Husbands constant eating

He drank 6 pints?! Of what? Is it physically possible for a person to actually drink that much?!

Sounds like he’s done great getting himself healthy.
Do a meal plan or shopping together- he isn’t eating too much or he’d be gaining weight. If he’s leaving the fridge empty need to shop better make sure there’s enough protein in. And ask him to be a bit more considerate.

You said this twice now

Who are you to say how much is enough or too much?

OP also set out (although hasnt been back, frustrating) that he isnt overweight, is still losing some weight and has good health when he goes for his MOT)

So how come you've decided he's eating too much?

Its certainly made of cow. Ive tried all myriad of whey and pea proteins and unfortunately they clump badly and are unusable for me as I dont drink shakes. Its protein though, contains all the right amino acids (although the collagen powder is missing 2 of the essential ones but I have those in my diet anyway)

All those nitrates in those cold cuts can cause cancer.

@THisbackwithavengeance

it is unhealthy and greedy what he’s eating though

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He's not gaining weight.

He obviously needs the calories if he's training like that.

He's eating protein, much better and healthier than toast or crisps or carb stuff and less likely to raise his blood sugar.

He's a high earner and can afford the extra food.

Honestly, it wouldn't occur to me to be even slightly bothered about this.

But of course it's MN and anyone who eats more than about 1200 kcal a day is disgusting, unhealthy and greedy.

Running 5km only takes 30 mins. Not sure how he's getting it up to 12 miles through the day if he's working full time? That is a vast amount of calories if he's eating that volume every day.

distance runner here and whilst 5k or even 10k a day doesn’t sound excessive, if you’re doing it every day and longer runs at weekend and other walking then hes going to need a decent amount of fuelling and refuelling. Despite his weight loss, he’s still a decent sized bloke and they burn way more calories than women for the same amount of exercise. I don’t do anything like that amount of exercise but some days no amount of good satisfies my hunger! It seems like he’s going down the protein route a lot but all that processed meat isn’t healthy (or cheap) and i personally don’t find the “protein keeps you fuller for longer” thing works if you do a lot of cardio. Is he drinking enough because that can often make you feel hungry after exercise.

People who are putting this vast amount of gorging on hot cross buns, 6 pints of beer, and whole packets of processed meat down to ‘being athletic’ have missed 3 vital points:

• The DH isn’t ‘athletic’ just because he’s no longer morbidly obese & diabetic. Losing weight is great, but he’s still 14+ stone, and I doubt he’s ‘athletic’
• The type of foods & alcohol he’s consuming aren’t aligned with a training / athletic diet. They’re storing up problems for bowel cancer, and a whole host of other issues linked to excess UPF’s / salt / additives / alcohol sugars
• DH clearly has a personality which does things to the extreme (eating to 24stone, then dieting vastly, then running every day, and now eating certain things almost compulsively - this is a pattern of behaviour, not just someone who randomly starts eating lots of packets of ham because they fancy it….. this pattern of extremes is never healthy, and describing it as ‘what athletic types do’ is untrue.

People who are putting this vast amount of gorging on hot cross buns, 6 pints of beer, and whole packets of processed meat down to ‘being athletic’ have missed 3 vital points:

• The DH isn’t ‘athletic’ just because he’s no longer morbidly obese & diabetic. Losing weight is great, but he’s still 14+ stone, and I doubt he’s ‘athletic’
• The type of foods & alcohol he’s consuming aren’t aligned with a training / athletic diet. They’re storing up problems for bowel cancer, and a whole host of other issues linked to excess UPF’s / salt / additives / alcohol sugars
• DH clearly has a personality which does things to the extreme (eating to 24stone, then dieting vastly, then running every day, and now eating certain things almost compulsively - this is a pattern of behaviour, not just someone who randomly starts eating lots of packets of ham because they fancy it….. this pattern of extremes is never healthy, and describing it as ‘what athletic types do’ is untrue.

@retinolalcohol

disagree

people can eat an excess of calories that are not needed and still not gain weight

no one needs to eat as much as OP’s husband it’s just gluttony

If he's not gaining weight and he's been eating this for a while, he's eating pretty much exactly what his body needs for his level of activity.

