To HATE my dog

Not training a dog and then being mad at them is totally crazy.

You chose to get the dog, so you should find the time to sort the behaviour and bond more.

Please get him checked out by the vet.

Excessive urinating can be from an underlying condition. Also changes in behaviour.

Exactly. If you didn't train your dog early and took your eye off that ball when kids arrived (totally understandably IMO) then it's not surprising but you should have been more serious researching your dog's needs.

Of course the Cat is "amazing". It didn't demand anything from you.
Your poor sweet dog, kids arrive, cast aside.

And yet another 'but since I've had kids..' complaint. It's so predictable on here. The dog (also a member of the family) gets pushed out, is disliked, is not wanted...blah blah blah.
I've seen first hand the devastating effect it has on the poor dog that is cast aside for the baby.

I have 2 pugs, best dogs ever

You definitely need to get his nuts off - that's why he's scenting

I also have to express my male pugs anal glands every week - the vet showed me how to do it (my vet has 6 pugs!)

Plus obviously good off lead chasing a ball walks every day - they're very smart and need a 'job'

I hope you at least get a ton of cuddles off him. Mine never leave me alone, they're such affectionate dogs

how much exercise is he getting? And by this I mean meaningful walks - not being put in the garden.

and is he put in the garden as frequently as he needs?

Exactly.. mine stays in the kitchen when we are out, and isn't allowed upstairs. Do most dogs just have free reign of the place? He doesn't piss anywhere inside, but at least if he did it would be on a cleanable surface 🙈

Did you read the OPs comments?

"I know a dog is for life and everything but since having kids I really do not have the time "
"every time I look at him he just annoys me."
"It is really unfair to him as he could be with a family who love him
"he just really gets on my nerves"
"I really do not like him"
OP says in the title that she hates the dog.

As a do lover it's pretty hard to read that stuff and not be angry. Also, PP have been giving advice. Tons of advice, all of which is in the public domain and the OP could have researched for herself via the net or at her vet.

My dog has his nuts and hasn’t weed in the house since he was about 12 weeks old; If he had started weeing in the house as an adolescent I’d have had them off in a shot.

how much exercise is he getting? And by this I mean meaningful walks - not being put in the garden.

If you're a responsible dog owner, you should make it your business to find out about your breed. Have you sought advice from a vet/dog behaviourist? Honestly it sounds like you just can't be bothered with the poor dog 😕 people shouldn't own dogs if they're not going to make the effort to train then properly and make sure they have the stimulation they need.

I feel sorry for OP: people really are sticking the boot in and not reading her posts (saying he was never trained?) It's silly, because if they do feel sorry for this dog then giving advice would be more in his interests than scaring OP away with abuse.

The dog was trained and has developed new behaviours with age. He sounds stressed. Apart from attention, adequate exercise and being confined at times (with stair gate type arrangement) perhaps advice from a vet or dog behaviourist is needed on how to proceed and if neutering would be a good idea?

He may be anxious hence the pissing
He may sense that you don't like him
He may be unwell
He is scent marking and neutering should solve this, or at least help
He may be barking as he's bored, senses dogs on heat
Book him a health check at the vets in case he has eg a kidney problem
Obviously stair gates and/ or a crate when you're out
I'm saying nothing about your reasoning
I have a much loved dog

This!

Yes, exactly. They advocate it on a case by case basis, depending on the dog's need. Not as a routine/default requirement.

Ok ok come on now people I'm sure the op feels bad enough! None of us are perfect are we? I remember feeling the same way about my kids let alone my dog! Hopefully she will take our advice on board for all the family sakes

I have 2 dogs. Standard poodles. Our male cocks his leg on everything when we walk. I take them sometimes to our friends home (.they ask us to bring them as the kids love them and come here often to hang out and walk them). I put a belly band on him just in case. In our home he never cocks his leg. Neither dog pees or poops inside. It is marking. If he is doing it in your home, you need to put a belly band or take him out more often.

This. You didn't even bother to find out the impacts of not having him neutered? And seemingly still can't be bothered to Google the basics. Poor dog.

You've been told what to do. Get the dog neutered. It will stop the spraying.

I've had two rescue pugs and they are notoriously difficult to train. Particularly once a behaviour has been allowed to bed in BUT it's not impossible, it just takes work and that is something I would be starting straight away.

I would also be getting him neutered as a matter of urgency, why you would have a high value dog running around intact is beyond me. Seriously, get him snipped.

If you decide he really is too much trouble for you, he shouldn't be hard to rehome through a dedicated pug rescue, please, please, not gumtree or pets4homes, muffin pug rescue, the pug dog welfare and rescue association and as mentioned by a PP many tears will find a good home for him.

That's not true.

They do recommend neutering for many reasons - but it shouldn't be the default option as there are many situations where it can make things worse.

Lol. This is nonsense. Vets don't recommend routine neutering for male dogs any more, and I am following my own vets advice.

On the Battersea Dog's Home website there's loads of information about neutering dogs and it states there it stops scent marking.

Has he seen a vet for a full health check?
Why hasn't he been neutered?
Why aren't you managing his environment so he can't pee upstairs?

Step 1- Stairgates and crate
Step 2 - vets appointment to rule out health issues
Step 3 - if health clear, get a behaviour expert.