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If you grew up in the 80s/early 90s. Did you do extra curricular activities?

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Jellycatjellycat · 07/03/2024 19:03

I'm interested to see what is the norm.

I did nothing, no swimming, dance, brownies or anything like that. I do remember other girls doing Brownies and Ballet after school and asking my mum if I could go. She shut it down and told me I wouldn't like it.

These days of course most children do a lot of extra curricular activities but wondering if perhaps it wasn't such a thing years ago.

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takemeawayagain · 07/03/2024 19:25

Brownies, swimming and piano. My mum thought extra curriculars were really important because she didn't have any opportunities.

myhouseyourhouse · 07/03/2024 19:24

Nothing

Vitriolinsanity · 07/03/2024 19:23

I was a brownie and a guide. I also played netball.

The rest of the time I read avidly and played with my toys and my siblings, cousins and friends.

Nevermind31 · 07/03/2024 19:23

Throughout my childhood I did gymnastics, voltage, swimming, pottery, basketball, sailing, Tennis and martial arts (not all at the same time).

sibling did fencing, tennis, martial arts, violin, pottery, riding and drama.

telestrations · 07/03/2024 19:23

When I was little I did swimming, tap and jazz dance so three separate sessions once a week. For a short time time I also did ballet but it was too far and hard to get too. There was an attempt to send me to a music school but they don't accept me as I had no interest.

These dropped off, don't know why. I then started to go to a once a week church youth club. This then dropped off and was nothing for a while until I joined cadets around 11/12 of my own accord.

Secondary school was nothing. There was no provision via the school and my parents attention was somewhat diverted from age 12 onwards and if I asked for anything they'd argue about the cost via me so I didn't. I got one term of drama lessons which I begged for. Nothing was arranged for school holidays.

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 07/03/2024 19:23

Musical instrument, choir
Riding
Swimming lessons (not all the time though, just for a year or so)

Ribenaberry12 · 07/03/2024 19:23

No, nothing. There was no money to do anything and my mum was a single mum and didn’t drive.
I went to church with a school friend and her family whilst I was at secondary school and I enjoyed that.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 07/03/2024 19:23

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WelcomeMarch · 07/03/2024 19:22

Guides, and kayaking/dinghy sailing. That was it, as far as I remember, but I can still tie a reef knot and remember how to do an H-and-I rescue should either be necessary.

SpringtimeAtLast · 07/03/2024 19:22

Yes lots but it was mostly cheap/free/ and school-based or term-time only.

I remember those long summer holidays waking up to watch “Why Don’t You” and having noooooothing to do

PeloMom · 07/03/2024 19:22

Yes. Born early 80s. Did piano, dance, languages (outside of school), acrobatics

Gagagagagaga · 07/03/2024 19:22

Swimming, ballet, tap & modern, Brownies, Sunday School and horse riding. Lots of horse riding!

CharismaticMegafauna · 07/03/2024 19:22

Yes, Brownies, swimming until about age 10, horse-riding, piano, trampolining briefly at one point.

tangycheesythings · 07/03/2024 19:21

Nah. Just hung out with mates, roller skated round the block, played dungeons and dragons, got up to mischief.

Did loads when I went to uni though!

Peedoff24 · 07/03/2024 19:21

No nothing. My mum told me we couldn’t afford Brownies. I now think she just couldn’t be bothered.

PringPring · 07/03/2024 19:21

I'd bear in mind the replies on mn won't be reflective of society across the board as MN censuses show that's not the case statistically I believe.

In answer to your op, no we did not.

I remember we did a very very brief spell of ballet. Nothing else. Partly no money, partly my parents feeling uncomfortable with scouts and brownies which would have been the only cheaper extra curriculars in our community.

We all have turned out okay. 🤷

MojoDojoCasaHouse · 07/03/2024 19:20

I did Brownies, Guides then Venture Scouts. Sang in church and school choirs. Tried a musical instrument through school but it wasn’t something our family did and I didn’t get any encouragement so gave up. My parents think that people didn’t do activities back then but plenty of my friends did.

Wishlist99 · 07/03/2024 19:20

Nothing. Now a solicitor in a “magic circle” law firm (which will mean something if you know law firms but ignore if not). They were only interested in my academics at interview!

deenain · 07/03/2024 19:20

No, my parents couldn't afford it and didn't have the time to ferry us around. But there were activities running and I envied those who were able to go. I was born in 1980.

OutOfTheHouse · 07/03/2024 19:20

I was born in the mid seventies.

In primary school I did brownies and gymnastics. But when I went to secondary school, nothing. We lived way out in the sticks and there were no groups. I would have loved to do more gymnastics but there was no where within 40 miles or so that had any equipment.

What we did have was a youth club. Two nights a week out of the primary school. We had a tuck shop, snooker table, darts board. It was a place to hang out with friends that was safe. We did summer trips into the city which had an ice rink and a swimming pool. We had discos and Halloween parties.
I’m so grateful that they ran it. Everyone in the village went. It gave us a space that was ours.

stargirl1701 · 07/03/2024 19:20

I did Brownies, swimming, Athletics, kayaking and roller skating.

Shinyandnew1 · 07/03/2024 19:20

I did piano lessons, brownies and dancing. Most of my friends at my school did something,

BogRollBOGOF · 07/03/2024 19:20

Born early 80s.

Did gymnastics then dance while at primary school.
Kept up the dancing 2x per week until 15. Did lots with school, plays, DoE and lunchtime clubs. Took up swimming at 16 (I hadn't learned in school lessons)

My DCs have had scouting, gymnastics that swapped for karate and swimming. One does football on top.

Octavia64 · 07/03/2024 19:19

My mum believed in keeping us busy.

I learnt violin free through school.

My brother and I both did swimming lessons (heavily subsidised at the leisure centre near our house).

She signed us up there for an activity every holiday, and went there several hours early to be at the front of the queue. We did badminton, water polo, tennis, so many random things.

I did brownies but didn't like guides, I then did venture scouts (mixed from 16 I think).

My secondary had an orchestra that the music dept ran and my lessons were there as well.

I did gymnastics from age about 4 until 12. I was actually quite good but not really good enough to do it properly. I still remember listening to music with my dad in our old rover on the way to gym.

Then I did a martial art with a friend from about 13. It was a quite dodgy secondary and we felt it was helpful. I'm not sure it stopped anyone having a go but I only got beaten up once.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 07/03/2024 19:18

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