50/50 Custody Arrangements

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Nimbus1999 · 08/03/2024 14:29

Stbxh wants 50/50 on a 7 days on / 7 days off basis with no/little contact in between.

I want a split week so M&T one parent, W&T other parent & EOW swap. Kids are happy with the split week but have never done 7/7. Have stuff in both houses so no belongings being taken back and forth.

We live 5 mins from each other and school.

Kids in primary, youngest 6.

YABU - 7 days in a row is fine.
YANBU - More regular contact is a good option.

Help!

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ALLthecheeses · 08/03/2024 14:44

7 days is a long time for a 6 year old.

Mindymomo · 08/03/2024 14:41

I think I would prefer 4 days one week, then 3 the next week, to see how that goes first before committing to anything longer. What is ex’s reasoning to having them 7 days on/off, also both of your working days need to be considered.

iLovee · 08/03/2024 14:37

Are you fairly friendly with STBXH?

I think 1 week st mums, 1 week at dads is nice (on paper) as kids know where they are/can still have playdates etc. And there are less likely to be issues with forgetting homework/PE kit etc at other parents house.

Also like the idea of tea at the other parents once/twice a week but obviously depends on how friendly you are and if that would upset the children more?

titchy · 08/03/2024 14:33

Depending how amicable you and ex are, could you trial alternate weeks and see how the kids feel after say six weeks?

Alternatively could you do alternate weeks but with a tea time with the other parent every Wednesday?

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