To HATE my dog

There were also a lot of really helpful advice and suggestions in response to an original post that was completely negative and bound to produce strong emotions from the outset.

Lol

I can see why people find pugs irritating. All breeds have different character traits. Pugs are very needy, they were bred to be lap dogs so they crave constant attention. But surely that's the point of researching the breed before you get one.

You don't think making a post saying I HATE my dog is going to get HATE responses?

Of course it will, people feel very strongly about this sort of thing.

Justifiably in my opinion!

What a nasty thread full of bullying comments! Fucking hell this site is such a cesspit of bitches sometimes.

Advertise him on borrow my doggy and find a local borrow person who can take him sometimes - he'll be spoiled and you get a break

A stairgate will immediately stop the going upstairs. He's too short to jump over.

Pugs are the most irritating dogs going.
I've known 2 separate people to have one, and I would never have one, despite my immense love for dogs.

What benefit is there to having a pug over any other dog?

You need to clean it properly, get an enzyme cleaner and start training again from scratch.

The kids give the dog love at least. I can see your frustrated by his peeing and it would drive me nuts too.

This!!!

FFS op.

My rescue dog wasn't toilet trained. I rushed her outside each time she weed or pooed inside and it took a while but we got there . I praise her for going outside and have a trigger word for the whole toilet procedure.
I realised she wasn't going to read a manual on toilet training it was up to me to teach her...

@BoobyDazzler
Battersea are going to be biased in their differing opinion.

Their professional opinion is obviously going to be based on the 160 years of work they have put into caring for unwanted puppies and dogs.

I'd still love to hear from any vets on the subject of the value or otherwise of neutering.

Beautiful girl @MadamVastra

WE had 'friends' who had to terriers who were so loved, and substitude chidren. Then in mid 30s she did get pregnant, and things changed. Then she expected the second and couldn't cope, and they said 'ah well, we've outgrown the dogs' and almost forced good friends to adopt them. People do this, again and again. And yes, I do hate them, not the dogs.

“Neutered male dogs are at a lower risk of testicular tumours”

I should think they are, because they won’t have testicles.

Many dogs, all of mine and all of my families dogs, ever, have lived quite happy, fulfilling and well behaved lives with their testes intact. What benefit could there possibly have been to any of them having unnecessary surgery? None. Some dogs may benefit from neutering, some won’t. If a person doesn’t feel their dogs need it then that’s fine.

Battersea are going to be biased in their differing opinion.

@SomersetTart yes there has been plenty of good advice, and loads more is available in other places.
My simple point was that there was no need for some posters to be so abusive. It won't help.

But, as you rightfully pointed out, this is AIBU, so I suppose a walloping is par for the course.

When did he start urinating inside?

Did it coincide with having a child? Or with getting your cat?

Like it or not you have a responsibility for his health & wellbeing. You also have a responsibility for your own. Both can be immeasurably improved by making your dog a priority once again and taking steps to correct his behaviour.

Re the urinating indoors - first step is the vets, as it should always be when an animals toileting habits change.

The vet will check for medical issues and advise some basic behavioural training. If no medical cause can be found, and neutering doesn't help, then it's likely to be stress. In which case, the poor thing really does need some care & attention from you.

A baby gate will block him from upstairs in the meantime.

Re. The barking: this sounds like boredom, stress or both.

What breed is he?
How often is he walked?
What attention is he given apart from walks and feeding, is he played with?

He might need more mental stimulation.

There are several things you can do before embarking on the road of hiring behaviourists but they all require some care from you (and presumably your partner).

He is only doing it while you are out, and you are annoyed about the place he is doing it.

are you able to get a baby gate to keep him contained in the kitchen or another room that has tile or other hard floors so that are easily cleaned and not such a big deal if he does go to the loo indoors?

There are proven medical and social reasons to have dogs neutered too.

https://www.battersea.org.uk/pet-advice/dog-care-advice/dog-neutering

@AliceAforethought There are literally dozens, if not hundreds, of posts on here where people are offering really useful advice. This is an opinion forum and the OP posted on AIBU rather than The Dog House thread. Nothing we can say can influence the relationship between an owner and the dog she says she hates........she has to take responsibility for that.

Dogs can’t get pregnant.

If I had a bitch I’d have her neutered because there are proven medical and social reasons to do so.

Yes, I have read the OP and yes, I'm a dog lover too
Which is why I think this little doggo would be better benefitted by his owner being advised and supported rather than abused. She may then be able to take something from this thread, and improve things for her dog. This may lead to a better relationship with her dog which would be good for both of them.
Abusing people achieves nothing and won't help the dog.

Posts like this really upset me. I have a challenging dog (rescue) but I wouldn’t change her for the world.