To cancel the wedding?

I LOVE a party, but honestly barely drank at my own wedding! Too much going on, too much to do, exhausting in a really good way… so if it’s the lack of ‘partying’ that’s putting you off I would say it’s a very different experience to being a wedding guest where often a mixture of boredom and over excitement( and flowing booze) means you get wasted…

Congratulations! I was in just this position 20+ years ago. It had taken us ages to find a date that worked for family members, bridesmaids and witnesses (August wedding) and then the pregnancy discovery. The thought of trawling for another date was too tedious to contemplate. We had a wonderful day, on the date originally planned. My baby bump was small but definitely present. Even now, I love talking to our daughter about the wedding and how she was there with us. I do hope you go ahead and have a similarly happy experience.

Pregnant brides look absolutely stunning!

I definitely wouldn’t cancel unless you are concerned it will coincide with your due date.

Awwww, those are understandable thoughts op.
But honestly, under the circumstances your wedding date is (likely) peak perfection, second trimester is the best phase of pregnancy for most, still comfy, likely hardly showing, and any nausea probably gone/vastly reduced.

If you cancel it could possibly be years before you are able to revisit the idea (hard to imagine but trust us).

Now you can have fun planning keeping the secret and building the announcement into your special day - maybe in the speeches... There won't be a dry eye in the house! 😍

It’ll be different to what you thought but if anything you should try to get married ASAP! You’ll be more financially and legally secure.

At 17 weeks with a first pregnancy you probably won't even need a larger dress. Just don't get one with a really tight waistband/corset.

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Aw no don't cancel if you really don't have to, you can still have a lovely day. It happened to a friend of mine, they were in the process of planning a big wedding and she found out she was pregnant and decided to scale it right back, she got herself a new dress she was more comfortable in and they had a lovely little wedding :)

Totally confused why you would cancel. Not sure your guests would understand without a better explanation.

If you cancel it would be really letting your guests down. Just get married. Or else you will have to reimburse all your guests for expenses incurred.

Complications aside, for which you cannot plan, you should be feeling great at 17 weeks and not showing that much. You'll have a very small bump but you won't be huge or uncomfortable.

You and your child are much more financially protected when you are married. It’s not romantic but for that reason alone I would go ahead with the wedding. Read the thread about the sister who is supporting her sister who was with a man for twenty plus years, four children and she sold her flat. Her man has got someone else and her life and financial stability are in absolute ruins. Never have children unless you are married.

Go ahead, perhaps plan less than you otherwise would. John Lewis have a good selection of maternity wedding dresses. You can always have a ceremony at a later date if you want more bells and whistles

If people have committed I'd probably go ahead. It will still be an amazing day

All of the above.

And it won't leave your relatives out of pocket.

Glad to read that you're going ahead with the wedding.

Hope you have a great wedding but more importantly a happy marriage.

You could announce your pregnancy on tour wedding day at the speech.

go ahead with the reg office wedding because the legals need to be done, and once the baby arrives arrange a big party and invite everyone to celebrate both events (for when baby is about 6-9 months).

Congratulations OP! 💍

Generally the nausea that you get in the early weeks should have gone by week 12 and it’s more likely you’ll be feeling really well by 17 weeks. Also, your bump is unlikely to be noticeable unless you’re expecting twins?

You can wear most dress styles but maybe avoid any that are very fitted on the waist.

Don’t cancel, you won’t be huge by then, you may not even show (I was 16 1/2 weeks and still wasn’t showing with my second). Better to marry before baby arrives than to try to factor it in later with a child in tow. I hope you enjoy yourself and good luck!

Crack on and get married. You wont have time or money once baby arrives! You will have an amazing day no matter what, and u likely to have sickness still at that stage of pregnancy unless you have HG which is fairly rare.

My aunt fell in labour 3 hours after she said i do.
She had a lovely little boy on her wedding day arrived a week early.
She told everyone to stay and have a good time at the party.
We had a surprise wedding party 3 months later for her and her husband.
Shes the sweetest person ever.

The nausea, sickness and early stage tiredness has usually worn off by the stage you'll be at. You won't be huge; probably not showing at all.

You'll possibly regret it if you don't do it now because when you have a child or children it takes far longer to get round to things; there are always lots of calls on your time and money.

All that said, don't "plough in" just because MN has told you to!

I would get married - there will never be a 'perfect' time and you will have even less time once the baby is here. Congratulations

How adorable. A double special memory of the day. I think it's really special being pregnant on your wedding day.