to sell newspapers, solidifying the belief that if you look like these women there's something wrong you need to fix. People bully you at school for your face, your skin. There are men and women out there who will openly discuss how someone's skin looks horrible, or doesn't so and so look ill cos she's so pale etc.

... you know, capitalism and patriarchy?

DrJoanAllenby · 11/03/2024 19:35

I would look like Night of the Living Dead if I didn't wear make up.

Other than a couple of hospital stays I've worn make up every day since 1979.