To have still gone out yesterday?

You had your own plans in place, tough shit.

Up to him to entertain his kids.

I think it was pretty mean of you not to let them come for lunch. You didn't even try and ring restaurant to see if they could accommodate the extra two.
Seems a bit mean spirited to me generally

He's dreaming if he thinks any restaurant can accommodate three extra covers at the last minute!

The two days a restaurant is guaranteed to be full are Valentine's evening and Mother's Day lunchtime.

I remember Gordon Ramsay saying "any restaurant that isn't full for those two services should shut down now, they're never going to survive financially if they can't fully book the big two."

So it doesn't matter what he "thinks" you should have done, you had reservations and you kept them. He's a twit.

Your choice of words show what a bitter person you are. She merely stuck to her plans. Why should OP change her plans? The purpose is for mothers and their children to be together so that's what op did. Clearly bitter
@Ariona Give over - you think you have me sussed on that post
You have no idea
Bitter? That is pathetic

Hahahaha, well done OP for sticking to your boundaries.

Shock horror, poor man had to suddenly look after his own dc because all the women decided to do something they wanted to do on Mothers Day. I'm pleased your own mother got her wish of spending time with her child and granchild.

Does your DH no longer have his own mother as he could have taken his dc to see her.

Those who are saying you should have invited DSC - I don't know where you are, but in my part of the UK there is no way places would accept three extra heads on Mothers' Day. It gets rammed everywhere and booked well in advance!

Reading posts on MN it seems to be that Dsc always seem to be the priority and step mum is expected to drop all pre arranged plans to accommodate them to the detriment of her own DC, while the DH sits on his arse complaining that he actually has to parent his own kids 😡

You were being entirely reasonable OP, your husband not so much.
Hope you had a lovely day with your mother and child

So he was happy to have time to himself until his kid was there. At which point he wanted you to cancel your Mother's Day plans and rearrange them so you could also parent his child.

Nah he can fuck off with that.

lol this boils down to your DH not wanting to parent his children on his own - simple as that.

As he was more than happy to have some alone time before no?

He could have taken his children out himself and had some lunch with them - he could have easily dressed it up as it's a shame mum had to work and step mum is out with her mother too but lucky me as I get to have you all to myself!

That's an entire assumption on your part. Nothing OP has said indicates the kids were annoyed but DH was. Anyone with an ounce of common sense could have easily taken them out for lunch and to the cinema or something. Sounds like he just wanted an easier life.

Instead of patronising OP why don't you question why not hold their actual parents to the same standard? Why didn't step up and do something fun with them? Why did their mother chose not to spend the day with her kids?

The DSc's mother is taking the piss.

And so is your DH.

He should have said no.

Am pleased you stuck to your original plans - so many women end up cancelling what they want to do, in order to appease their cheeky fucker husbands!
I would also have gone to my mum's afterwards.

Mother's Day is for you to spend with your child and your mum - it would be totally unfair on her to change the dynamic of the day because someone who is a total stranger to her, decided to do overtime!

Nothing stopping your h from doing something nice with his own kids.

I'd think he had a point if your step dc lived with you full time and had no mum of their own in their lives, but since they do, it's not your responsibility to help your h mind them, when you already have plans.

Your h is taking the piss.

Please get over yourself! She didn't 'whisk' herself away. Your choice of words show what a bitter person you are. She merely stuck to her plans. Why should OP change her plans? The purpose is for mothers and their children to be together so that's what op did. Clearly bitter as you would rather take issue with Op rather than her own father who was probably too lazy to do something with his child and needed op there.

I agree!
Nothing wrong with saying 'wife is out with her mum and dc today, they had it planned already no knowing you'd be here, but this is great it means we can have a special daddy and child day today, what shall we do? Cinema? Farm trip? Theme park?'

Tricky one - thinking from the children's perspective you really send a message that they are not wanted

However the dad has sent a worse message - his response should have been " ah brilliant @KettleOFish is out today with her mum and dd so we can just have some time together - just us - what shall we do "

YANBU. Why should you have to jump and change plans just because your husband (who didn’t even care enough to attend your original Mother’s Day meal) says so.

he was miffed because he had to look after his child and didnt want to do it alone. You were right to stick to your guns.

OP had plans with her DC - how is it fair that she has to change her plans as DH suddenly wants to spend time with her NOW his DC are with them.

DH could easily take his DC out. Its not for OP to have to change her plans on her mothers day

It was mother's day.. Op isn't their dm.
End of the matter imo..

Asking his DC if they wanted to come along on your lunch would have been kind and inclusive. Maybe they would prefer 1:1 time with their dad anyway. BUT if he expected you to drop your plans to help him parent his child then YANBU.

I hope he used the time with his DC wisely and helped them create something nice (cake/card) for their mum who was working that day.

It was Mother’s Day. You already had plans with your mother. He has no grounds to be pissed off. None.

But he didn’t want to come before, right? He was happy for you to go alone until that meant he had DSC to look after on his own?

He just didn’t want to parent alone which is sad because he should have been looking forward to one on one time with his child.

Ironically, if he and his ex had stayed together, he would have had to spend Mother’s Day in exactly the same way if she had to work overtime.

Wasn't he just mad he had to actually parent yesterday?

Was he as pissed off their own dm wasn't arsed about spending the day with them? Good for you that your plans came first.