To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

I think it is the perfect reaction.

He was rude and ungrateful, and this spilled over to the kids behaviour too. How fucking dare he speak like that to someone who has cooked a meal for him?!

Only a petulant child takes one look at a plate and declare they dont like the meal without actually trying it.

At the very least he should have tried it and said "I am sorry but I really dont like this, I'll get something else later, but thanks for making it" out of ear shot of the kids.

My ex once gave me an earholing for ironing his shirts wrong. Was the last time I ever touched his washing. If he had acted this way about a meal I cooked him it would be the last meal I would cook for him.

@Rosebyanothername19
Onr of the Maggie, Italian herbs bags, I use to love these but drunk the juice and sickened myself with it so wouldn't try any off the other ones.

You really have to speak to him about his behaviour. He was teaching his child it is okay to be rude and ungrateful. He doesn't seem to do anything with the children. He's working before dinner and after dinner while you do all the pick ups and put them to bed. I would absolutely be making spaghetti bolognese every night until he learns to be a grown up.

All of you write a meal plan for X amount of weeks and rotate them. Then you don't need to do it every week. Just pick one.

I think the back story might make a difference. For instance my oh would make me an omelette and then act offended because I wouldn't eat it but the reality is he knows full well that omelettes make me feel sick and the kids are also well aware of this.

DH hates cooking, and he struggles with meal planning.

I find it easy and don't mind cooking, plus I have more free time so I do it all.

The trade off is, I cook what I like to eat! DH has never complained, ever, about anything I have cooked.

He's grateful for whatever hot meal he's handed!

Why would you sit and eat something you don't like 😂

How horribly ungrateful of him to not even acknowledge all the work you put in to feeding your family and how poor of him to not model trying new food in front of the children. You need to go on strike. Tell him next week it’s all on him.

I’m of the view that we can’t all have our favourite dinner every day, so eat what’s prepared. Otherwise you (yes, you) will end up preparing ‘I don’t feel like that’ backups. It’s a bad example for him to set, getting a pizza after mulishly refusing to eat what you’d prepared. It wouldn’t have killed him to take a few bites and then quietly do something later. A solution is to sit everyone down, make a plan for the week, and that’s the menu.

The thing is, if one person never cooks and the one who does really likes a dish the other doesn't, does the "chef" just never get to have the thing they really like once in a while because the non cook doesn't really like it?

I'm not talking about cooking something the other person really really hates, but it just sounds like it's not one of his favourite meals/not what he fancied.

Not really fair for the non cook to dictate the menu when I'm sure the cook has meals they put on the menu and just go meh, because its the other person's favourite... it should be balanced imo, some nights you win, some nights you were a bit disappointed but your favourite is tomorrow so look forward to that iyswim

I don't have this problem as I live alone, so just curious how the dynamics work.

I had this -I went on cooking strike and refused to feed anyone for more than a month. I literally yelled at DH that just because I was born with a vagina didn't mean Id come out of DM's able to read a recipe. DC are now appreciative of my food having had to eat their fathers for a month and he is aware of the fact that the fairies don't stock the fridge or meal plan and that creating food he and the DC both like is not as easy as it looks.

I can recommend it.

I've never tried these magi bags. But am I right that the veg and meat go in together for the same amount of time? I can't imagine what the textures of a piece of meat, a carrot and a courgette cooked for the same time would be.

But still OP is NBU- the husband was rude.

He was rude, and he didn't have to just blurt out his feelings in front of the children like that.

It wouldn't have hurt him to take a bite and maybe push it around on his plate like the child he was being.

More so than being rude about the meal he seems to think you are his personal slave and has created his life where he gets to avoid anything he doesn't like and you are stuck doing all the dirty work and paying for the privilege of doing it!

But you would still eat it and say thanks! I love cottage-- pie anyway--

What, do none of you remember the crippling disappointment of being starving for your dinner and your mum presenting you with something grim like cottage pie?

😞

He will just have to lower his working hours next week then since he’s dinner dad. My Dh and I would both work longer hours than we do. But we have kids and unlike your Dh we accept that means parenting them. Not expecting your wife to be your service human and work full time while looking after the kids and the house and him like she’s a sahm. I like this man less and less. In my house he’d have had his last meal cooked and his last sock washed decades ago.

I don't really get his issue
It's a quick meal, we can't eat our favourite food every day but it's hot and edible so I would just eat it and say thank you and then after maybe say I wasn't too keen on it

It's not like you gave him a weird combination of food or something he absolutely couldn't eat
I've cooked stuff for myself before that hasn't turned out the best but still eaten it as couldn't afford to waste the food

Tangent, but I always worry about what crap leaches out of these plastic bags when you cook them. Is it just me?

Anyway, back to the point...

@Lovebeingamummy2

I don't put veg in either, I roast the veg separately then mix with the couscous with juice and zest of a lemon

Tell him next week he's in charge of cooking and shopping, you'll do the week afterwards.

Ugh. I call that being deceptive and lying. It always bites you in the arse because then the person who cooked it for you will cook it again and again and when you finally crack and admit it’s like pig slops to you and you can’t stomach it, they will be understandably hurt about being lied to over and over by your smiling, complimenting fakery previously and then they will wonder what else you have lied about and gaslit them into thinking you like, when you actually hate it,

Honesty is the bedrock of a relationship. Without it, there is no real trust.

He can make his own fucking dinner in future. It’s not a restaurant, there’s no menu choice.

Op I think know the type of all in one bags you mean.

Can I say in our house we don't like them when we put all the veg and things in with the (normally chicken) BUT the chicken in the bag with the seasoning on its own it's bloody lovely. I find the veg in the bag too makes the whole thing a bit watery and dulls down the flavors.

He's being ridiculous, I've had those maggi bag meals and whilst they're not the most exciting thing I've eaten, they are perfectly good for a quick no fuss evening meal served with sides.

My god another thread about a man who doesn't pull his weight around the house. When will they end?

The meal sounded fine, all food groups represented. It's not fine that he's treating you like a household slave though.

I would not cook another meal for him until the landing, shopping and cooking was evenly shared.