To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

Tell him. Next week you will take on my responsibilities for a week. So pick up, meal planning, grocery shopping and cooking. Then we'll talk.

My mum & I had the same exact microwave. Same brand, same wattage, same model.
She told me about this fish recipe she’d been making for herself - so I made it for my husband.
Halibut or tilapia or some sort of fresh filets in a dish and salsa poured over them & then cooked for however many minutes.
It was awful. They were slimy & tasted terrible.
But my husband ate them and never complained and afterwards said, “those weren’t very good.”
But he ate them. lol

@mamajong apologies if I seem angry, I'm not. I think things we write can be difficult to read the tone of, I just find it frustrating to read so much of people trying to help women (mainly but not exclusively) keep their dp happy, to avoid them being horrid. I would agree with your point he hasn't been such an idiot to her and he himself made the effort to share the cooking. I too feel sorry for people who don't have a relationship where by they share the load, i just can't understand why anyone should put up with it let alone try and look after them better.

Chill out, you seem really angry. My reply literally stated that he could have handled it better but it's not unreasonable to want to eat food you like and my suggestions are all centred around that. I am so glad I live in a house where neither party considers it a hardship to buy and cook, between us, food that people in the home want to eat. I feel sorry for anyone where that's not a thing.

@mamajong you literally told her all the things she could do to avoid being disrespected by her own DH 🤯. You literally said "a way around this is to agree a meal plan" so they were "both happy", what she's (justifiably) unhappy about is being treated badly in front of her child after being relied on to cook all the meals on top of all of her other responsibilities. Your advice is to check with him what she's allowed to cook first, to avoid him being rude/childish/unkind/having a bad attitude and setting an awful example to her child???? And I'm talking nonsense?!

What a silly fuss from a grown man. He gave your child a very poor example as well. I can't be doing with pickiness about food myself so I might have pointed him in the direction of bread and cheese.
That said, it might be worth sitting down with him and child and making a menu for the week of stuff they will both eat. I'm tempted to say-then send him shopping but the answer might be a weekly supermarket delivery?

What does he do to help out? Seems you’re doing the lions share. I would have said cook your own then. All the time.

-I don’t quite understand why you bought something you knew that he didn’t like.

-Your dh should have done his best and pretended to eat it in front of the dc.

-In future he should step up and share the shopping and cooking.

I wouldn't eat something I don't like and do t expect anyone else to either.

I clearly said before that they should consider sharing the cooking if that's feasible and that both me and my DP cook so your post makes no sense.

We both like to eat things we enjoy, personally I think if you are regularly making meals your DP doesn't like that's disrespectful of you but you do you and ill do me. Neither of us is in the OP situation and we are obviously both happy with our lives so I'll end the conversation with you there.

He wants to eat what he wants, he can share the cooking. Otherwise asking 1 person to compromise or cook multiple things every day is entirely unreasonable. If you're doing that for your family every day, I'd wonder why they have such little respect for your time.

Where have I ever said you have to deprive yourself of something you like, jeez! I've clearly said meals can be adapted or you can do 2 different things, it's not that big a deal.

In our house we have 2 vegans, a veggie, a nut allergy and the rest meat eaters, sometimes we eat different things or adapt meals slightly. I still don't think it's unreasonable for 2 adults in the home to eat food they like and to be willing to make that for each other.

You seem hell bent on having a row, misinterpreting things to have a rant. Both parties should be ablebto eat meals they want to, life's to short to make this a drama.

I'm not going to deprive myself of ever eating something my DH doesn't like. It's not like she's feeding this to him every day. He can compromise occasionally. He'll live. Or he can do a nice thing and be the one to cook for a change... then he can choose what they eat.

How absolutely ridiculous. Surely in a harmonious relationship both adults can eat the food they like and if you care about your partner you should want to make food the other likes?? That cuts both ways. I have specific dietary needs, my partner doesn't and, shock horror, sometimes I adapt the meal slightly so we are both happy, as does my partner the other way round. In this case it sounds like a ready meal so why wouldn't you just get two different ones.

I honestly don't understand why people act like doing basic nice things for each other is such a hardship.

So the one doing all the cooking never gets to eat what they want? Does that seem fair to you?
A grown man doesn't need to ushered into the kitchen if he wants to cook, he knows where it is. Otherwise he can be grateful for the meal, even if it's not always his favorite. My God.

I literally suggested sharing the cooking, it's what we do but I tend to cook more as I'm generally home more and can see no reason to cook food I know my partner doesn't like. I don't think that's unreasonable. My son is more interested in cooking than my daughter so jog on with your nonsense.

Another poster making more of how op should prevent her DH from being an AH. No opinions on his little party piece in front of his child? Or that he's too lazy to make dinner of his own preference. Just that she really should cater better to the likes and dislikes of her DH to avoid the disrespect. I hope people don't teach their daughters this rubbish. My DH would never do this, our children are watching and learning.

I mean, DH could've handled it more respectfully but by your own admission you knew he wasn't keen on that type of food and bought it anyway.

The way around this is to agree a meal plan in advance and if it's practical to share the cooking / prep so you're both happy. It's frustrating when you make a meal and get that reaction I get that, but if you're in charge of the cooking it's not unreasonable to choose things you all like.

This. Are you sure he is actually working and not just gaming and checking out for a nice rest.

Cats and pigeons. DH is a boor and should have eaten his food or said he wasn't hungry. OP seems to do all the housework. On consideration, perhaps DH might like to cook. If not, then put up and shut up. But the work/life balance seems a bit out esp if one person is doing all the household running.

But she is complaining he did not like a meal she cooked him that she suspected he would not like. And I am suggesting that her work-life balance perhaps needs tweaking, which could include DH taking some of the load, after all. Why does everyone have to put jobs first? We work to live, not the other way round, surely?

Cheeky sod!

I would have put the whole lot in the bin and told them to sort themselves out in future.

Next time you wfh I’d be tempted to tell DH to sort dinner himself and I’d kick back with a nice glass of Chardonnay.

He also would be getting any slap and tickle from me for a while.

Hmmmm I think you took a risk knowing he might not have liked it. However he also made the wrong decision by mouthing in front of his child.

My family are meat eaters, I am not. Generally everyone eats vegetarian. However from time to time my husband will ask for some meat to be added to the online shop so that he can batch some meals and freeze. We usually do one or two left over nights a week and we all eat something we want. My husband accepts that I buy and meal plan and although I take into account everyone's preferences I don't get it 100% right which is ok. He would not have the nerve to criticise in front of the kids.

So you do all the chores because you work from home yet he also works from home, 5pm onwards, and all he does is just clear up after dinner but only when he's not in a mood?🤨
I love the way he 'works' during dinner prep and then 'works' again during bedtimes. I'm not getting a 50/50 vibe here.

Exactly. It’s not that he didn’t like it, that’s fair enough. It’s the way he behaved and his childish response (though most children know to be more polite than that). Grim. Selfish. Mean.
He should cook his own meal next time ungrateful arsehole