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To think this a huge sum to spend on books?!

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KeiraKnightley2 · 07/03/2024 14:24

My boyfriend is moving into a new place soon (it's early days, so not living together yet). He loves books and so do I.

Anyway he said he's getting a big bookcase and has given himself a max budget of 1k to spend on books of his choice!

I said I thought this was a huge budget (great if he can do it) but he reacted with surprise, as though this is normal spending money. It isn't, is it?

Then again, you might spend thousands on a laptop, so maybe I'm wrong.

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animaginativeusername · 08/03/2024 07:26

I could easily spend this in a day. I have a list of books which I can't afford. eventually these turn up in charity shops, and I search on eBay and Amazon etc. I don't think it's a lot. Rather that than spending hundreds on a handbag which isn't even good quality

Orangeandgold · 07/03/2024 22:00

It’s alot to spend on books all at once. I can imagine that being the worth of all of their books.

Notellinganyone · 07/03/2024 20:40

As a lifelong bookworm, English graduate and English teacher I find this odd. Books are something I buy constantly but not in bulk. Does he not already own books?

ThanksItHasPockets · 07/03/2024 19:36

Gwenhwyfar · 07/03/2024 19:26

Yes, but is he an academic? Have I missed some updates. Even so, wouldn't an academic just buy books related to his subject, rather than to fill a book case?

“He's an academic. A lot of the books he wants are either in his industry or proper British classics.”

You can click ‘see all’ on the OP to see her updates.

Upallnight2 · 07/03/2024 19:31

I mean I spend a lot on holidays, some people spend a lot on clothes/shoes etc, so if that's his passion then why not 🤷‍♀️

Gwenhwyfar · 07/03/2024 19:26

ThanksItHasPockets · 07/03/2024 16:41

Not for an academic who refers frequently to them.

Yes, but is he an academic? Have I missed some updates. Even so, wouldn't an academic just buy books related to his subject, rather than to fill a book case?

mamaduckbone · 07/03/2024 19:17

I love books but wouldn't choose to spend that much all in one go, as I like to choose books as and when I want to read them.
Is this budget more for 'show' books to make the bookcase look good, I wonder? Lots of expensive hardbacks and books to present a certain image?

MarkWithaC · 07/03/2024 19:15

It sounds like a lot, but if I were to add up the cost of the books I currently have (real ones and Kindle ones) it'd probably be eye-watering. You just don't notice when you buy them here and there.
I do find it a bit of an odd way to buy books, unless I suppose you had some books in mind you particularly wanted and knew you'd treasure rather than giving away or selling on, like reference books, some beautiful Folio Society editions of books you love, or art/wildlife/botanical/whatever books that you'll look through over and over.

AgnesX · 07/03/2024 19:10

It sounds lovely... I wish I had both space and budget 😊

MILTOBE · 07/03/2024 19:00

I have tons of books but I could easily spend £1,000 on more. It must be lovely for him - a real treat.

Luckyduc · 07/03/2024 18:40

Naaa....that's not bad. If he can afford it then why not. I spent £240 on my kids book advent calander. Some books can be £60 or more each. We've got a gigantic book collection, it really needs it's own room in our house now and we've no intention tion of not buying more.

WonderingWanda · 07/03/2024 18:34

It's a bit unusual to buy 1k worth of books in one go, is he planning to read then all or does he just want them for decor in the new bookcase?

Wibblebits · 07/03/2024 18:28

If I brought all the books I wanted I would have to open a large library! I read all of my mates bookshelf then added till it was overflowing. I prefer digital now but it's even more expensive. Literature is the best!

Whatwouldnanado · 07/03/2024 18:22

Is he good with money otherwise? Pays his way on the boring stuff? Saves? Happy to have joint saving goals? Isn’t going to sit in reading all the time ignoring you? Might let you help pick a couple? Then ok by me .

HungryBeagle · 07/03/2024 18:22

It’s an unusual thing to do, in that most people collect books over time rather than buy a huge amount in one go, but it is unusual in a nice way! I’d love to do it. People spend thousands on designer gear, holidays, beauty treatments etc, so there’s no reason someone can’t spend the same on books if they’ve got it spare.

vincettenoir · 07/03/2024 18:18

I dream of having a huge bookcase filled with books. Usually they are collected over a lifetime rather than bought outright but I guess lots of people are living in small places and cannot easily store books and take them from place to place when they move.

I agree with you that it is a bit decadent, but not mega decadent. It's easy enough to spend many £1000s on a bathroom or kitchen Reno or restoring a fireplace and I can see how this would give a lot more joy and would be a lifetime investment.

I would just add that if he does buy them new would be good to support independent bookstores.

VeryQuaintIrene · 07/03/2024 18:16

In my academic field, 1000 pounds of the latest books from OUP would barely fill half a shelf!

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 07/03/2024 18:12

If it is his money do not see the issue as he could have a hobby that costs a lot more and it is his passion so do not see an issue unless you are struggling for money. I would not tell a partner it is too much if their own personal cash.

QueSyrahSyrah · 07/03/2024 18:09

Good for him if he can afford it, but I urge him to use a small independent bookshop rather than an online giant!

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 07/03/2024 18:07

Over time, I think I have easily spent that on books.

BronwenTheBrave · 07/03/2024 17:47

The most I ever spent on a book was £120. Rare signed limited first edition. It is a hobby of mine, and that one shelf is worth about £1K.

NashvilleQueen · 07/03/2024 17:36

It's like he's doing it for an aesthetic rather than a love of reading which is a bit cringe. If he's such a big reader he will have heaps of books already not filling a massive bookcase from a standing start.

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/03/2024 17:30

Daisypod · 07/03/2024 14:31

I've always brought books as and when, spending all that in one go seems very strange as it will take ages to read them and your tastes change. Sounds like he just wants to buy them to look impressive.

Indeed. I've spent more on books in my adult life than I could possibly count but the notion of "I'm getting a big bookcase so I'm going to buy £1000 worth of books all at once" is weird.

pootlin · 07/03/2024 17:29

Bloody hell! Why is my iPhone correcting books to boobs!!

WhoaJayShettybambalam · 07/03/2024 17:27

Is it new books that he wants? What about books that he already has?

I would love to spend that amount on books.