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To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

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Rosebyanothername19 · 06/03/2024 20:27

I wfh full time and have to juggle picking up DC and taking to after school clubs etc. So don't have a huge amount of time for shopping/cooking delicious home made meals from scratch.

I managed to do a quick weekly shop the other day but was running out of ideas for dinners and grabbed a packet of something on offer that you just chuck all the ingredients in a bag and cook so it's nice and easy to prep and I can leave cooking while I do other stuff. We have had a couple in the past and my DH has said he didn't really like them, but this was was more Italian based which we eat a lot of so hoped it would be OK.

So tonight he sits down to dinner and just pulled a face and said I'm not eating this. I'll just make a sandwich. This caused my DC to say I don't want it either!

I managed to convince my DC to eat it and they enjoyed it, but my DH just sat there with a full plate and a face on.

I've gone to take DC to bed and he has gone to the shop to buy a pizza.

AIBU: I shouldn't have cooked it if there was a chance he wouldn't like it, forcing him to get his own dinner

Or

NBU: He should have eaten it and said maybe don't get that again?

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Aria999 · 06/03/2024 20:45

Not sure about this. DH and I only cook things we know the other one will eat (he does the huge majority of the cooking) but we both have food phobias dating from childhood.

If we want to try something that we are not sure the other one will like then we check in advance.

I think if I had specifically told DH I didn't like something and he cooked it anyway I would be annoyed. But he would never do that and neither would I to him.

So yes he was rude but perhaps not unreasonable.

Bumblebeeinatree · 06/03/2024 20:45

Sounds like you knew he didn't like those sort of meals and bought it anyway. You were warned he probably wouldn't like it, why buy it? There must have been other alternatives that you knew he would have liked.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 06/03/2024 20:44

so he didn't have a sandwich

he has gone out to buy a pizza ?

spoilt !

maybe he could make time in the week or at the weekend to do an online shop, and meal plan too...

Veggieburgers · 06/03/2024 20:44

PTSDBarbiegirl · 06/03/2024 20:43

CF and depressing. Don't cook another scrap for him.

A bit of an overreaction?

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Rosebyanothername19 · 06/03/2024 20:43

Greengumby · 06/03/2024 20:36

I don’t have an issue with an adult choosing not to eat something - after a childhood of being forced to eat things I didn’t and still don’t like, I now have control of my food choices.

However, DH needs to be respectful and realise he is a role model for DC, the way he refused was rude and created issues with DC at mealtime.

He should also be more appreciative that you cooked. Every meal does not need to be cooked for his tastes, if he doesn’t like what’s on offer he can get something else after DC have gone to bed…and he better be cooking his share of meals for the family.

Thank you for your response. I agree that it wasn't so much him not eating it (although he could have at least tried it!) But the way he went about it gave me a problem with DC not wanting to eat it and asking for something different.

He will begrudgingly cook sometimes but I still have to think of the meal and preferably buy the ingredients.

I'm so sick of meal planning for everyone's tastes, especially when I also have to ensure it is safe for various intolerances.

Maybe I should do spag bol every night as its the only thing that gets no complaints! Haha!

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Mayorq · 06/03/2024 20:43

"He should have eaten it and said maybe don't get that again?"

Absolutely
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"We have had a couple in the past and my DH has said he didn't really like them,"

Oh

PTSDBarbiegirl · 06/03/2024 20:43

CF and depressing. Don't cook another scrap for him.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/03/2024 20:42

So tonight he sits down to dinner and just pulled a face and said I'm not eating this. I'll just make a sandwich. This caused my DC to say I don't want it either!

Rude, didn't try it, and in front of the kids. He was being an idiot.

If you try it and don't like it, in front of kids, you either suck it up or pretend to be full and eat later. You don't model shit behaviour.

Devon1987 · 06/03/2024 20:41

He is rude. He could have at least tried it. I wouldn’t cook for him again without an apology. If wants certain meals he can do the food shop and bloody cook them.

HelloMiss · 06/03/2024 20:41

Can you afford takeaways?

Cantara · 06/03/2024 20:40

He didn't want it, so bought himself something he would eat... I wouldn't force anyone to eat something they didn't want.

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Rosebyanothername19 · 06/03/2024 20:38

Whaleandsnail6 · 06/03/2024 20:34

I couldnt eat a meal I really didn't like, especially if it was all one thing (eg a pasta dish) so I couldnt just eat the part I like and leave the bit I don't.

I dont think either of you were wrong though...you and child enjoyed the food, dh didnt so sorted himself out later.

Surely you would at least try it though? Not just refuse to eat it because you didn't like the other ones.

I served it with cous cous as per the serving suggestion.

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Greengumby · 06/03/2024 20:36

I don’t have an issue with an adult choosing not to eat something - after a childhood of being forced to eat things I didn’t and still don’t like, I now have control of my food choices.

However, DH needs to be respectful and realise he is a role model for DC, the way he refused was rude and created issues with DC at mealtime.

He should also be more appreciative that you cooked. Every meal does not need to be cooked for his tastes, if he doesn’t like what’s on offer he can get something else after DC have gone to bed…and he better be cooking his share of meals for the family.

Whaleandsnail6 · 06/03/2024 20:34

I couldnt eat a meal I really didn't like, especially if it was all one thing (eg a pasta dish) so I couldnt just eat the part I like and leave the bit I don't.

I dont think either of you were wrong though...you and child enjoyed the food, dh didnt so sorted himself out later.