Husbands constant eating

I use protein powder myself, it has nothing in it but protein. I put it in my food.

But the poster specifically said 'protein shakes' and I havent found one single one without artificial sweetners.

@soupfiend you can buy plain unflavoured unsweetened protein powder from all the places you get protein shakes/drinks online. Then you can add whatever you like to it, fruit etc, even put it in savoury soups

Have you spoken to him about it? I would be asking him to go to the shops and buy some more stuff seeing as he's emptied the fridge, and reminding him that other people in the house want to eat the food too!

I am just a bit peed off as usually my daughter 10yold like something before bed but as it stands there's nothing more than chicken nuggets left as he is eating everything in gods name (correctly on my 10th packet of cold meat since Sunday)!

he sounds very self-centred if he spends his whole time on himself, going out running, then eating so much that his child has to go without. Has he always been so selfish?

People are getting very focused on his nutrition but I think the actual issue is he’s being selfish.

i’d sit him down and say you really need him to start being responsible for his own snacks because it’s leaving the rest of you in the lurch.

if you shop online can you make him download the app and add what he needs to the basket?

have a shelf in the fridge which is his and one which is for the rest of you?

if he can’t manage to be considerate about his families food then he probably does need some help with disordered eating…

Love the way everyone wants to try to pathologise someones eating (a common theme on this forum) and decides they know already what the blokes eating even though OP hasnt really set out what it is

I can understand him needing some extra food due to his active lifestyle, but does he realise how much he’s fucking himself with all of the sodium in the packaged ham/satay?! Really, really unhealthy to eat so much processed shit.

When my oh used to eat a lot for sport he cooked chicken breastst to have with rice. Also eggs are good. Chicken thighs are cheaper.
Processed meats are not so healthy for all sorts of reasons.
Come at it carefully in 2 ways - one is that you need 'family food' so you always know there is something for the kids, pets and you.
The second is from a health and cost perspective. There is so much online about meal prepping.
Protein powder is controversial- I'm not a fan - however it is a cost effective way of getting protein and some are purer than others. It's quick and convenient.

You need to talk to him. I'd be worried about his emotional state.

Don't buy pre packet meats for him to snack on, do as I do, cheap chicken drumsticks - £3kg - roast them and leave them in the fridge. Also hard boil eggs

Hes taking the protein he needs thats all. just hes doing it the expensive way

I snack on cold cooked meats when Im hungry, as does DH. Saves reaching for the crisps and biscuits. I have bought packets if out and about and the hunger has come on, Id rather eat a packet of cold meat then head into a bakers

I also make a couple of KG of yoghurt every week as Im not too keen on cold eggs and find yoghurt keeps up the calcium

Long story cut short!

what’s the “long story”

He ate a shit tonne of shit food and did no exercise and was enormously fat

He stopped eating a shit tonne of shit food and started exercising daily and lost a load of this fat. He’s now 14 stone.

Has he begun to eat more or has he always eaten this quantity of healthy food and managed to lose weight.

If the former, he will begin to put on weight but unlikely to ever even remotely reach of echelons of 23 whopping stone given he’s exercising and his intake is of decent enough food

your daughter but not his?
you pay for the food and he eats 3x as much?

he sounds like a keeper

Is he doing more running than usual? I find running and swimming makes me starving weight training makes me not want to eat for hours after? I’m just trying to think of why he’s a bit more peckish? Is he anxious about anything? I went through a phase a couple of years ago where eating used to calm me down and it was a vicious cycle but I did manage to break it with distractions wasn’t easy!

He’s clearly very active, and managing his weight, so it’s not a lot for him. Either leave him to the shopping or make sure enough in.

He’s hungry he need to plan he’s grabbing anything rather than stuff that will fill him

average man will need 2500 cals plus
12 miles run walking 1000 cals

so depending how tall he is he’ll need between 3500/4000 cals which is about twice as much as an average woman

It sounds like he's taken one compulsive behaviour (binge eating) and added another (eating and running). Running every day isn't healthy, it's obsessive. Does he have an addictive personality and was previously someone who got a high from binge eating, and is now constantly chasing the endorphins that exercise gives him, or does he have more of an eating disorder? Compulsive, excessive exercise can be a symptom.

Does he ever not go for a run? What happens if say he's on holiday, or plans mean that he can't go for a run? Is he bothered or does he get moody and go anyway?

Can you encourage him to spend some time looking at proper nutrition for his level of physical activity? Maybe see some kind of sports dietician? My husband is also athletic and has high muscle mass, and his base metabolic rate is astonishing compared to mine (i.e. he eats a lot just to maintaining muscle mass). But, he spent quite a lot of time figuring out exactly how much protein, fat, and carbs that he needs and he supplements a lot with protein shakes (literally just unsweetened protein powder with water or diluted milk) so that he doesn’t need to do things like eat vast amounts of chicken. Your husband might be craving protein but there’s actually not enough in foods like ham compared to the amount of fat and water that they contain.

Ingesting enormous amounts of sodium via processed meats every day will catch up with him eventually. So if he keeps eating like this, have him check his blood pressure frequently.

Many athletes eat eggs, yogurt, and nuts for protein snacks. Those would be much healthier, and probably also cheaper.

it sounds like he’s burning more then he’s eating if he’s not gaining weight - I’m just surprised at how much processed food he’s eating

Yes, or could he have an over-active thyroid?

Possible health issues aside, the only real issue seems to be that there isn't enough food - particularly high protein food - in the house for his needs. It's fairly easily fixed!

Have you got an air fryer? He can roast a chicken in 40 minutes, eat that all day. For variety get hams as suggested, supermarket beef joints when they're on offer, pork roasts. It's all high-quality protein and there's nothing easier than cooking joints of meat. They can all be air fried, actually (you'll need a meat thermometer) or slow/pressure cooked.

FWIW, I eat mountains of food and don't gain weight. I'm sedentary. Most of what I eat is lean meat, eggs and veg. Back when I exercised a lot, I was permanently hungry and a size eight, on three full meals a day plus grazing in between 😂 Exercising hard raises your metabolic rate all day, and muscle needs a lot of food.

So if DH runs hot, it could be his athletic metabolism or his thyroid! Or both, I guess 🤔

I have been doing a slimming world diet and out of the list of foods you listed most of it would be free/low syn except the pints and hot cross bun.

My partner is active and very muscular and he eats what I do sticking to my diet plan but also snacks on nuts and drinks milkshakes and often has an evening meal then supper. He seems to be eating constantly but never gains weight and sometimes even loses it.

It sounds like the main issue you have is the expense and inconvenience when he’s doing his “very hungry caterpillar” impression.
Ask him to come food shopping with you and let him know when he’s eating food you had planned for other things. My partner asks for permission before he goes on a fridge rampage which is great because I give him anything going out of date. I understand we can’t all have our partners as well trained though 😂

The amount he is eating to one side - I definitely think the shelf in the fridge idea is good as it is very selfish to eat everything and no -one else has anything.

Is he taking anti-depressants, OP? I know some can make you absolutely ravenous!

Label the food. Get some stickers.