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If you grew up in the 80s/early 90s. Did you do extra curricular activities?

411 replies

Jellycatjellycat · 07/03/2024 19:03

I'm interested to see what is the norm.

I did nothing, no swimming, dance, brownies or anything like that. I do remember other girls doing Brownies and Ballet after school and asking my mum if I could go. She shut it down and told me I wouldn't like it.

These days of course most children do a lot of extra curricular activities but wondering if perhaps it wasn't such a thing years ago.

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Underastarlitsky · 07/03/2024 20:03

No nothing here either - I always wanted to do horse riding (which my sister did) - but was told we couldn't afford it and dance - but was told I was too shy!!!

supersonicginandtonic · 07/03/2024 20:03

I did girls brigade, Tuesday club (like a youth club at church), orchestra; swimming lessons and Sunday school.

UpsideLeft · 07/03/2024 20:03

UpsideLeft · 07/03/2024 19:59

Age 14 onwards we were all down the local pub because of course times were different then

50p for half a pint of cider which we had for the whole night, mostly we shared that one glass just to be there

HungryBeagle · 07/03/2024 20:02

Yes. Ballet and Rainbows/Brownies, then started football when I was about 11. Also piano lessons. Late 80s, early 90s.

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 07/03/2024 20:02

Brownies, Ballet, Irish dancing, Piano, Public Speaking, Gymnastics & St Johns Ambulance First Aid.

UpsideLeft · 07/03/2024 20:01

Oh yes age 4 I did try ballet and I was absolutely rubbish and hated it Grin

user1471556818 · 07/03/2024 20:01

No car but cycled to brownies for a while .Church youth club as it was really cheap to go to .But had a job after school from aged 12 so didn't have a lot of free time

Strokethefurrywall · 07/03/2024 20:00

I was born in late '79 and did (not all at same time)

  • ballet (when I was about 4)
  • swimming (4-15 years)
  • piano (4-15 years)
  • brownies/guides (until 15-16ish)
  • karate (1 year)
  • gymnastics (6 months)

We were allowed to try something for a term, but the absolute constants and non-negotiables were swimming, piano and guides. Swimming because I loved it, piano because the whole family is musical and guides because it kept me out of trouble insofar as was possible until I was 16.

I've never pressured either of my boys, they both only do football now, but spent a good few years doing karate, parkour, drama and piano/guitar lessons.

Bax765 · 07/03/2024 20:00

I did swimming, brownies/guides, girls brigade, violin lessons, ballet, dance/drama, then horse riding when I was in high school

UpsideLeft · 07/03/2024 19:59

Age 14 onwards we were all down the local pub because of course times were different then

UpsideLeft · 07/03/2024 19:58

Yes in the 70's and 80's at school for free in my state school I did Netball, tennis, gymnastics, cricket and the high jump in the athletics team

Outside of school I did Brownies, swimming and went to a couple of local youth clubs

I went horse riding a couple of times but it wasn't my thing

Never took any proper music lessons

God I was really sporty back then no wonder I was so slim

KingscoteStaff · 07/03/2024 19:58

Ballet, Brownies, then Guides, Church choir, Church youth group, school choir, piano and cello lessons, local youth orchestra holiday courses.

My sister did much the same, plus gymnastics.

rainbowbee · 07/03/2024 19:57

I had Brownies which I enjoyed. Prior to that there was ballet and piano at about 5, neither of which took off. Ice-skating as a young teen and then the school art club.

WonderingWanda · 07/03/2024 19:56

I did ballet for a bit but no others, we didn't have much money and I was always a bit envious of my friends who did gymnastics or swimming.

Sweetheart7 · 07/03/2024 19:56

90s child. None! No fancy after school clubs either how times have changed.

londonmummy1966 · 07/03/2024 19:56

Ballet Brownies swimming and piano lessons outside of primary and recorder and gym cubs at school (both free and run by staff).

Guides drama piano and clarinet lessons (paid for) at secondary. School ran loads of extra curriculars so I did swimming, choir orchestra military band drama and first aid at school. Local church ran a free youth club and drama group so I did those as well.

mrlistersgelfbride · 07/03/2024 19:54

It's interesting how this varies within families, I always did after school activities and I'm one of 2.
My partner is one of 4 and he said none of them did anything due to money and too many of them to juggle.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 07/03/2024 19:54

yes - over the years I did - Ballet, gymnastics, swimming, recorder, guitar, piano, violin, singing, drama, brownies, netball... didn't really find anything I excelled at and tended to quit when the novelty wore off 🤦‍♀️

Starabella · 07/03/2024 19:54

I did absolutely nothing and my parents were pretty well off. What I was allowed to do was play out all day and evening with my friends on our bikes, not a care in the World. None of my friends did classes either so I didn't feel I was missing out. In comparison, my kids do a lot of activities but, as we live rurally, do not play out with their friends. I feel they are missing out on more than I did as a child.

FrothyDonkeyMilk · 07/03/2024 19:53

I did horse riding for a short time but then my parents hit the financial skids and had to cancel it. Never got it back again and never did anything else.

Unless you count drinking vodka and trying to get into night clubs when I was a teenager?

SwordToFlamethrower · 07/03/2024 19:53

No, nothing. I did youth club disco for a short time, which I loved at around age 13/14.

Does that count?

Zephyry · 07/03/2024 19:53

I did brownies swimming and music lessons. School sports.
I remember thinking the more posh girls did ballet and horse riding as well. I have a few siblings so what we did was probably enough!

Starseeking · 07/03/2024 19:53

Starseeking · 07/03/2024 19:36

I did swimming and brownies, and later at school, netball.

I just remembered about music; I used to have flute lessons.

I also did ice-skating lessons for a few years in the council-owned amazing rink, until it closed down because they sold it to developers to build luxury flats along the river it was situated next to 😢😢😢 The flats cost millions these days, and I wouldn't be surprised if the council sold the land for a song back in those days.

Noicant · 07/03/2024 19:52

Nope, my parents didn’t have time, money or inclination

mrlistersgelfbride · 07/03/2024 19:52

I did Brownies, dancing and badminton at various ages. I do remember I was only allowed to do once dance routine for the show, when everyone else did two, as it was too expensive.
None of these were that expensive and they had to be local so I could walk to them with my mum as she doesn't drive.