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Husbands constant eating

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mummyp1310 · 08/03/2024 22:18

Long story cut short!
Hubby used to be 23st, took up running and diet 4 years ago, he lost 9 st in 8 months (which I am so proud of him for) But lately he is eating constantly, today I had a/l and actually witnessed what he is eating, Porridge and a banana for breakfast, then left over pasta from last night, followed by some cold meat, then a full packet of chicken satay, followed by a hot cross bun, then he worked for a while, then some more cold meat, run then some more cold meat, followed by his lunch (worked some more, going out for dinner tonight! Another 1/2 packet of chicken satay, then a massive bowl of pasta with garlic bread, all washed down with 6 pints then some cold meat and a hot cross bun when we got home!
I may be being a little jealous but does this sound like a massive amount of food for one person to consume even though he is running?
I am just a bit peed off as usually my daughter 10yold like something before bed but as it stands there's nothing more than chicken nuggets left as he is eating everything in gods name (correctly on my 10th packet of cold meat since Sunday)!

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soupfiend · 08/03/2024 23:02

Im failing to see the problem to be honest.

He uses a lot of calories so consumes a lot of calories, like most people who do a lot of exercise. He will have quite a high muscle mass presumably.

My OH eats a lot, he walks a lot at work, around 10-12 miles a day. He eats what seems a huge amount to me but isnt putting on weight, very slowly losing weight, probably around 1lb every couple of months (when you get old your appetite reduces and he is also on diabetic medication to reduce appetite).

Bellyfullofbiscuits · 08/03/2024 22:53

Do you think he could be bullemic? That's a lot of food and not 'that'. Much ruining?

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mummyp1310 · 08/03/2024 22:35

FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain · 08/03/2024 22:31

When you say 'lately' how long has it been going on for?

It's been cold, dreary and grey for what seems like forever and lots of people have colds. Both of those things tend to make me feel starving hungry, like I've got hollow legs. Any chance it's just a temporary thing because he's feeling extra hungry for some reason?

Since he lost the weight 4 years ago bit has been worse the last 6 months, nothing to do with weather, just seems like he's back to how he was when he was fat but running now so he can eat too much!x

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ncfoedthois · 08/03/2024 22:34

OP the problem isn't his eating but his failure to plan. Which is surprising as athletic people usually watch what they eat!
If he needs more protein etc he should really be consuming a protein shake not eating lots of cold meats which are processed and not very healthy anyway.
Can he buy his own snacks/food that's separate, so the rest of you don't get surprised by an empty fridge?

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mummyp1310 · 08/03/2024 22:33

Just to add, it's not cold meat but anything is game, anything in the fridge is easy pickings, I'm just so fed up of having nothing in for any of us bit not sure about raising the issue as I know he had a weight problem before (too heavy) and he is burning calories while running, but a simple you need to buy more of ......... wouldn't go amiss!x

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FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain · 08/03/2024 22:31

When you say 'lately' how long has it been going on for?

It's been cold, dreary and grey for what seems like forever and lots of people have colds. Both of those things tend to make me feel starving hungry, like I've got hollow legs. Any chance it's just a temporary thing because he's feeling extra hungry for some reason?

DNLove · 08/03/2024 22:29

If he's consuming that much cold meats I'd buy a joint of ham and boil/bake it and get a meat slicer to cut it thin. Works out much cheaper and it's proper ham slices.

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mummyp1310 · 08/03/2024 22:28

theduchessofspork · 08/03/2024 22:23

He will put weight back on if he eats like that. But that is an eating disorder - compulsive overeating.

The BEAT website is good so maybe have a look at that and then talk to him about it

That's the thing, he has kept the weight off for almost 4 years eating like this and hasn't put any back on, he runs at least 5k per day, some days 10k then 13 miles at the weekend and he is actually losing a few more pounds for his marathon, maybe I am being silly but it is just the lack of communication with what he is eating that is annoying me, as I go into the fridge for something and it's gone, I buy food for all of us but if I knew I was running low on something then I would make sure I had enough!x

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Rumbunctious · 08/03/2024 22:27

It sounds like he has some sort of issue tbh. I’d have said something about the amount of cold meat especially if he left nothing for my children to eat. That’s just greed. I couldn’t sit and watch someone wolfing food like that without saying something of it was impacting others in the house.

Minkyfalinkinky · 08/03/2024 22:26

Over eating is normally down to stress/mental health. I would be speaking to him about seeing a therapist.

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mummyp1310 · 08/03/2024 22:24

Yeah, that cold meat, I'm spending a fortune (although he does earn 3 times what I do, I roughly spend £6 per day on it for 3 of us, but in reality he eats most of it! ( bit annoyed tonight as I but cheap cold meat for a treat for the dog to go up to bed) and tonight I'm having to give her nothing as he has ate it all 🤷‍♀️!x

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theduchessofspork · 08/03/2024 22:23

He will put weight back on if he eats like that. But that is an eating disorder - compulsive overeating.

The BEAT website is good so maybe have a look at that and then talk to him about it

YouJustDoYou · 08/03/2024 22:21

DO you mean "cold meat" as in packaged sliced ham etc? Because damn, that (and that pre-packed chicken satay stuff) gets expensive. If he's noshing his way through all that in just one day then that's costing you all a pretty penny no?

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