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Invited to hen but not wedding?

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Numnumnumnums · 05/03/2024 21:14

That’s weird right?

friend is getting married. Invited to hen do (it’s abroad so paid my part, few hundred) received my save the date to the wedding, but not an actual invite to the wedding. Then saw on social media a post chasing people for their rsvp at the end of the month. Turns out I wasn’t invited.

no fall out, not an intimate family wedding. But that’s weird right to invite someone to the hen (especially a paid for one far away) and not to invite them to the wedding?

yabu-no it’s common
yanbu- yeah that’s weird and i wouldn’t go to the hen

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Dartmoorcheffy · 05/03/2024 21:20

Have you actually contacted them to check. If they sent a save the date then it could be that they missed the invite

Numnumnumnums · 05/03/2024 21:20

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 05/03/2024 21:17

I would just contact them - they sent a save the date which you only send to your guest list, surely?

Yeah I did, and all I got was oh yeah sorry I should’ve told you earlier

so from that I took yeah we decided to basically not invite you?

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Notimeforaname · 05/03/2024 21:19

I would also contact them and tell them you've been saving this date...

hopscotcher · 05/03/2024 21:17

I possibly wouldn't mind being invited to a hen but not the wedding (although I wouldn't pay hundreds of pounds for a trip abroad whether I was invited to the wedding or not) but I'd find it odd to get a 'save the date' and not an invite. Have you established that you're definitely not invited and therefore no longer need to save said date?

BlondeFool · 05/03/2024 21:17

Extremely rude.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 05/03/2024 21:17

I would just contact them - they sent a save the date which you only send to your guest list, surely?