my attitude on this 1st date?

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks - that’s how you felt and you acted upon it. You have every right to feel whatever - and also you’re fine to change your thinking and mind too along the way. My view, as you’re seeking views - it all comes done to tone and how we’re getting on. I’m quite open sexually generally and know pretty quickly how i feel around someone, if I feel comfortable or not. I tend to think first dates aren’t even first dates - they are pre first dates. It’s too much of a weird situation, everyone is a bag of nerves, especially if you’ve never met someone IRL before. He may have been nervous, thought before he spoke - it’s all speculation. What maybe I would suggest is you message him to let him know how you felt and to say it’s not going to work out, obvious from your actions. However whatever you feel is right will be the right thing to do.

Of course it’s normal

When nearly half of first daters actively have sex, let alone discuss it on the first date.

If someone said to me they’d been single with no dates for 3 years I’d sure be curious to whether they were celibate.

Well done you. I would have done the same.

Is it? I think it is incredibly funny that posters in the UK where asking upfront about class or income are forbidden thinks asking bluntly about sex on the first date is normal. Its quite presumptuous, really.

Thats not to say people aren’t curious about all those things but there is a delicate social dance around finding out rather than blunt “how do you afford that?”

Why? She wasn't going to see him again and doesn't owe him anything. Why should she have to be polite to a guy who didn't show her the same courtesy? It's not her job to educate him to be better.

I think there's two issues;

1. Is it appropriate to ask a question about OPs sex life on a first date in response to OP saying she hadn't been in a relationship or been on a date in x years

1. Is it appropriate for OP to leave without any explanation

1. I think it's too prying for the date to have asked OP the question, but that's a very personal boundary and actually in the context of the discussion it's not off topic. However, I don't think it's an absolute red flag, just something that I wouldn't like.

2.To me this shows how a person deals with questions they find uncomfortable and how they communicate.

@Helfs Even if you’re looking for a LTR it’s perfectly normal and expected to discuss sex on the first date.

Never in my 15 years doing OLD I’ve discussed sex on a first date, (that includes masturbation habits), that doesn’t mean I’ve never slept with someone on a first date (yes I have, just not from OLD). Even with the couple of guys I ended in bed on that first date sex and our masturbation habits were not discussed, that’s just weird.

Well the OP herself stated it’s a date

Even if you’re looking for a LTR it’s perfectly normal and expected to discuss sex on the first date.

Asking a normal questions based on what the OP offered up is not the issue here

Ditto. My profile clearly states not interested in hook ups or ONS however some men see that as a challenge to make an exception for them.

It’s not a line for a first date imo. There’s a million more interesting things to talk about than what each other does with their genitals .

At least his intentions were obvious quickly so you didn’t waste any more time with him. Everyone is different.

I think it all depends what you mean by a "date".

Some people on OLD are looking for an LTR, others just want a "hookup".

I was very clear on my profile that I wanted an LTR.

It didn't stop some guys being "inappropriate" on the 'phone but at least I got the chance to eliminate them before I met them.

I am baffled that anyone thinks YABU. His question is not only inappropriate but it shows lack of judgement and self-awareness.

On a date it sure is.

It’s too much to ask that on a first date …intrusive and crude. But l wouldn’t have walked out, it might have been nerves or just a silly thoughtless comment . You had been speaking before so l might have waited to see how the rest of the date went ?

How rude of him. It’s such an inappropriate question. You did the right thing.

Would I have responded like this? No.

Do I think you were unreasonable for responding this way? Also no.

@ricollete What is beyond the pale for you isn't for me; neither of us is wrong.

Anyway I’m happy with my decision

i don’t think there was really any need to ask for opinions in this case

You do sound a bit sensitive. Were you embarrassed by the question? If you liked the guy, perhaps you could have given him five more minutes to correct himself. If you didn’t really care to get to know him, then making a quick exit saved everybody time, including him.

No one is saying she was wrong for leaving. It's the overly dramatic and rude manner in which she did. Unnecessary and very ugly behaviour

I would see it as that’s all he’s looking for and asking what she does about sex while she’s been single is far too personal.

Surely there’s a lot more conversations to get to know someone without basically asking about their masturbation habits within the first hour.

It hugely depends on what chat you've had before you get to meet. Sex is important to me; I'd like a partner to whom it is also important. It's an inappropriate question to some, but not everyone.

Not unreasonable. I’m a man and wouldn’t have like that either.

I'm sorry but at a first time meeting someone, that is absolutely NOT a "reasonable" question! I can't believe that anyone actually believes it is!!

She didn't make her point though did she. Just went off in a huff without telling him what he did to offend

I would find this unacceptable on a first date too. It’s like he was testing your boundaries and you did the right thing by leaving. Well done.