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If you grew up in the 80s/early 90s. Did you do extra curricular activities?

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Jellycatjellycat · 07/03/2024 19:03

I'm interested to see what is the norm.

I did nothing, no swimming, dance, brownies or anything like that. I do remember other girls doing Brownies and Ballet after school and asking my mum if I could go. She shut it down and told me I wouldn't like it.

These days of course most children do a lot of extra curricular activities but wondering if perhaps it wasn't such a thing years ago.

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LaWench · 08/03/2024 04:38

I did ballet and tap at 4-5yrs, swimming club and galas at 7-10yrs, horse riding at 7-9yrs, piano lessons 8-10 and guides at 11.

None of which I really enjoyed or wanted to do. I wanted to do karate or gymnastics.

My brother was a swimmer and trained 7x a week plus weekend galas all over the country. Too much IMO.

I went the opposite way for mine, waited until they told me they wanted to do X and stopped when they had enough. DD1 did brownies for a year and Gymnastics for 3yrs, DD2 did Gymnastics for a year.

sashh · 08/03/2024 04:21

I wanted riding and guitar lessons but didn't get them.

I did do Brownies and Guides and Ju-Jitsu.

We used to go swimming after Ju-Jitsu because the pool was in the sports centre and we could get in without paying, but it was more of a splash about.

I was born in 1966. I walked to brownies on my own and got myself to Ju-Jitsu on the bus.

My dad would drive me and two friends to guides and the mother of one of the others collected us.

Outthedoor24 · 08/03/2024 02:21

Limited by what was within walking distance, ie available in the local church hall.
Both parents worked full-time and quite often weekends, but working class roles, one car and didn't have a lot of time on their hands.

Badminton 🏸, Girls Brigade and Sunday school.
My parents offered to get us music lessons and i really regret not doing that. Actually it was the fear of going alone that stopped me😕.

We did do lots of relatively low costs days out various parks with picnics or NT type places. And my parents took us swimming regularly but no formal lessons.

Reading the thread I think there is a massive wealth divide.
Those with mums who were SAHMs with transport. I'm amazed how many did horse riding, its not cheap and tends to be out of the way places requiring transport.

We have more disposable income than my parents did and my kids do so many things. Swim, music lessons, Scouts, tennis.

stormywhethers321 · 08/03/2024 01:56

Ballet and piano for a while, but I disliked both and was wildly untalented so it didn't last long. Brownies for a couple of years, but then swim and horseriding took over my schedule. I still enjoy both.

anon4net · 08/03/2024 01:45

I did loads (usually 3-4 at the same time, not all of these at once)

brownies/guides
ballet/tap/jazz
music lessons
horseback riding - though only in school holidays as we didn't live near stables
theatre production

rustlerwaiter · 08/03/2024 01:43

HollyKnight · 08/03/2024 01:34

Nope. We were a non-driving, single-mother family so there was no money or means to do anything. The only "activity" we did after school was get dragged onto church buses and be taken away to be "saved". Presbyterian on a Monday. Methodist on a Wednesday. Pentecostal on a Friday.

I always had nightmares after Friday. 😳

Same here with the non-driver single mother. Not so much the church stuff! It did limit what you could do though.

I remember going to karate with a friend, must have been around 91/92, but I didn't like it.

I never did anything organised. Once a week, probably about 94, I'd go swimming with a few friends, but it was just us getting on a bus and going along to the local pool ourselves.

DS does all kinds now. Sports training three nights a week, games on weekends. Guitar lessons, after school clubs. The trade off being he doesn't have anywhere near the freedom I had at his age.

HollyKnight · 08/03/2024 01:34

Nope. We were a non-driving, single-mother family so there was no money or means to do anything. The only "activity" we did after school was get dragged onto church buses and be taken away to be "saved". Presbyterian on a Monday. Methodist on a Wednesday. Pentecostal on a Friday.

I always had nightmares after Friday. 😳

NotReadyForSlipperz · 08/03/2024 00:59

Yep. Guides, swimming, music etc. Mixture of lifts from my dad or my friends mum and walking. DP same age did v little though. I did lots of things and wanted my kids to have same experience.

EconomyClassRockstar · 08/03/2024 00:55

I had swimming lessons and then did all the medals and picking up bricks but that was before secondary school. I joined a running club because my sister was really good at it and then just kind of got sucked into it because it turned out I was really good at long jump and 800m. My brother did Soccer Skills every Saturday. We had a local youth club but my Mum wouldn't let me go that often.

