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If you grew up in the 80s/early 90s. Did you do extra curricular activities?

411 replies

Jellycatjellycat · 07/03/2024 19:03

I'm interested to see what is the norm.

I did nothing, no swimming, dance, brownies or anything like that. I do remember other girls doing Brownies and Ballet after school and asking my mum if I could go. She shut it down and told me I wouldn't like it.

These days of course most children do a lot of extra curricular activities but wondering if perhaps it wasn't such a thing years ago.

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Mmhmmn · 07/03/2024 19:36

Possibly more of a class split back then? Money was tight, not that I realised at the time. Me and sibling did no extracurricular activities but middle class peers did various things.

Overtheatlantic · 07/03/2024 19:36

Piano lessons and Brownies

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 07/03/2024 19:36

Born in the 70’s, did no clubs whatsoever. I wanted to do Brownies and asked my dm and she shut me down straight away it was a no. I reminded her of this and she denied it 😏 absolute crap. I knew not to ask for anything after that. Not sure what her reasoning was? I wanted to do a paper round and that was met with a no. I could wait to leave school to get my first part time job and do what I wanted.

TheFancyPoet · 07/03/2024 19:35

In another country, maths and English lessons, piano and ball room, swimming, mountain orienteering, aerobics, yoga, group rowing in a sort of a small fishing boat, not for competition, just for fun, walks, visits to historic monuments , all this if I tell you which country you would open your mouth wide

ApolloandDaphne · 07/03/2024 19:35

I grew up in the 60's/70's and did lots of activities: Dancing, brownies/guides, swimming as standard then other age related youth club type things and school run things. I was never in. We didn't have much money but we seemed to manage.

Puffalicious · 07/03/2024 19:35

TheLeadbetterLife · 07/03/2024 19:07

I did Brownies and swimming club, but we never did family outings at the weekends like kids seem to now. We just played or hung out with friends.

Very similar: Brownies/ Swimming club/ dancing (ballet/ tap/ modern) & drama club when I was 10+. But they were all very cheap except the dancing. (My dad ran the swim club as a voluntary thing).

I remember my mam worked hard to pay the dancing, and I imagine it was because I was the youngest of 5 & we were better off once I was at school & mam worked part-time.

This was 70s/ 80s (Born late 71).

Brother nearest in age did swimming/ football/ cubs/ scouts/ running team- again all very cheap.

It definitely wasn't like now when it can be £££.

We also never went out for weekend day trips unless it was to cousins houses or a park (rare). We certainly didn't eat out ever! We had crisps & chocolate bars at home, never sweets unless it was a birthday/ huge treat. Changed days.

MyOtherHusbandIsAWash · 07/03/2024 19:35

80s primary, 90s secondary. I did brownies, swimming, music lessons, orchestra, horseriding, tennis, karate. Most kids I knew did at least some kind of sport or music.

SnapdragonToadflax · 07/03/2024 19:33

Born early 80s and no, nothing. I don't think I ever really wanted to? I was quite shy, and was happy at home reading. Learned to swim at school and on holiday.

We did do a lot of weekend outings though, lots of National Trust, gardens, trip into London etc.

emmaw1405 · 07/03/2024 19:33

Lived in a village so all walkable distance.

Brownies and Guides and then became a young leader. Netball, rounders, tennis, cross-country and athletics with school which included after school and weekend matches. Tennis, badminton, trampolining and dance after school.

We had a great sports hall and swimming pool so also did street hockey. I was very sporty when I was younger! Can still play decent racquet sports and roller skate.

mamaison · 07/03/2024 19:33

Yes I did swimming, piano, dance, ballet, Guides, volleyball, netball, indoor netball. Not all at the same time.

fliptopbin · 07/03/2024 19:31

I was allowed to choose one out of school activity, as long as I could get there under my own steam and I was never allowed to ask for or accept a lift from anyone. The idea was that learning to accept nothing from anybody was a much better lesson than swimming, guides or dance lessons. It meant that if I tried anything and got good at it then I had to give up. For example, I was picked for the town swim team, but because the parents shared lifts to get to meets and my parents refused, I had to give up, so that we weren't beholden to anybody.
I haven'y followed the same philosophy with my own children, but as an adult with a disability I follow it for myself still.

tangycheesythings · 07/03/2024 19:30

CharSiu · 07/03/2024 19:28

No and was helping in my Fathers restaurant from about 3, yes really. They used to get me to fetch things. I got my first proper job at 13.

