To cancel the wedding?

The world doesn't stop when someone is pregnant

Surely even more reason to get married now?! Thank god the wedding is booked etc?! Better protected, financially and legally. Literally can't think why you'd cancel?!

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Cancelling your wedding because you found out you are pregnant is a very strange reaction. How odd.

Why would you consider cancelling the wedding, being pregnant is the best time to get married. If you don't do it now you never will and may regret it. I'd also be quite cross if I was a guest. Congratulations on your baby x

Unless you are planning to recompense everyone who has paid for accommodation, then yes, cancelling for this reason would be outrageously unreasonable.

All the more reason to have the protection of marriage now you’re pregnant.

100% get married, you leave yourself very vulnerable otherwise. You can always have a bigger reception on a later date, perhaps your first anniversary! But being pregnant is more of a reason to get married, your husband will be considered your next of kin during the birth and in any medical emergency too. Xx Please don't cancel (unless of course you have reservations about the relationship and plan to seperate).

Congratulations OP xx

you can make the whole day an alcohol free day!

i guess people who have booked can hopefully get a refund but it doesnt seem a problem to me to get married at that stage of your pregnancy.

This thread is hilarious - every single poster saying don't cancel the wedding and the OP hasn't been back to explain why she is thinking of cancelling it.

Adding another voice to the chorus - based on the info you've given you would be absolutely bonkers to consider cancelling it. By all means scale down anything you are able to at this point to save money for the baby and maternity leave period, but don't cancel the wedding.

However decent you think your fella is there are plenty of threads on here of unmarried partners getting screwed. Definitely proceed with wedding for your own protection first and foremost. If you’re worried about not fitting in dress/ not the sort of day you had in mind / money these really are sceonday to being protected by marriage

That's brought a tear to my eye 😍

Congratulations on your pregnancy. What wonderful news 👶

And don't cancel, get married! By all means make it a dry wedding or something if you'll feel bummed people drinking and you have to be sober, or tone down the party aspect if you're going to be feeling all pregnant and tired and not in a party mood. You can have a massive 1st wedding anniversary / christening party or something to make up for the party element of it.

Not totally the same but when we got married we had the wedding format mostly to please our parents. Very formal white wedding. When our kids came along we had very raucous christening parties both times, really laid back, swing band, cocktails on tap - the kind of wedding we'd have wanted to have. I have other mates who had more low key pregnant weddings and then did the big party thing after. It's all fine x

If you do cancel and people are let down or out of pocket because of accommodation costs, etc. then they may not come to your next wedding!

I got married at a similar stage of pregnancy. Wasn't remotely a problem.

We went to a wedding a few years ago - during the speeches, the groom shared the beautiful news they were expecting. Huge cheers from the guests and it was just a lovely way to share their news and still makes me smile now 😀

I would get married. Any friends of mine who had their children 1st then got married only got married years and years later. Understandably life gets very busy with little kids and it sucked up all their money as well. My relatives eldest child was 18 by the time they finally got around to it.

Beyond that, I have read enough eye opening stories on here over the last few years to make me very glad I was married before babies. Not that it is set to doom the other way at all! I have plenty of friends/ family who had kids first then marriage.

If you are worried about being sick, I am 17 weeks now. I was horrendous the 1st trimester but feeling a lot better the last 2 ish weeks. I think that's a fairly common turning point for a lot of women.

My point, get married now if you want to be married or potentially never get married or wait a long time to have the chance again

Lolllll. Mumsnet as a whole is (rightly) obsessed with women being married before having a child. And you are literally months away from being married, are pregnant, and are thinking of cancelling it. This is brilliant. Sitting back with popcorn.

We are in exactly the same position in our family right now. The wedding is going ahead, not least because we have paid significant deposits on everything already.

As others have said, why would you cancel it. Now more than any other time you need the protection that marriage brings and it will be a wonderful thing to celebrate before you settle down for the rest of your lives as a family.

Another who has zero idea how being 17 weeks pregnant translates to having to cancel? The only explanation I can come up with is it’s not your partners, you need to tell him, and he will likely leave you and wedding is off! If it is your partners baby, then I’m completely lost?

Even more important to get married. Can you bring the wedding forward a month or six weeks? People should be able to tweek the date of accommodation without losing out.

I would change the date to one that gives you options of what to wear and I would tell your guests why.

People who love you will be elated!

Congratuolations.
Save the champers for the baptism.

What does you being pregnant have to do with the wedding? It won't stop you from getting married?! Wtf?

I agree with pretty much everyone else. No reason to cancel, and even more important to get married, especially if motherhood will make you financially vulnerable.

Plenty of women are pregnant when they get married - I was one of them!

It's totally up to you, but as others have said I don't understand why you would want to cancel? It's not clear from your OP. Most likely you will be completely fine at 17 weeks, and it's unlikely to show either of that's what you are worried about.

Why are you cancelling?