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To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?

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MintyCedric · 02/03/2024 22:26

It’s a medium term plan (DD currently at uni and elderly mum would make it difficult atm) …probably in the next 3-5 years…I’ll be in my early fifties by then.

I’ve lived on the south coast since I was toddler, but these days I have about 3 friends here…one is single but has a very active social life, the other two are married with family commitments.

I fell in love with Yorkshire when I visited for the first time about 8 years ago. I feel like it has all the cultural stuff that interests me, but with less pretension and I love the countryside up there. I’d also be able to get a nicer house than my current one with no mortgage…a major consideration as my mortgage currently runs until I’m 67 and I have limited pension provision.

Despite all these pros, my DD and my best mate are being quite negative and unsupportive. They feel I ‘made more effort’ here to socialise I wouldn’t want to move, but it’s really not about that…I just want a fresh start.

AIBU to think I could move in my fifties, on my own and create a new life for myself?

And if anyone has any opinions on Harrogate and surrounding areas or Otley/Burley/Poole in Wharfdale as places to live…bring it on!

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Sunny123Weather · 07/03/2024 17:00

If you don't move

You will always think, what if ?

Yocal · 07/03/2024 16:55

I did do a long message, but it disappeared when I went to get you a link.

If I were you, I'd give this a little consideration...
https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/144232577#/?channel=RES_BUY

It's a great option if you want to release money for your pension pot.

Try these areas

East Morton
Bingley
Oakworth
Oxenhope
Haworth
Riddlesden

They are solid locations, but don't command the same premium as the wharfedale / nidd zones.

Check out this 2 bedroom park home for sale on Rightmove

2 bedroom park home for sale in Ilkley Road, Riddlesden, Keighley, BD20 for £98,000. Marketed by Day and Co Estate Agents Limited, Keighley

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/144232577#/?channel=RES_BUY

RampantIvy · 07/03/2024 16:52

It often feels SE or London centric to me as well. I think it depends on the type of thread you click on. I find that Higher Education and Stlye and Beauty threads often have a lot of Londoners/London biased posters on.

Interestingly I'm a southerner who moved to live near Otley (I don't live there any more now).

Ulysees · 07/03/2024 16:10

MereDintofPandiculation · 07/03/2024 16:06

Interesting that MN feels very SE, but this thread has drawn out dozens of people living in W/N Yorks.

Why does it feel SE to you? Never has to me and I've been here eons. Just a question not a dig. Are you from the SE?

MereDintofPandiculation · 07/03/2024 16:06

Interesting that MN feels very SE, but this thread has drawn out dozens of people living in W/N Yorks.

MereDintofPandiculation · 07/03/2024 15:54

@MintyCedric Yes, I recognised you as soon as I saw your name! My dad is still going strong.
X84 to Otley followed by X52 to Harrogate. About an hour. But if the Harrogate connection is really important, the A2 airport flyer from Harrogate goes through Pool. But who knows what it'll be like in a few years time? Huby, not far from Pool, is on the slow line from Leeds to Harrogate.

PeggyBoard · 07/03/2024 15:34

@Lifeinlists You could say the same for Sheffield, right on the edge of the peak district with lots of villages and good transport links and plenty of shopping etc, and not that far from Manchester and other towns / cities.
It's not just north Yorks that have what the op is looking for.
Most of Yorkshire have what the op is looking for.

Dodgygeezer · 07/03/2024 15:13

Nobody has recommended Dewsbury or Huddersfield because they aren’t very nice places to live.

saltaire is an interesting one. Pretty village surrounded by shithole.

the nice parts of north/west yorks are not particularly cheap

otley seems to fit your bill, very community oriented with lots going on. Sunday Times best place to live a few years back too

Blossomgate44 · 07/03/2024 14:04

And when you are in Harrogate this summer - a favourite.

https://www.facebook.com/p/Cold-Bath-Deli-100076276539804/

And
https://laferiarestaurants.co.uk/

Both on the same high street and near to Valley Gardens.

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Peeppuandpopo · 07/03/2024 14:01

@MintyCedric Obviously you are. I mean Harrogate ain’t exactly representative of most of Yorkshire.

MintyCedric · 07/03/2024 13:59

@Peeppuandpopo I’m not remotely bothered about the ‘middle class’ factor of an area.

