To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

No its not, I like them. The husband thinks they are shit clearly

I'm an adult. I'm not eating anything I don't like

Especially when I've already told whoever is cooking that I don't like it.

I don't like mushrooms and would find it very rude to be given mushroom risotto when they know I don't like mushrooms.

Also I don't live in the 1950s so a boil in a bag meal is not for me

Ffs he's an adult, just eat it! My husband eats whatever I put down in front of him and is grateful, and vice versa. Picky men are so off putting.

Really don’t get how you thought from my posts that I think the woman should do it all.

Very rude in my book.
I also hate the relentlessness of meal planning and trying to keep things interesting. DH never complains even if I run out of time and it’s a tub of soup with a sandwich. The kids moan endlessly but they’re both very fussy so they just get what they get and I try to make sure they like at least something on the plate.

I’m using Simply Cook kits at the moment- they’re just the flavour element of the dish (spice rubs, stock pots, garlic paste, herb crumbs etc) but they come with a recipe card and shopping list for the other bits and bobs so planning/shopping/cooking is much quicker.

We like the Greek gyros, all of the noodle ones (particularly indo-Chinese hakka noodles), the curries and laksas, beef stroganoff and chicken parmigiana. They work out at £2.50 a meal for the flavour pots.

here a code for a free box if you want to give it a go

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I think it's fair enough if he didn't like it. But he shouldn't have said anything in front of your child.

Quite. It could have been gluggy overcooked pasta with no sauce and it’s still a hell of a lot more than he cooks any night.

This...

And my mum's rejoinder....

This is not a restaurant and I'm not your personal slave. If you don't like what I've cooked - please plan /shop/cook for all of us daily.

That would really piss me off. You’re running yourself ragged. Time for him to step up to the plate.

He's an ungrateful knob. How fucking rude

I can't believe there are posts here about the objective merits of the Maggi/ boil or bake bake in the bag.. jesus

"Except tonight as he is annoyed with me for dinner. "
So he's huffing and punishing you by not doing his share in the kitchen.

Next time say to him 'it sounds like you think I did something wrong'

Fine he doesn't like the food, but he doesn't have to be rude to you about it.

He could have been gracious, understanding and polite. Not teaching the kids to speak to you like a demanding entitled little sod.

Its such a shame you feel you have to post on here about your partner.

I guarantee he isn't wringing his hands about tonight's tea.

There are loads of apologists here.

Put a good friend of yours in your husbands shoes. Can you imagine that friend speaking to you in the way you husband did, about food? No? Why??

I must admit, I've never tried the bake in a bag thing. What is supposed to be wrong with them?

We have not had them for years so they may have improved but to us they always had a plastic taste to them

To be fair it’s just as easy to throw a couple of chicken breasts and some veg in a roasting tin so I don’t really see the point in the bag

OP you were unreasonable to get something you knew that he wouldn’t like. Flavour may be different but it’s the bag that sounds like it’s the issue for him

Being a bad role model in front of kids for not even trying food - rude and annoying.

Sulking about it and then not doing the dishes - exceptionally rude and annoying.

Being basically incapable of cooking family meals - totally tragic.

I would be super annoyed about this. He is bang out of order on multiple fronts.

Do you never discuss what you are having for tea?

I can't imagine juts making a meal and placing it in front of DH, or him me. It's a joint decision so for that YABU anyway.

Then you gave him a variant of something he doesn't really like. I don't know why anyone would do that.

That's your opinion though.

If everyone thought that they wouldn't be in business anymore.

This sounds like Mum martyrdom to me. Why are you working full time and then cooking for him every night? What would he do if he lived alone. He needs to get his own bloody dinner, it's not the 1950s.

YANBU to say that he was rude about it. Without getting in to any other issues about the division of labor, he could have handled the situation much better. That said, he is a grown man and shouldn’t have to eat something he doesn’t like, especially if it is something like this that you just threw together (as opposed to something you put thought into, the fact that he didn’t like it is nothing personal against you or your cooking skills).
He may have acted like a child but he fed himself something else and that should be the end of it. Just because you are married doesn’t mean either partner should be forced to eat something they don’t want to, maybe that is a polite thing to do in the company of others but it shouldn’t apply between married people, you should be free to not like something and let your spouse know that without it becoming a big deal.

No, I don't think people should be obligated to eat foods they dislike. This is something I've changed my mind on as I've gotten older and gained some perspective on how other people experience food differently than I do and shaken off the scorn for "pickiness" that I picked up in childhood.

But it's perfectly reasonable to take exception to how your husband went about declining, especially in front of the kids. It's fair to ask him to try a bite or two if he can manage, to say "this just isn't what my body's in the mood for tonight," instead of pulling faces, etc.

And I'd absolutely pair that with a conversation about him contributing more to family meal planning, shopping & prep.

If I don’t like the look of something and I don’t want it, I won’t be eating it. Maybe if I was a guest in someone’s house I’d take a mouthful but in my own home? No way

They are disgusting. Cooking the ingredients all together in that plastic bag thing is gross and changes the whole texture and taste of the food.
So for me this isn’t a perfectly good even meal - it’s a pile of tasteless mush that I couldn’t eat.

I also hate the thought of my food absorbing harmful chemicals from the plastic.

I had those bags things once . Well I tried too. The sugar was unreal I couldn’t eat it .

I do feel it’s time for dh to start stepping up at home more .
Also watching his respect for you in front of dc

Was it this? https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/305738179

It looks horrible. Why not just roast the chicken breasts wrapped in foil and the veg, in the meantime make a passata by simmering tinned tomatoes with garlic and onion powders and herbs? Just as quick and easy but much nicer.

If you know DH doesn't like bag meals (and I don't blame him) then don't make them.

Same here. But if I do cook something that DH doesn’t like, he says, ‘it was nice for a change.’ Sounds polite but I know that it is code for ‘never give that to me again’. So I don’t.
I sometimes make him meals that I don’t like, just to be nice, while I have a sandwich or something.