Yes I had 3 little jobs by the age of 13 too! Babysitting (not babies) for two different people and working in a shop after school once a week.

Naughty1205 · 07/03/2024 19:30

One of 6 kids in the 80s, I did gymnastics, boys did football, that was it.

myhouseyourhouse · 07/03/2024 19:30

Hit post too soon.

Nothing. But feel like I missed out. In PE lessons I was really good at gymnastics and athletics but there was nothing and no opportunities for us to do any of them. Rural school with a huge catchment area but not many pupils. I'm guessing that maybe distance etc was an issue.

I'd have loved to do the things kids get to do now and even people on this post got to do in the 80s. I turned out alright I guess but who knows, I could have been an Olympian (sigh) 😆

Natureswimnow · 07/03/2024 19:29

Nothing. I assumed that no one else did anything either - clearly not going by all the replies here.

Shardonneigghhh · 07/03/2024 19:28

Loads. Swimming, dance, brownies, church choir etc. I hated it. My mum couldn't cope sitting in with us I think. If ut aasn't a structured activity it was the park or a walk (regardless of weather) or the library. It feels really ungrateful saying it , but I used to wish for just one day a week where i didn't have to go out and do something. Therefore my kids do much less. My sister follows my mum's model and does every activity going with her kids.

CharSiu · 07/03/2024 19:28

No and was helping in my Fathers restaurant from about 3, yes really. They used to get me to fetch things. I got my first proper job at 13.

ParrotParrot · 07/03/2024 19:27

No we didn’t even have any holidays! Not till I was an adult did I have a holiday and no no activities

ChristianHornersGlisteningFinger · 07/03/2024 19:26

I was born in 1973. So school in late seventies and all through the eighties.

I did gymnastics, horse riding, dry ski slope skiing, Brownies, Guides and Ranger Guides (with Gang show and camps as extras), briefly a bit of modern dance and Scottish Country Dancing. However, looking back I now realise that my best friend, whose family were not as well off as mine, only ever did Guiding, none of the other stuff. We did swimming at school and she and I used to go to the pool together in our spare time.

What was not popular in my area when I was young was team sports of any description. I can’t think of any schoolmate of mine who did a sport competitively.

LifesTooShortToLearnPolish · 07/03/2024 19:26

Primary age in the 70s: swimming, brownies, ballet, piano, Sunday school
Teenager in 80's: ballet, guides, netball, piano

Single parent family from council estate!

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 07/03/2024 19:26

Born in 76 and I did brownies, swimming, dance. My siblings all did similar activities as well and we were out most weekends.
I hated being out every weekend because it at my parents house near the sea as all my friends were out playing in the street and I couldn’t take anyone with us because we only had enough seats in the car for the amount of people in our family.

Now realise how lucky I was.

Vitriolinsanity · 07/03/2024 19:25

I always wanted to ride. So I learned when I was 50.

s4usagefingers · 07/03/2024 19:25

There was only really brownies/scouts (which I didn’t enjoy) and probably dancing at the community centre (same). Musical instrument for free through school. I did horse riding for a few years but it’s not a posh thing where I am. These days I think kids do extra curricular because mam is at work and kids need something to do. Growing up I only knew one mam who worked full time.

Spring5 · 07/03/2024 19:25

Lancrelady80 · 07/03/2024 19:06

Nothing for me. But money was very tight and transport very limited.

Same for me. Every answer if it involved money was a no. I was so good at athletics but no wasn’t allowed to sign up

WestendGrrls · 07/03/2024 19:25

Grew up on a council estate in the 80s. Went to brownies for a bit, we didn't do much there though. Left because I didn't like going to church. Couldn't afford anything else. Wanted to do various hobbies, one in particular was my dream, but parents had no time/money/inclination for it.