Back in the 80s, there was loads of stuff to do (and I grew up in a tiny village in the middle of nowhere) but we obviously didn't realize that it was going to explode into what we have now!

Disneydatknee88 · 08/03/2024 00:52

I grew up in the 90s and it was all ballet for girls, karate for boys. I didn't do any extra curriculars because my family couldn't afford it. I did attend brownies for a few sessions but when they started asking money for uniform and trips I was out. I can definitely understand that though as my daughter started brownies last year and every other week they were asking for money for something. Thankfully we are in a better financial position than my parents were.

coxesorangepippin · 08/03/2024 00:48

Swim lessons till competent

Brownies for a while

Jujutsu for many years - taught me everything I needed to know about life!

DogsAreBetterThanHusbands · 08/03/2024 00:43

We were not well off but I did quite a lot. Ballet, tap, modern, trampolining, gymnastics, horse riding, balllet again, jazz, drama, stage coach, summer club musical, brownies & guides (2 different guide groups). There might have been more!

To be fair, I never really stuck at much. I wasn't very good at any of them and the other girls never liked me. The only thing I did stick at was brownies.

TheGreatGherkin · 08/03/2024 00:07

Brownies for a while. Nothing else because we were too poor.

XenoBitch · 08/03/2024 00:04

I did nothing. I was very much a homebody who liked my own company.

I was forced to attend Judo classes, and I hated it. To this day, I still resent my parents for making me go. I was awful at it, and they made me feel bad for that.

beyourcoffeepot · 08/03/2024 00:01

I did brownies, athletics, music (flute and clarinet), tennis and gymnastics.

bibbidiblobidyboo · 07/03/2024 23:55

My poor mum! I was keen to try everything! I did lots of dancing, brownies, swimming, horse riding, piano lessons, choir, drama club and football.
I've just gone back to tap and I've continued with the drama group into adulthood.

Caroparo52 · 07/03/2024 23:55

Between me and 2 my daughters we did
Brownies
guides
swimming lessons
Horse riding
Musical theatre
Dance camps
Ballet
Athletics
Water sports
Netball
Rowing
Rock climbing
Cheerleading
Academic tutoring....

PheobeBebe · 07/03/2024 23:50

I was heavily into gymnastics, at one point 6 days a week. At other times I also did brownies, badminton, trampolining, riding, school netball, ballet, violin tuition and an orchestra group.

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 07/03/2024 23:49

Yes.
6 dance classes per week.
Swimming lessons.
Brownies/Guides.
Amateur dramatics in late 90s.
Youth club on a Sunday.
Another random girls group one afternoon.
I was in the Church choir for a while.

Fuck knows how my mum afforded it all!

Feellikeafailurenow · 07/03/2024 23:47

I did brownies and swimming lessons. Tried dancing but was hopeless. There was a local youth group as well

WhatIsHeThinking · 07/03/2024 23:45

80s - swimming, brownies, piano, horse riding (plus mucking out and grooming!) French club, ballet

My older sister did flute and drama and my brother did rugby and played guitar.

Looking back, I know we were not well off so God bless my parents for somehow offering us all of that.

Ispini · 07/03/2024 23:43

Horse riding, ballet, piano, drama lessons. My parents were really supportive of my sister and myself doing things that weren’t able to do as kids.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 07/03/2024 23:39

No, nothing.

Lemonyfuckit · 07/03/2024 23:38

Yes, when I was little we lived in London and I did ballet and then gymnastics (gymnastics quite seriously); we then moved to a rural area where there was no gymnastics but I did swimming, had flute lessons, two orchestras, brownies, guides, local hockey team as well as school hockey team, horse riding lessons (I should say, obviously not all of them all at the same time, but over the course of my school years) - this was over 80s and 90s.

Mopsybunny · 07/03/2024 23:38

Oh oh… my ultimate favourite thing I loved was roller blading. Someone mentioned Ice skating on this and I would have loved to learn that at a young age. We didn’t have a rink. Closest
probably 200 miles plus. Next best thing was roller blades. I had to get a pair again to reminisce in my late 20s and nobody was stupid enough to come with me.
Born in 80s (THE DECADE!! )

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