To HATE my dog

Are you using a cleaner specifically designed for pet urine?

How strange that you are both having trouble with your dogs.

This. You need to take your dog to the vet if you haven't already.

It's most likely a sign that something is wrong as dogs don't just start weeing where they shouldn't for no reason.

If you're using ANIMAL to mean "thing" then you're a total idiot. You do realise animals are sentient beings with emotional lives and needs, especially when you bring a dog into a family?

"I treat my dog like an ANIMAL" sounds like code for "I don't think my dog's needs are important because he's ONLY a dog and therefore I shall treat him as an inconvenience now his needs are beyond minimal". Nice, OP. This is exactly why people shouldn't own dogs. You have a duty of care to your "ANIMAL" whether you like it or not, and you know it. You just don't want to be bothered.

Does your SIL's dog wee in the house? I think it is really sad that you have a dog who you hate.

I wish.

Ok @Blossomo , but your dog thinks you are family and thinks he is family. So do the kids.
And the breed you have chosen is designed to be family!

You have a responsibility even if he is an animal to put basics like a stair gate in place.

Shall we start with your comment then?

He needs a vet check, late onset marking in male dogs can be caused by prostate issues. Just like older men, male dogs’ prostates can become enlarged in later life, causing urinary issues. If it is that neutering would be curative. This happened to one of my rescues. He came to me entire and wasn’t neutered on veterinary advice. He started weeing in the house aged about 7 and turned out to have an enlarged prostate. He was neutered and it fixed the problem pretty much overnight.

Alternatively, it could be anxiety, especially if he only does it when left alone at home. This is also worth discussing with your vet and a behaviourist would be able to help you/him.

innocent animal, Christ. The deranged thing barely knows it’s alive and is fed on demand, walked and has its shit cleaned up after it, but poor dog. You do have to question what this dog is adding to your life other than issues. Get him rehomed,

We do borrow my doggy and all the dogs we have had so far were bought in lockdown- they are all cute looking dogs and nice personalities but in my opinion not one of the 4 we have had is very well trained. Many People seem to have abandoned proper training in the rush to get a dog that filled the lockdown void

I literally detest people who whinge they haven’t got time for their pets anymore after having kids. That poor dog. It sounds like you aren’t even willing to try any training or even a vet visit to try and solve the issue. The dog deserves better. Rehome it.

How old are your DC?

My dogs don’t piss everywhere but I have found how I feel about them has massively changed since we had kids, especially our second for some reason. I wish I loved them as much as I did pre kids but the barking, hair shedding, general dog behaviour (which I absolutely do not blame them for) is really triggering for some reason with babies, especially since we had our second. My youngest isn’t yet 1 so I’m really my hoping this fades over time as I feel like a terrible person.

Perhaps don’t come on saying you hate an animal you got before your children were born especially in AIBU? AIBU has always been a board that people can give their opinions and you can’t post asking for opinions without being able to take the good advice with the bad.

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Poor dog. He deserves much better.

And my dogs aren't castrated. They do not display maladaptive behaviours.

Castration isn't an automatic for a male dog - it carries risks and downsides too. However his marking would be enough to warrant investigating it, but I would be far more inclined to try chemical castration first to see how he copes with it. He needs training too.

He sounds understimulated and untrained. This is 100% on you, OP and 100% managable.

Have him neutered. Crate train him for when you are out/unable to supervise. Go back to basics with toilet training. Establish a good routine for him including mental stimulation along with physical exercise eg scent games or clicker training and seek help from a qualified behaviourist.

OP I used to work in a welfare capacity for a pug charity . It's not my place to judge albeit you will be thrown to the devil on here. Please be honest with YOURSELF. If you have no bond with him and feel the way you do, please contact

pugwelfare-rescue.org.uk/surrendering-your-pug/

PDWRA are an excellent UK charity who have been established for many years and ensure each pug is rehomed to a suitable forever home. In my experience, pugs are usually happy in a new home within 48 hrs , (or until next fed!) and they adapt very, very quickly. Please, please, do not advertise anywhere online like Facebook and Pets4Homes. With those behavioural traits, he needs a behaviourist to help and if you rehome him without that help, he could ultimately end up being passed from pillar to post for ever. You owe it to him to give him his best life. PDWRA will help him.

My lovely dog (departed now) was neutered and he pissed on absolutely everything I owned his entire life. I never managed to stop him doing it in the end I put him in a dog nappy. He would get this off sometimes but usually just piss in it too. He was a happy lovely dog with a lovely home and so loved and STILL PISSED everywhere. Never big wees - just small territory marking wees. He just enjoyed it I reckon. No amount of training or banning him from rooms helped. I just could not stop him! He would trot into any room and just do it in front of me! He loved him dearly but he gave me grey hair that dog

Jesus wept.

Always been a dog person and I don’t hate my current dog but since getting cats I have definitely become a bit of a kitty convert!

You don’t give much information as to whether the urinating issue is new or if you can identify a trigger. If it is new and you can’t identify a trigger then I would start by having him vet checked including supplying a urine sample to rule out medical causes. Make sure you are cleaning the area with a biological washing agent or professional cleaner otherwise he will still be able to smell where he has been even if you can’t which will encourage his return. If the dog is only urinating upstairs then the simplest solution is to put up a gate to try and break the cycle. If needs be confine him to a room with hard floors when you have to go out so if he does pee its easily cleaned / disinfected.

People seem to be overly focusing on neutering here but if an un-neutered dog has reached 7 without issue before this behaviour starting then neutering isn’t going to address the actual underlying cause and is unlikely to solve the issue unless its related to something medical like an enlarged prostate for example.

I had a similar issue regarding inappropriate urination with my dog not that long ago, Pomeranian, similar age (9) no apparent trigger, neutered, many tests and medical issues ruled out. I came on here (dog boards) for advice and just found people super unhelpful, just like how everyone on this thread has done nothing but fixate on neutering, everyone just fixated on the fact I dare leave him home alone to go to work. I don’t / didn’t hate him but the behaviour is definitely deflating and highly stress inducing especially when its on carpets and soft furnishings. In my case the affected areas always seemed to be the sofa, the upstairs carpets and my bed, I professionally cleaned everywhere and literally put a few very small steps into place such as a cover on the sofa, a stair gate on the stairs so no unsupervised access to upstairs / carpets, no coming onto my bed and (touch wood) the behaviour stopped as quickly as it started. We’re on 5 weeks now and the last couple of days I’ve just started letting him back onto the bed with me in the mornings for a short while.

A trainer will be able to offer advice on tackling the barking, in the meantime if he barks at people you make him come straight back in, if he's not out he physically can’t be running up & down barking at people going past.