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To think son could have got me a Mother's Day card

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mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:32

Ds is 22 lives at home with 3 other siblings who all bought me flowers chocolate a nice meal and I won't lie I've been utterly spoiled.
Ds didn't bother again just said at 4pm oh yeah happy Mother's Day I couldn't get you anything because it's a Sunday.
He never actually bothers for anyone's birthday in the family.
Dh says we should stop bothering for his bday,
I'm starting to think he's right.

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mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:57

mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:54

He just never bothers with birthdays be it siblings, parents, grandparents, they all go by without any recognition, but he expects to be spoiled on his.

Not just birthdays, mothers/Father's Day. He did buy a box of after eight mints for the family to share for Christmas but only after seeing all the presents under tree and feeling last minute he ought to.

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lifebeginsaftercoffee · 10/03/2024 16:55

mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:54

He just never bothers with birthdays be it siblings, parents, grandparents, they all go by without any recognition, but he expects to be spoiled on his.

You need to stop. If he can't be arsed then why should you be?

Stonehill · 10/03/2024 16:55

mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:54

He just never bothers with birthdays be it siblings, parents, grandparents, they all go by without any recognition, but he expects to be spoiled on his.

But what about the other days, in between birthdays and whatnot? is he kind? is he generous? Is he dependable? if so, I don't think the birthdays matter at all, some people don't like them, and that is fine

DillDanding · 10/03/2024 16:54

That’s a bit rubbish. I’m not even in the same country as my sons right now and they still made sure to get me cards and gifts for Mother’s Day.

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mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:54

He just never bothers with birthdays be it siblings, parents, grandparents, they all go by without any recognition, but he expects to be spoiled on his.

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theduchessofspork · 10/03/2024 16:53

Stonehill · 10/03/2024 16:49

what is he like about other things, apart from special days? We don't celebrate mothers day or birthdays, but my son's are great in many ways. We just choose not to do days

The OP’s family does celebrate days, so he knows it’s important to her

theduchessofspork · 10/03/2024 16:52

Yes your DH is right

Stonehill · 10/03/2024 16:49

what is he like about other things, apart from special days? We don't celebrate mothers day or birthdays, but my son's are great in many ways. We just choose not to do days

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mumof4sweethearts · 10/03/2024 16:46

To be honest I wasn't expecting anything for one minute as I've never received a Mother's Day card or gift in from him.
I said don't worry after his excuse about it being Sunday and he said, well I wasn't worrying.
I just find it a bit rude that he can shrug it off as if we know what he's like but then go out and buy nice things to make him feel special for his birthday.
I think if we ignored his special day he'd be rather miffed.

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LolaSmiles · 10/03/2024 16:34

He could have got you a card, but you were probably being foolishly optimistic thinking he would when you say yourself that he doesn't bother for anyone's birthday in the family.

He sounds like he takes a consistently inconsiderate approach to family occasions.

Maray1967 · 10/03/2024 16:34

Yes. Your DH is right. It’s time (long since past, I’d say) that he gets a taste of his own medicine.

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