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To not want to give DD money to go get clothes?

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FreckleHeckle · 09/03/2024 12:01

On her own?
She's 15 and has no real concept of money

She wants to go shopping with her friend to buy some clothes but I just know she won't try any of it on (hates changing rooms) will buy totally impractical stuff.

She loves vintage but in the way that a coat from a ' cool vintage shop' for £65 would be super cool but the SAME coat in a charity shop or carboot for £10 would be gross.

And yes I've told her a million times where vintage shops get their stock 😂😂

Obviously she is getting to the age where I have to just let her but I'm dreading to see what she comes back with, especially considering money isn't exactly bountiful right now.

I also remember my mum giving me £100 when I was 15 to go get school shoes, bag and a coat and coming back with a Shaun the Sheep bag and a tonne of CDs 😂😂😂

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FinallyFeb · 09/03/2024 12:05

How about a monthly allowance and when it’s gone it’s gone?

You could still pay for her basics and she uses the money for any extra things she wants.

FreckleHeckle · 09/03/2024 12:05

VickyEadieofThigh · 09/03/2024 12:03

Does she need new clothes? If not, why are you giving her money?

She absolutely does, she's had a growth spurt and a change of heart in a fashion style that I'm really glad she seems to be putting behind her, so am fully encouraging of a new wardrobe.

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FlickFlackTrap · 09/03/2024 12:04

I appreciate it’s difficult OP but this is a time where she needs to start learning to budget.
agree with her what she needs and give her them money to cover it. Make it clear there will be no more money and she will have to make do for however long you see fit. If she wants anything else or buys the wrong stuff she’ll need to fund it herself.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/03/2024 12:04

Why, at 15, does she have no concept of money? When are you planning to teach her?

VickyEadieofThigh · 09/03/2024 12:03

Does she need new clothes? If not, why are you giving her money?

FreckleHeckle · 09/03/2024 12:02

I will give her the money but I just wish she was still of an age I could chaperone 😂

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