I started running a while ago and have found I am absolutely starving most of the time - I eat significantly more than I did before. I try to keep my protein up so it's not strange for me to eat more than 4 'cuts' of meat a day - chicken breasts, steak etc.

He is being selfish by hoovering up all the food with little consideration for the rest of you, but it isn't an 'abnormal' amount of food if he's not gaining weight. I think to tell him that would be unfair. Just tell him to start buying his own!

@orangegato

it is about the volume of food too

NO-ONE needs to eat all that

@ncfoedthois

his eating IS a problem - he’s eating far far too much

Yes they are. Women can also be greedy but wouldn't finish off the contents of the fridge with no thought for anybody else.

I think back to my granddad and the very physical work he did every day. He must have burned a lot of calories but he never ate like this, there just wasn't the money to do that. He filled up on the foods that were available, bread, potatoes. He would have had no truck with this kind of thing, family first.

If he’s training for a marathon maybe why he’s eating so much. Though 6 pints won’t help!

There needs to be better communication between you and your dh about plans for food.

If you have planned for items to be used for certain meals, after school or before bed time snacks etc, then let him know.

If he thinks you are restricting what he eats in his own home, then there's no reason why he can't do an extra food shop that is just for him for fueling and recovery for running.

Maybe he doesn't like sugary things and is craving savoury flavours as part of his hunger?

It’s 100% cow not 100% protein!

Is he neurodiverse?

Sometimes sensory seeking can branch out into overeating, especially with Autism/adhd, and when the person is stressed.

Even if he isn’t ND, a few of the strategies to prevent overeating could help.

https://www.autismspeaks.org/expert-opinion/autism-overeating

All that processed ham is horrific. I would encourage him to refuel on healthier food.

You need to sit down with him and talk about it.

Meantime allocate a shelf in the fridge just for him. The rest is for the family and out of bounds for random snacking.

Can't tell whether it's greed, eating disorder or just pure inconsideration/thoughtlessness.

It’s less about the volume of food more about the selfishness of eating everything without a single shit given as to what’s left for the rest of his family. Selfish men are grim.

Im using a mixture of 2 things at the moment

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Grass-Bone-Broth-Protein-Powder/dp/B08SQZZS76/ref=sr_1_6?crid=200F86LQD0X03&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.JuotYzPQu0siUtYB3JCFHe5cTr4UR6D7rVU0fi1DJrsO4nuOPB2keNXbwKGgKRK-P44YB0qrEk7ikvmWk_iIRgUzY3zo13ibKoJPkxyaFOq7RDj9tbEM685Y9qJUz-VJ8UkxbvmrxSSvIXjQMSntkoQ8arEko-1tPSaGECG7VK0-IcQoIyAKSJ0Tm378Ho8Ma7uj9B3617GHPAYey26a-B2eTWf6L4N0_4eVa3q9Zk2YIANzCqa_EwWP45nk2B-BgoFmc9epnALTHh7fbLoQ4xiHkUyCgNPnKZ7DvJ_yrvE.LcZuULJKSpmnrdmhaP-G_w_Vkoo9POqatg4MnQw8WL0&dib_tag=se&keywords=alpha%2B01%2Bbone%2Bbroth&qid=1709976451&sprefix=alpha%2B01%2Caps%2C80&sr=8-6&th=1

and

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Multi-Collagen-Protein-Powder-Hydrolysed/dp/B08G8XN3Q9/ref=pd_bxgy_q_d_sccl_1/259-6272509-6652519?pd_rd_w=eICHW&content-id=amzn1.sym.ea160940-2731-44f6-92dc-10249bf55db8&pf_rd_p=ea160940-2731-44f6-92dc-10249bf55db8&pf_rd_r=KB40A47JR3EWK24PEGW8&pd_rd_wg=yWKQE&pd_rd_r=54a48e26-0934-4523-9200-b76a82b4b381&pd_rd_i=B08G8XN3Q9&th=1

what brand has literally nothing else in it apart from protein