To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

Does he work the hours to avoid life or is it really needed?

I was brought up in a house where you ate what you were given, and you ate it all up I believe current thinking is we should listen to our bodies more

It is very disrespectful to the chicken

Sorry, duplicate post!

I was brought up in a house where you ate what you were given, and you ate it all up. I have bad memories of chasing cold peas around a plate, unable to leave the table until I had finished. Shudder. I still harbour some feelings of guilt that will see me "try" a meal even if I don't like it.

DH also has issues with food from his childhood but he has taken the opposite stance, whereby he is "now an adult" and can therefore refuse to eat food if he doesn't want to, whether he likes it or not, it's his choice.

I've learnt to live with it. The one thing I will never do is turn mealtimes into a battleground. And I now encourage DH to do most of the cooking, so at least there's a good chance that he'll eat it!

@Rosebyanothername19 maybe because DH has told you previously that he didn't like this sort of meal (although it was a different flavour or meal or whatever this time round) he probably felt you dismissed his expressed dislike. Could it be that the whole 'cook in a bag' thing is the issue...so regardless of different meal choice, it's the concept itself that he doesn't like???

This.
He can plan, shop and cook for every other night from now on.

I would be furious if any adult behaved like this in front of my DC let alone their father.

Not every meal has to be enjoyed or even eaten but it does need to be appreciated and the person who made it respected.

Tell him as he's not liking your choice he's now free to do 50% of the family meals here's the shopping list add your ingredients for the dishes you want to cook.

As in that's his issue. I personally don't mind them

They taste like shit

Just get gousto or hello fresh etc. Let everyone pick the meals on it each week and then since it has a recipe to follow and it's all pre measured he can cook it without moaning.

This

Someone has gone to the effort of making a meal for you
Put on a brave face and eat it with a smile and a compliment for the cook
It's called manners and not thinking the world revolves around you

I think he sounds rude and ungrateful declaring how he wouldn't eat it. However, it is not something I would care about if he hadn't declared it in front of the DC, he is an adult and can feed himself pizza. That said, what would he say if you declared that you hated the meal and were going out to get pizza. I don't think many Mum's behave like that and there would probably be double standards over that sort of behaviour if you did it.

I had serious conversations with my Dh that he needed to learn to cook healthy tasty meals the year we were married. I would absolutely not be ok with this behaviour when you’re the sole cook. I’d be saying that was poor role modelling for your children both in terms of trying food, and being Polite about something someone else has cooked for them. It was terrible husbanding when you never cook, so I am taking a cooking break and you will be responsible for shopping and meals next week. Every night, I will have nothing to do with it but i will , unlike you, be polite about whatever you cook, except for the night I take myself out.

Would he have eaten this if it had been cooked normally, not in a bag?

What exactly is his issue with it?

I'm in the yanbu camp.

If you don’t like something you don’t like it
if you put a fish pie or a curry anywhere near me I wouldn’t go near it let alone try it

in the big scheme of things you both had reasonable points but in life we don’t get everything right .I’d just move on

That's very convenient that his job takes him away from school runs, cooking, bed time for DC. And he also doesn't meal plan or cook. Can't believe how many people are talking about a grown man eating one meal he's not fond of like it's a great tradgedy he needs to endure while OP is run ragged.

I'd be very tempted to boil up some plain pasta for his dinner tomorrow and pop it in front of him with a flourish saying, "New rule, anyone who doesn't like my cooking gets to enjoy penne surprise."
I have done this before for XH who never cooked and complained at certain things. I won't lie, it led to an argument but it gave me some satisfaction that he had to source his own food somehow that evening.

I must admit, I've never tried the bake in a bag thing. What is supposed to be wrong with them?

He's not 2, eat what you're given. Sounds a bit churlish all round.

Well whoop-de-doo isn't that grand of him. A veritable Mr 50:50 division of chores. Who does the laundry and the cleaning? Sounds like it's about time for a come to Jesus talk OP.

Sounds like it's about a whole lot more than a meal, OP.

It's not doing your marriage any favours if he's not pulling his weight in the family/home. It's hugely disprespectful to have done this in front of your DC.

Don’t stop buying them if you like them. Just say “DH we’re having the chicken in a bag meal tonight if you don’t want that would you like to cook something else for us all?”
give him plenty of warning so he’s got time to think of something and go to the shops

and then have a conversation about redistribution of labour because it sounds like you’re doing far too much and he’s not doing anywhere near enough

I've never seen these cook in a bag things. Intrigued.

I have occasionally bought the odd cheat meal and they're so disappoint dammit.

P.s. your DH was rude. He didn't have to eat it. But he was very rude.