To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

Realistically though, I wonder how many Mothers for a start get cooked for every night (only half joking), sit down, make a face, declare the cooking to be below standard and then leave to say they are off to the shops to buy a pizza.

Really quite shocked at the amount of people here who say they'd force their DH's to eat food they don't like.... yes, there's an imbalance of duties here and OP needs to insert a stick up her DH's backside but Jesus christ.

About a month or so ago there was a thread where a woman was complaining her DH was always serving her food she'd previously told him she didn't like. The response was overwhelmingly refuse to eat it. Tell him you don't like it. Bin it. Ect.

Same scenario but role reversal here. Fascinating how responses change based on the sex of the individual complaining, isn't it...

I can't understand people not understanding this.
Would you accept a child to at least try something you have cooked before saying they don't like it? How do they know they don't like it without taking a bite?
It would make all the difference to me. I wouldn't expect someone to eat something they HATE but I would think it very rude if I cooked for someone and they thought they'd PREFER a pizza

I can’t understand the posters who are saying they can’t believe he didn’t try it or at least take one bite… what would happen if he took a bite and then said he didn’t like it, was not going to eat it and was getting pizza? The result is still the same regardless of whether he takes a bite or not.

He didn't even try it?
No, you're not being at all unreasonable.
For a few days I would cook for you and child and make him sort himself out!!!
If he tried it and didn't love it I would still expect him to eat it! He's a grown up. I wouldn't cook it again but unless it's making him sick, he can eat the dinner I kindly cooked for him, just like I would expect my children to do!!

Why can't he just make something he likes then?

I sometimes have this problem with my DC as they have been spoilt by my DH's cooking. My DH loves cooking, he's obsessed, he is a really good cook but he's not around in the week very often due to work, so his creations are weekend, laboured over numbers, they often have expensive or Artisan ingredients included. My DC now find my concoctions amusing and disappointing, amusing because I often substitute things, think mackerel Thai curry one night as I didn't have any prawns or disappointing as I have shop bought pizzas. My DD is nearly 13 and is health obsessed so she is not keen on 'junk'. DS will sometimes question what is in the dish with a look of this doesn't look very appetising. He was ill last week and claimed my overcooked, soggy pasta made him sick as he said it was swimming in cream- he qualified this remark by saying that he wasn't being offensive it was just fact. On the upside of this he is learning to cook as I have encouraged him to do so before university next year.

Just like you’re not listening to OP saying she’s fed up of being expected to work full time and do all the household chores.

'He could have eaten it and said don't buy it again' - he already has. At least twice. And you didn't listen.

I have found that one of the pleasures of being an adult is not having to eat food I don't like.

I'd find it rude that suddenly he had time to go to the shops but only gets a pizza for himself.

Rather than a more productive range of meals he liked for next few days.

Ah, the confusion probably lies in the fact op’s husband behaves like a child. Doing none of the parenting, nor housework, shopping or cooking and just sits in his room until he’s called for his tea. I can see where op might be mistaken in thinking she’s got another child to look after.

I bet if DH had to work his extra hours after he’s done his fair share of dinner bath and bed etc he’d mysteriously be able to get all his office work done in fewer hours each day. It’s clear he’s choosing to opt out of the drudge work of family life.

@Rosebyanothername19 tell him he is on the cooking duties for the evening meals from now on! bloody cheek!!

Maybe he thinks they're too little effort and wants you to put in more effort for dinner. Obviously he can't say this, so it's more acceptable to say that he doesn't like the taste, then when you give him one that has a different flavour he refuses to even try it and you know it's not the taste!

It's coming across to me like you haven't tried hard enough (to him) especially as he is being so rude about it in front of your son.

Would he be like this if you had given him beans on toast for dinner? Or some other easy option?

Very well said. The double standards are shocking.

Have you missed that this man sits at his desk at home whilst OP works full time, does the food shop and the school pick-up, takes the kids to after-school clubs and then cooks dinner?

He'd already said before that he didn't really like them and you're annoyed he told you again and sorted something out for himself??

This

However, he did not have to pull a face imo

So totally not the point, but anyone who struggles with meal planning, there's an app called "Cherrypick" (formerly Lollipop) where you can select meals from their database, and it automatically populates a Sainsbury's online shopping basket. It's not perfect, but it really takes the stress out of meal planning! My DH also has the login, and is welcome to add any meals he fancies to the planner. If he doesn't then he eats (without complaint) whatever I add to the planner. We share the cooking, with him doing the majority as I do the majority of the planning and the shopping.

@Rosebyanothername19 trying to think of new meals was the bane of my existence my DS14 can never think of anything he wants but knows he doesn't want anything that's ever suggested. DP would think he was doing me a favour by saying just cook whatever I wanted or was easy for me but then they'd both moan they had the same thing week in week out.
About 6 months ago we stopped asking DS altogether and started following food pages on Instagram there's lots of people who make quick, easy, healthy dinners and things I wouldn't have thought to have on my rotation. Now whenever one of us see something that takes our fancy we send it to the other and save it and on a Sunday morning (our weekly shopping day) we have a look through select the menu for that week and shop accordingly.

I've never had one and wouldn't really want to eat something cooked in plastic but I think OP wasn't being unreasonable because what her DH did was childish and rude. My DH would never behave like that over a meal I had planned, bought and cooked for him. He'd at least try it but I don't think there's ever been anything I've cooked that has been inedible to him luckily.

Appreciate what you are saying, OP, however, your husband is not a child to be told what or when to eat.
I think we all endured this to some extent before adulthood.

FFS in a country where people are missing meals because they are so broke.

Really rude of him, and such a bad attitude to have in front of your children.
if he really didn’t like it (after at least trying it) he should at least say “thank you for making this, I’m not too keen on this meal, but I appreciate you making it” (something along those lines). He can make his own food from now on.

Exactly, she does all the house stuff because she's work from home, but he can't do any house stuff because he's working from home. Interesting!

In any event I'd be shocked if he's not just playing call of duty on his phone.