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If you grew up in the 80s/early 90s. Did you do extra curricular activities?

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Jellycatjellycat · 07/03/2024 19:03

I'm interested to see what is the norm.

I did nothing, no swimming, dance, brownies or anything like that. I do remember other girls doing Brownies and Ballet after school and asking my mum if I could go. She shut it down and told me I wouldn't like it.

These days of course most children do a lot of extra curricular activities but wondering if perhaps it wasn't such a thing years ago.

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Bringtheweatherwithyou · 09/03/2024 01:15

Outthedoor24 · 09/03/2024 00:46

That's a very good question!

I bet very few beyond summer holiday swimming. And some instrument players probably still pay now and then.

That said if kids have done any sort of hobby is not just about doing it as an adult. Its about giving kids another social outlet beyond school and certain life skills.
Physical things (sport / dance) help with fitness and team work, things like Scouts / guides etc encourages a level of independence and self confidence.

I was just about to ask this too.
Also for those who did a number of extra curricular activities are you more outgoing as adults and more likely to join a club and give it a try?

I did swimming and drama in the 80s and was awful at both. I probably asked to join Brownies and like a PP, I was told I wouldn't like it and quickly learned not to ask again.
I read A LOT and was lucky to have an endless supply of books in the house and a local library.

GymBergerac · 09/03/2024 01:05

I was a schoolkid in the 70's & 80's
Did horseriding from 4 till young adult years.
A few months of ballet (hated it)
Flute & orchestra
Brownies/Guides

BobbyBiscuits · 09/03/2024 01:00

I did art class but not by choice. I had a SAHM so I guess they didn't need me somewhere after school. It seemed much looser in terms of kids activities back then.
Like unless you wanted to do Brownies or whatever, (no-one in my area did it) then you kind of made your own activities. There was a lot more unrestricted outdoor play back then. Lots of casual playdates, but none of my friends in the 80s really did structured activities, except one girl who did ballet. She was obsessed and got banned from doing it after a while due to ED.
It certainly feels more common now.

Outthedoor24 · 09/03/2024 00:46

Mopsybunnycheesestringsnotcarrots · 09/03/2024 00:06

Does anyone who did these things still do them now when time allows?

That's a very good question!

I bet very few beyond summer holiday swimming. And some instrument players probably still pay now and then.

That said if kids have done any sort of hobby is not just about doing it as an adult. Its about giving kids another social outlet beyond school and certain life skills.
Physical things (sport / dance) help with fitness and team work, things like Scouts / guides etc encourages a level of independence and self confidence.

Mopsybunnycheesestringsnotcarrots · 09/03/2024 00:06

Does anyone who did these things still do them now when time allows?

ImthatBoleyngirl · 08/03/2024 23:59

Quite a bit. Horse riding, ballet, tap, modern, drama, gymnastics and Brownies.

sunflowerdaisyrose · 08/03/2024 23:22

Yes I did swimming, brownies and piano in primary school. Secondary played in multiple bands and played competitiveness hockey, plus badminton club and musical theatre.

My children are definitely more accomplished and do more at a young age than I was/did though.

Imfreetofeelgood · 08/03/2024 19:19

I was 70's /80's - I did dance, swimming club, St John's Ambulance, trampolining club, and Taekwondo. Not all at the same time though - I went through phases.

Outthedoor24 · 08/03/2024 19:14

Thinking about the bigger picture in the 80s and 90s parents were more likely to encourage kids to pay outside so there maybe wasn't the same need to have organised social stuff outside school.

ScarlettSunset · 08/03/2024 17:04

No.
There were things going on within walking distance of my house but I wasn't allowed to go to them. My older sister was allowed to go to some but she would decide she didn't like it and then I wasn't allowed on what seemed to be the basis that my parents decided I was of course exactly like her and so also wouldn't keep it up. Which is obviously nonsense but was why she got to try things and I didn't.

And anything further away was definitely never going to happen as my dad was the only driver and once he got in from work, he wasn't going back out again.
I went to school on the school bus so could never stay late to do anything there as I couldn't get home afterwards. Normal buses didn't run that route. My parents never even went to a parents evening.

I eventually learnt to swim when I was old enough to take myself off on my own to a pool in a nearby town, where one of the lifeguards took pity on me and taught me to a very basic level during the school holidays.

AmaryllisChorus · 08/03/2024 17:01

I did Brownies but gave it up.
Used to go swimming occasionally but not to a regular swimming club.
Begged to do ballet but wasn't allowed.
As a teen I did drama club.