I’m liking the idea of Harrogate because it’s a nice sized town with lovely villages and countryside in easy reach and plenty to offer culturally - I’m book mad and would love to be in easy distance of HIF.

It’s also only about an hour from all of the places I’m familiar with up there, and a maximum of 2.5 hours from friends and family in Lancashire and Cumbria.

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Ulysees · 07/03/2024 13:36

Asiatoyork · 07/03/2024 13:14

No - I’ve only spent one afternoon there before!

Wow hope you do like it then.

Blossomgate44 · 07/03/2024 13:35

MintyCedric · 07/03/2024 00:07

@Hippee I stayed in Bilton last year when I went to the Theakston Crime festival and it’s a great location. Going back this year and will definitely try to get more of a feel for the local community while I’m there.

Does anyone know about schools up that way (for work purposes)?

Come to Ripon!
Most places with walking distance of the market place, many indies, cafes,pubs, wine bar and restuarants.
Lots going on in terms of live music, amateur dramatics, crafts, sports clubs etc. Lots of opportunities for volunteering, some great work with charities supporting disabled adults ( The Walled Garden, Jennyruth).

As you drive, you might want to think about being in a village outside of Ripon, definitely your money will go further. Depends on how rural you want to be.

I'm assuming you are a teacher?
I moved here post divorce, on my own with DC’s. There was a teacher training college here…many stayed on, it felt like every other person was a teacher, so very easy to make connections.

Harrogate is mainly schools within Mats. A couple of LA maintained remaining but a much higher proportion of academies than the rest of North Yorkshire.

This will/might affect your job seeking as not all advertise via the LA.

J090780 · 07/03/2024 13:31

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Id say it is totally reasonable to want to move there.

Only caution/guidance I’d have but is that it’d be hard to move back given the cost difference if you realised living there was very different from weekending there.

The South Coast is also very beautiful and is much closer to vastly more amenities.

Floatinginvacherin · 07/03/2024 13:29

Back to the UK, I assume the poster means.

Peeppuandpopo · 07/03/2024 13:26

Asiatoyork · 07/03/2024 13:14

No - I’ve only spent one afternoon there before!

Lol so you aren’t going back

Asiatoyork · 07/03/2024 13:14

Ulysees · 07/03/2024 10:40

When you say moving back to York have you lived there before?

No - I’ve only spent one afternoon there before!

Peeppuandpopo · 07/03/2024 13:06

What about Dewsbury or Huddersfield ? Cheap houses, diversity, lots going on. Far better than stuffy middle class Harrogate. Why do the same places crop up on
MN ? They just end up being full of the same type of wealthy people who are the only folk that can afford to live there. Waiting for Hebden Bridge next.

ethelredonagoodday · 07/03/2024 12:38

Another one who's not read the full thread (but most of it). We are outside York in a village on the Harrogate rail line. We also have friends living in the Ilkley/Menston areas, and one of the big draws of where we all live is being on a reasonably good rail line, that connects into the main intercity network, but with the feeling of being in a market town/village. Local amenities are good, and there're strong links into nearby cities.

I suspect you'll defo notice the weather being a bit cooler, but other than that, i don't see many downsides to what you are proposing! good luck!

RampantIvy · 07/03/2024 12:27

Otley has a brillaint agricultural show every May as well.

Autumn1990 · 07/03/2024 12:23

NRTFT but I think Otley or ilkley would suit you really well.
Don’t worry about a social network, you’ll only need to live in Yorkshire a week before you get a new one!

If you want culture Otley ilkley etc near leeds and Bradford are the way To go.
if you move to the smaller market towns you’ll get the kind of network where the rest of town knows what you’re doing before you do. But people do look out for each other .

OneStripeySockAndOneSpottySock · 07/03/2024 11:33

I've always wanted to live in Whitby, settled for Whitstable (which I absolutely LOVE) but I still hanker after North Yorkshire for some reason

Floatinginvacherin · 07/03/2024 11:29

whosaidtha · 07/03/2024 10:25

Yorkshire is the country's biggest county. And as such has a lot of variety. Maybe you could narrow it down a bit.

The OP does ask about some quite specific areas to be fair.

Ulysees · 07/03/2024 10:40

Asiatoyork · 07/03/2024 09:47

I’m from London, currently in Singapore, but moving back to York. I hope it’s nice!

When you say moving back to York have you lived there before?

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