my attitude on this 1st date?

I agree with you as he just had to lower the tone and none of his business at that early stage asking you such a personal question and really shows you what his intentions were. Keep up your strong boundaries.

Creepy?

60% of men and 43% of women have sex on the first date

let alone discuss it

Why is it creepy discussing sex on a date.

I got asked the same on a date before and I thought it was a red flag, I still
carried on speaking for a while after and there were so many more red flags that I wished I’d of done what you did on the first date. Yanbu

The thing is, regardless of whether OP should have just upped and gone or said goodbye, red flags were raised for her. One person’s red flag is not necessarily someone’s else’s but mentioning sex like that within an hour was a red flag to OP and enough to put her off. It’s good to see someone with the courage of their convictions when it comes to red flags. How many of us would like to go back in time and leave at our first potential red flag.

Yep. She should have just giggled and simpered then told him about how often she gets the rabbit out obviously.

Thats what he really wanted her to tell him let’s be honest

Firstly I think you've misunderstood the point about the bar being set low. It's nothing to do with thinking any one is beneath me.

Secondly it's amusing that you castigate the supposed rudeness by being extremely rude yourself.

Oh gosh. How terrible of OP making a creepy bloke feel bad.

So predictably depressing for MN to resort to the 'low bar' or 'low standards' rhetoric just because not everyone has a stick up their arse.

You do realise it's possible to feel differently about something without insinuating that the other person is somehow beneath you, don't you?

I agree.Very creepy.

Good for you! He is an idiot!

I skipped from the second page to here but those very words about the bar being set very low are ringing round my head too.

OP, I get it.

Well context is everything I guess. If both parties have hit it off and had been sparring off each other playing devils advocate in a cheeky flirty fashion then it could be okay.

Sounds a bit creepy mentioning sex on a first date. You dodged a bulllet I think.

I'd have laughed and said 'I will introduce you to my rabbit sometime.'

Honestly, you did overreact.

What did he say/do when you were putting on your coat/picking up your bag?

I think you did the right thing by the way...I once got talking to a guy on a hobby forum, turned out we worked for the same very big company, he asked me to send a picture to see if he recognised me...and I got a dick pic in response.

This was a guy who had been with his partner for about 15 years at that point. At no point in our previous conversation had I given even the SLIGHTEST hint that I was flirting etc with him.

I would have said fuck off when I was leaving, too.

There have been a couple of posts similar to this recently, including an OP who got stood up in the bar by a date she then accused of angling for a threesome. I think posters are questioning you storming out without a word @ricollete because women have been conditioned to capitulate to what men want and they can't get their head round the idea of walking out on a date that a man's asked them on. It's a shame you blocked him though – I'm dying to know whether he now accepts the question was far too forward for a first date. Hopefully you've done the next woman he dates a favour and he'll think before he speaks.

In a long term relationship so hopefully don’t need that.

Just to clarify; it’s fine for me to ask about sex, but not him?

Im more likely to have sex with someone in a first date than I am to procreate with them. I don’t care what someone relationship is like with their mother or their ex since I will not be having sex with either of those people. However, I would like to know if someone is vanilla or kinky so I might keep that one.

I get it OP. I possibly wouldn’t have reacted in the same way but I totally understand why you did.

You did right for you and that’s what’s important. Too many people ignore their gut instinct or drop their boundaries for men so well done in keeping yours

I’d have just said “that’s a bit forward considering I don’t know you”, and then explained he made me feel uncomfortable so I was going home now. Bye.

I am a young widower

Hopefully that was autocorrected from "widow" ?

I don't normally pick on people's typos, but that really is a strange one

Don't worry OP, it's just the bar is pretty low on MN when it comes to men.

I have too and told I’m either lying or I must be absolutely gagging for it by now

Ok, so women are just as bad and inappropriate when dating 😳

I think it's actually pretty mean of you to walk out like that. I would feel awful if that was me and be so embarrassed I probably would lose confidence to go on a date again for a while.

You could have just said something like ... look I think that's a really inappropriate question. I don't think we're suited after all. And then ended the date in a normal way. Walking out without a word though!? That's so rude.