Outthedoor24 · 08/03/2024 16:56

Alittlenonsensenowandthen · 08/03/2024 12:19

Swimming
Brownies
Piano

As a music teacher I can tell you that it's gone crazy. Even the last 20years and kids are doing way more. Jack of all trades master of none...

Does it matter if kids rounded jack of all trades and aren't masters of stuff. They are kids.

So few will ever earn a penny from sports or music that having lots of fun is more important.

gluenotsoup · 08/03/2024 13:52

I had swimming lessons til I was around 10 or 11 because it was seen as a life skill and important, which I agree with. I went to Guides for a few years and CCF as a later teenager. They were things I wanted to do. I went to one dance lesson and cried as I was nervous, whisked away and never taken back. I had no idea you could have music lessons or anything like that and my parents probably couldn’t afford it anyway. Underlying a lot of my mums parenting choices at that time though was the mentality that “it’s not for the likes of us” and there was little ambition to expand opportunities or thinking into a wider and better life, probably learned from their own parents and accepting rather than questioning the box you were supposed to fit in to.
My dds have tried all sorts from scuba diving to singing, and have settled on their favourites now, one dances and the other gymnastics and acro, both play piano.
I think they result is that they have more social and personal confidence, skills that won’t leave them, a wider friendship group and grounding and accidentally good posture 😂.

Waspie · 08/03/2024 12:36

I did ballet and tap at primary because my mum wanted me to do it. I was terrible at it so changed to gymnastics and then to trampolining. My dad would take my sister and I swimming pretty much every Sunday morning.

When I was a teenager I went to weekly youth club at the local church hall and played pool and darts and rounders on the green in the summer Smile I did live in a city though, so I could get myself places easily.

The local library would run (free) clubs and outings in the holidays which I used to go to with my friends; things like art club, chess club, creative writing workshops or trips to the museums (bring a packed lunch and pay your own tube fare).

My son does way more than I ever did - he does tennis, basketball, rugby, youth theatre and chess and is out every day at something or other.

Glass113 · 08/03/2024 12:33

Nope came home from school, watched telly and ate snacks waiting for parents to come home from work.

ShortColdandGrey · 08/03/2024 12:32

Yes, I did Brownies, dancing, and gymnastics. As a teenager I went to guides and the local am/dram. I was an 80's bairn and 90's teenager and most kids did some form of after school activity.

Moier · 08/03/2024 12:29

I took my daughters swimming every week from being 6 weeks old.
They also did with their kids.. one of best thing anyone can do.. could save your life.. we all still go now.

Moier · 08/03/2024 12:28

70s here.. l did Girl guides ( l loved it) Church choir practice and Gymnastics.
My daughters 80s and 90s went Majorettes and Brownies but weren't keen.. too much bullying.
And that was by the leaders not the girls.
Then the Majorettes leader got jailed for abusing the girls.

Blouseybiggal · 08/03/2024 12:25

No. But were were WC with little money, so I sang in school choir, played football outside and went swimming at the local pool but no lessons.
Our kids have music lessons, sports lesson and tutors. Which they frequently moan about! Find it hard not to get annoyed at them sometimes!

Alittlenonsensenowandthen · 08/03/2024 12:19

Swimming
Brownies
Piano

As a music teacher I can tell you that it's gone crazy. Even the last 20years and kids are doing way more. Jack of all trades master of none...

evilharpy · 08/03/2024 12:17

At various times and for various periods of time I did singing, Irish dancing, horse riding, martial arts, a French club for a short time, and orchestra.

OfTheNight · 08/03/2024 12:12

I did swimming, choir, horse riding, chess club (my dad ran it) and hockey. I didn’t take to Brownies.

TotoroElla · 08/03/2024 12:09

Madcats · 07/03/2024 21:34

Maybe it just felt like it to me, but school always seemed to do country dancing and barn dances to raise funds. No barns were involved, just a school hall and canteen.

I remember going to lots of barn dances - it was great fun!

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 08/03/2024 09:24

Yes.
choir
various instruments
had a pony so did pony club

thesugarbumfairy · 08/03/2024 09:23

I did yes. I did Sunday school when I was very young. I believe this was just to give my nan a break.
We did horse riding when I was about 8 (very early 80s) because there was a stables near us. We also did trampolining at the local leisure centre. Which seems a bit random but that's what there was! I was shit at it.
Then I was offered violin lessons free so I did that at school for a year.
Then I went to boarding school and did piano, guitar, horse riding (for a bit but I hated it) and modern dance. I did guides for a bit but got kicked out (can't remember why)

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