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To HATE my dog

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Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:11

We have a 7 year old pug who literally drives me nuts, he comes upstairs whilst we are out pisses on the banister. I am so sick of cleaning/re-painting. We have quite a big garden and all he does is chase passers by barking constantly. I know a dog is for life and everything but since having kids I really do not have the time and every time I look at him he just annoys me. It is really unfair to him as he could be with a family who love him, dont get me wrong, the kids LOVE him so I could not get rid but he just really gets on my nerves. I used to love dogs, we got a cat a year or so ago and he is amazing!

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AmyDudley · 04/03/2024 16:56

*YANBU.

Dogs are filthy and annoying.*

So presumably you don't have one ? If you brought dog into your home (as OP ha done) and then complained it was filthy and annoying, YWBU don't you think ?

The dog is marking his territory - you bought a cat into his house.

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Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:55

Notinthemood12 · 04/03/2024 16:54

Everyone comments how much of a lovely dog he is but yet he’s stuck with you. 🤮 should be ashamed. I would say rehome but you sound like the type to rehome through Gumtree. Can someone responsible help you to rehome?

He is a lovely dog because of me!

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Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:55

Notinthemood12 · 04/03/2024 16:54

Everyone comments how much of a lovely dog he is but yet he’s stuck with you. 🤮 should be ashamed. I would say rehome but you sound like the type to rehome through Gumtree. Can someone responsible help you to rehome?

Unhelpful and rude, you know nothing about me

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Notinthemood12 · 04/03/2024 16:54

Everyone comments how much of a lovely dog he is but yet he’s stuck with you. 🤮 should be ashamed. I would say rehome but you sound like the type to rehome through Gumtree. Can someone responsible help you to rehome?

ilovesooty · 04/03/2024 16:51

PurpleChrayn · 04/03/2024 16:46

YANBU.

Dogs are filthy and annoying.

OK. You don't like dogs. Your unhelpful comment doesn't address how the owner could fulfil her responsibilities.

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Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:50

I did train him by the way. He knows to go outside to do his business, its just the leaving his scent that is driving me mad. He is great off the lead etc and very sociable and extremely friendly. everybody comments on how much of a good dog he is.

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TheBraves · 04/03/2024 16:50

This can’t be real.

PurpleChrayn · 04/03/2024 16:46

YANBU.

Dogs are filthy and annoying.

K0OLA1D · 04/03/2024 16:45

Honestly OP get him neutered. Get a stair gate or close off that part of the house when you are out. Does he do it when you're in?

My cat is 16. We accidently locked him in the extension on Saturday and he's now taken to pissing in the palm tree pot!

GoodOldEmmaNess · 04/03/2024 16:41

Not really the point of the thread I suppose, but I'm slightly wondering how he pisses on the banister.

Herdinggoats · 04/03/2024 16:41

PurpleClovers · 04/03/2024 16:18

Training is key and it sounds like he’s never been trained. Poor dog, you’ve let him down and are now moaning about him? Rehome him to someone who’ll love and cherish him, it really annoys me when people get dogs then whine about them when children come along.

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Most shelters are overrun at the moment as the number of people abandoning dogs increases and the number looking to adopt has fallen due to cost of living. It is very unlikely that at this age the dog will quickly find a new home that will love and cherish him. Poor thing is likely to be stuck in kennels.

I really hate the word “rehome” it suggests that there are dozens of lovely new families ready and waiting to take on these poor dogs, whereas the reality it most get stuck for months in kennels.

SlashBeef · 04/03/2024 16:37

Why didn't you get him neutered anyway??
Clean the wee area thoroughly and then put a stair gate up to stop him going back to the same spot.
You also need to retrain some of his behaviours. You can make the time for him if you prioritise it for a while. We have a dog and 4 kids. Everyone is (relatively) well trained, at least enough to be civilised!

MonsteraMama · 04/03/2024 16:37

Did you do any research at all before getting a dog? Given that you've chosen a dog with bred in deformities and one of the shortest life spans in the canine world as a result, I'm going to assume not much.

ginasevern · 04/03/2024 16:33

PurpleClovers · 04/03/2024 16:18

Training is key and it sounds like he’s never been trained. Poor dog, you’ve let him down and are now moaning about him? Rehome him to someone who’ll love and cherish him, it really annoys me when people get dogs then whine about them when children come along.

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This! I wish I had a pound for every (usually woman) that buys a dog as a surrogate child and then doesn't want it when the real thing comes along. Poor dog probably knows it's been replaced and is suffering from anxiety.

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Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:30

The cat is Neutered

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/03/2024 16:28

Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:15

He never used to do this, it is as he got older. My mum now refuses to look after him when we go away as he just cocks his leg up everywhere in the house. I honestly never thought I would completely change to a cat person but I get so much pleasure from him. a

You wouldn't be saying that if you'd got an entire Tom spraying piss up every wall, corner and your kids' beds.

Or maybe that's what the dog is trying to cover up? Stench of unneutered cat?

Oohhyeah · 04/03/2024 16:25

You haven't bothered training him, didn't get him neutered and don't bother putting gates up to restrict him, yet you're blaming him for his behaviour 🤔

K0OLA1D · 04/03/2024 16:25

Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:20

Does it actually change anything?

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He's scent marking. My collie used to be a pain in the arse to walk on a lead as he would be stopping literally every few paces to cock his leg, even if he had ran out of wee! We had him neutered at 3 and it literally stopped overnight

MarjorieOsborne · 04/03/2024 16:23

PurpleClovers · 04/03/2024 16:18

Training is key and it sounds like he’s never been trained. Poor dog, you’ve let him down and are now moaning about him? Rehome him to someone who’ll love and cherish him, it really annoys me when people get dogs then whine about them when children come along.

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Very well put. 👏

DirtyKit · 04/03/2024 16:23

And yes you are being unfair to him

AffIt · 04/03/2024 16:23

I joined this thread prepared to be kind and understanding and, if possible, give the benefit of any experience I have, but fuck me - if you do not understand why an unneutered, untrained dog in middle age might be displaying signs of stress, then hell mend you, quite frankly.

Foxblue · 04/03/2024 16:23

What training have you already done to try and stop this behaviour? If you outline what you've already tried and how long for, people might be able to suggest stuff.

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MarjorieOsborne · 04/03/2024 16:22

Sorry, but all that is purely down to a lack of training, and that isn't the dog's fault.

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Blossomo · 04/03/2024 16:21

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/03/2024 16:20

Get him neutered it helped.with my male dog pissing.You also need a baby gate.

Is he not too old now? honestly didnt know this

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