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If you grew up in the 80s/early 90s. Did you do extra curricular activities?

411 replies

Jellycatjellycat · 07/03/2024 19:03

I'm interested to see what is the norm.

I did nothing, no swimming, dance, brownies or anything like that. I do remember other girls doing Brownies and Ballet after school and asking my mum if I could go. She shut it down and told me I wouldn't like it.

These days of course most children do a lot of extra curricular activities but wondering if perhaps it wasn't such a thing years ago.

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Welshwabbit · 07/03/2024 20:58

Yes, Brownies, swimming, gymnastics, played 2 instruments (although had lessons on one of them through school).

JamSandle · 07/03/2024 20:57

And horse riding. So...I take back my no!

JamSandle · 07/03/2024 20:57

Oh! Swimming lessons yes.

JamSandle · 07/03/2024 20:56

No.

littleteapot86 · 07/03/2024 20:55

I was born in 86 and I did piano lessons from age 11 but otherwise nothing else. Money was certainly tight but I don't remember being bothered.

chipshopElvis · 07/03/2024 20:54

Yes loads. Ballet, 2 x choirs, swimming, woodwind group, orchestra, saturday morning music school, guides. And no I wasn't very good at any of that stuff, just enjoyed it. My poor parents!

Mobey78 · 07/03/2024 20:54

Brownies, swimming and as a teenager I played football

Mumaway · 07/03/2024 20:52

Ballet, tap, brownies, swimming, judo, gymnastics, later horse riding but not for long because I am scared of horses!!
We weren't posh either, and I'm very grateful for the sacrifices my parents made to make these things happen

Gowlett · 07/03/2024 20:52

I did art classes & swimming. Hated dancing, gymnastics & Brownies. I only went to the latter, with a friend who was in it, and thought it was like being in the Army. No from me!

Bournetilly · 07/03/2024 20:50

I grew up in the 90s and did swimming, rainbows/brownies/ guides, music lessons and dancing (didn’t do dancing for that long maybe a year).

PandaG · 07/03/2024 20:49

70s - 80s. Brownies, Guides, Rangers, Girls Brigade, piano and clarinet lessons Saturday music school, orchestra and choir etc at secondary school, ballet and tap when tiny.

Mumof2teens79 · 07/03/2024 20:48

We tended to do one at a time.
I did ballet on Saturdays for a while
I did brownies/guides
Sister did swimming and gymnastics
Most of my friends were in some sort of club or did a sport, but usually only 1

Shoutinglagerlagerlager · 07/03/2024 20:48

I think it varied a lot back then. I did swimming, drama, piano and dance but I definitely remember children in my friendship group who did nothing.

enchantedsquirrelwood · 07/03/2024 20:47

I did swimming and Brownies at primary school, and a bit more swimming at secondary. I was also in the school choir and orchestra and had piano lessons for a bit.

caringcarer · 07/03/2024 20:46

My DD did horse riding, piano lessons, swimming lessons, dancing and Brownies. DS1 did horse riding, swimming lessons, played rugby/training, played football/lessons after school, DS2 swimming lessons, karate lessons/grades, electric guitar lessons, Stage Coach, Cubs/Scouts. Foster Son Stage Coach, karate, cricket 1-1 lessons plus net sessions/matches, Crav Maga, Scouts, swimming lessons, compete in Aquathlons. All also did occasional activities like ice skating, bowling, climbing wall, cinema. They started at 5 with one activity by 7 had 2, by 9 had 3, and by 11 had 4-5 weekly activities plus occasional activities during half terms. Some like electric guitar lessons took place within school time.

fabio12 · 07/03/2024 20:44

Yes, I boarded and had to do a certain amount each week. Main ones were Brownies then Guides, pottery, trampolining, swimming club, self defence, badminton and choir.

I'm really glad I did them as it was a welcome break from friend and family dramas and stopped me obsessing about school work.

LBFseBrom · 07/03/2024 20:44

My son grew up in those years and he did cubs, music and drama. Things like swimming were part of the school curriculum.

converseandjeans · 07/03/2024 20:44

Cross country running, gymnastics, brownies, tennis, music lessons & orchestra over the years. I liked to stay busy & think my Mum needed a rest.

LittleRedYarny · 07/03/2024 20:42

Ballet and Tap - I was terrible at it and gave it up for brownies (which carried on to me doing guides and becoming a young leader.) Also did swimming and later piano and horse riding.

Scarlettpixie · 07/03/2024 20:42

I was a child of the 80s. Born 1972. I went to Sunday school and learned to swim but other than that nothing. I did ask to go to martial arts with a friend but my parents couldn’t afford it.

That said, my son didn’t do much although he was given the opportunity. He went to beavers and cubs but soon stopped after moving up to scouts. He did swimming until he could do a length and then drama for a year or two. He wasn’t interested in football, martial arts, music or dance.

BusySittingDown · 07/03/2024 20:42

I did dancing, Brownies and Swimming. In primary school I did every after school club going even if I was terrible at the activity (netball for eg. I went every week but was never picked for the team, not even the B team! You'd think I'd have given up. I bet I t wouldn't be allowed now, I think nowadays they would at least have given me a turn).

My DDs have done NOTHING! They just never wanted to. They tried dancing but declared that they didn't like it after one week and they've been offered things but weren't interested. DD2 is very shy, although she plays the drums really well. She hasn't had a lesson, just self taught.

throwawaytuesday · 07/03/2024 20:40

I was born in 1980 and no I didn’t do any of those things.

my 5 year old twins do lots now including dance, gymnastics and swimming

interestingly my mum thinks it’s too much and we should drop one - I do wonder if she is saying this as she feels somewhat guilty about our lack of activities

MuggedByReality · 07/03/2024 20:37

No. Our parents didn’t have the money to pay for clubs, activities etc. And we didn’t have a car, which restricted our options. Stuff like ballet, musical instruments, racket sports etc etc were for the posh kids, not for us.

WotNoUserName · 07/03/2024 20:34

Nothing. I wanted to do Cubs and Scouts but girls weren't allowed. I saw Brownies as too girly (I was very much a Tom boy)

My brother did tap dance and musical theatre, performed at the local theatre often.

My mum never really encouraged me to do anything - though I used to take myself off swimming some Saturdays, and went to Youth Club (or hanging around town) as a teen.

I wanted to learn piano at one point but my mum said no.

LoreleiG · 07/03/2024 20:33

I did swimming club mainly. We had a leisure centre in my town so it wasn’t far and it wasn’t expensive (so I am told). Guides and brownies, and a stint horse riding, short lived. And whatever after school clubs I fancied - hockey, cross-country, flute etc.

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