To find it embarrassing that my nans buys Mother’s Day presents?

It sounds like a nice gesture from your nan and a habit she's doing. You just need to tell her she doesn't need to do it now. To be fair, you should've done that a long time ago. You're 23 fgs. You said you started wanting to buy your own gifts at 18 - that's far too old imo. I was buying my own mum a gift in my early teens with no supervision. It sounds like you've let it carry on for too long.

Let your man buy a gift and you buy a gift aswell, give them all together….. I don’t see how this is such a dilemma

Just tell your Nan you aren't children and can buy your own mother a present. Make sure you appreciate the years she has done it for but tell her she needn't bother. If she doesn't listen then just get your own anyway. If it undermines her that serves her right for ignoring your request to stop. Tell her today so she knows not to do it next year.

Just get your mum a gift from you. I think this is one of those cases of, “if you want to be treated like an adult then just start acting like one.”

Learn to communicate with your family, tell your Nan that you’re choosing your own gift for your mum and then do it. If she shows up with someone she has bought, just remind her of what you said and produce your own gift.

I think it’s lovely, just add your own to it. Tell her it’s really sweet and you appreciate her doing this when you were a child and you think she’s amazing. Then maybe say we also got mum this to add to it. I don’t think that’s undermining her gift.

Was your mum a single parent when you were growing up? Did she buy the gift because your father didn’t? If so she is in the habit and I wouldn’t take it away from her. She may get joy from doing this.

I miss my grandmas so much - this will be one of those daft little stories you remember forever.

I think it’s nice. As a mum I am happy to receive lots of presents! Also, I am happy to receive cups of tea, cake, breakfast in bed and other meals I don’t have to cook, someone washing my car, etc etc. I think when your nan passes you will
look back fondly on this ritual.

Let her do it if it gives her pleasure.

It's normal for a relative to buy MD presents, if the children's father isn't doing it. It's discussed between me and my eldest, for my middle DD's children (LP). Your Nan is trying to spare you the bother, but you need to make it clear that it is something that you want to do for your Mum.

No, it's fine. Your nan wants to give your mum a gift. That's up to her. Give your mum something from you, entirely independently. If there's any confusion about who things are from be ckear what is from nan and what is from you. There's no ceiling on how much niceness a person can have in their life.

I wish my nana was still around to do things like this.

She was a fusspot, always worrying and always doing things we didn't need her to just because she always had done. It was lovely really.

I used to walk past her house on my way home from school and she would watch from the window to make sure I passed on time and was safe.

She used to buy me an Easter egg well into my 30s.

She used to block up my answer phone with endless voicemails saying "hi it's Nana ..... etc etc"

I'd give anything to have all that back.

Enjoy it, you will miss it when she's gone. And there's nothing at-all stopping you getting something for your mum yourself.

She has only tagged once, she does not keep tagging. The OP obviously does not know how mumsnet works and thinks this is like other social media where if you tag @everyone then all see the update or post. Obviously, a genuine error so no need to be so pas ag!

Same, although I've got mum still. I suspect she'll do the same as ops Nan. 2 pressies on Mothers day from my fave people who all cared enough to want to make sure i got something...I can't wait 😍 one of them had better be chocs tho!!

The crucial bit of info missing here, is is your Nan a nice, kind person or is she horrible?

If she's a lovely Nan then honestly? get over yourselves. She probably still thinks of you all as her grandkids who relied on her for stuff like this, maybe it helps her feel young, or useful, who cares. Buy your mum something anyway. Unless you all say "awww Nan, our present was much better" then how would she be undermined? Or even know?

If she's horrible then that's different and needs dealing with, either tell her to pack it in or buy your mum something anyway cos who cares if she's upset.

Fwiw to answer one of your questions, my Nana did this til i was 15 even though i was able to buy my mum a present. I never said anything because it was brill my lovely mum got 2 presents!! The only reason she stopped was she died suddenly about 2 weeks before the next Mothers day although I did find a ornament in a woolworths shopping bag in her bedroom when we went through her stuff that I suspected was for mum. It's one of my most treasured possessions now.

No, I really don't.

This made me smile. Yes it's embarrassing and ridiculous but I suspect you'll get nowhere because she likes doing it. Just give your Mum something else. Even if Nan feels undermined that's tough luck, you are allowed buy your own mother a gift! This reminds me of a friend whose Aunt used to buy a happy birthday card for her mum for her to give. She absolutely refused to give this up so much that when my friend moved to another city, she would post the card to my friend with a return stamp already on the envelope which my friend then had to sign and post 😂

You do have time to pop out and pick up something to kick start this - or take your mum out for tea?

She is wonderful mother to her daughter, a wonderful grandmother to you also. I wish i had even 1 female relative left in my life like that

YABU to think it is embarrassing. As an adult you need to tell your Nan that you are very grateful that she made sure you and your Sister had presents to give to your Mum when you were little but you will buy them from now on as she has spent enough. Take her a lovely bunch of flowers as a thank you.

Who is it you keep tagging?

I have never had a nan so I wouldn’t know.

But my mum doesn’t buy presents for me on behalf of my children as my partner does it. Does your mum have a partner? If not, I think it’s lovely that your nan stepped up and made sure your mum always got a present. But now you are 18 I think it’s fine to get your own presents for your mum. You can mention to your nan that from now on, you will be getting your mum presents but she is welcome to also do so. This way you are not undermining her, but she can carry on if she likes. Maybe she is a bit overbearing or maybe she just likes buying presents 😊 either way it’s better than nobody caring.

No, never. When I was a child (ten and younger) I picked some flowers for her and made a card. Why on earth would my mum expect my dad or grandmother to get something..it’s just very weird. How did you even get to this age and still let it happen!?

So what if it does!? Don’t be a doormat.

Just buy your own AND gift the flowers from nan. Win, win for your mum! Once your nan can see you're all capable adults, she'll stop buying them!

I would take your mum for a nice lunch as the present from you so she doesn’t end up with loads of stuff but gets time with you all.

No, you are all grown women you can do what you like, I'm assuming your mum knows she buys these gifts what does she say about it, I think its sweet though and I would have a word with her and say Nan we can manage.