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To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?

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MintyCedric · 02/03/2024 22:26

It’s a medium term plan (DD currently at uni and elderly mum would make it difficult atm) …probably in the next 3-5 years…I’ll be in my early fifties by then.

I’ve lived on the south coast since I was toddler, but these days I have about 3 friends here…one is single but has a very active social life, the other two are married with family commitments.

I fell in love with Yorkshire when I visited for the first time about 8 years ago. I feel like it has all the cultural stuff that interests me, but with less pretension and I love the countryside up there. I’d also be able to get a nicer house than my current one with no mortgage…a major consideration as my mortgage currently runs until I’m 67 and I have limited pension provision.

Despite all these pros, my DD and my best mate are being quite negative and unsupportive. They feel I ‘made more effort’ here to socialise I wouldn’t want to move, but it’s really not about that…I just want a fresh start.

AIBU to think I could move in my fifties, on my own and create a new life for myself?

And if anyone has any opinions on Harrogate and surrounding areas or Otley/Burley/Poole in Wharfdale as places to live…bring it on!

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Hippee · 16/03/2024 22:47

Look - this is what's happening in Harrogate this weekend 😄

To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?
To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?
To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?
To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?
RampantIvy · 10/03/2024 18:05

AngelQuartz · 10/03/2024 18:02

(South) Yorkshire born and bred.
Although the public transport isn’t great, South Yorks is a great place to live. Sheffield is an amazing city, musical heritage and great live music scene, theatres, sports, museums, exhibitions, peace gardens, winter gardens, Tramlines music festival. So much to do! We’ve got the Yorkshire Wildlife Park, stately homes, castles, heritage centres.
Great links to the Peak District, the towns and villages all across the county are surrounded by beautiful countryside. An hour drive to the east coast. Affordable housing compared to the South. & just all round friendly people.

Recommend these towns/villages:
Bawtry, Harworth, Tickhill, Sprotborough, Ravenfield, Wentworth, Dore, Cawthorne.

I would add Penistone to that list.

AngelQuartz · 10/03/2024 18:02

(South) Yorkshire born and bred.
Although the public transport isn’t great, South Yorks is a great place to live. Sheffield is an amazing city, musical heritage and great live music scene, theatres, sports, museums, exhibitions, peace gardens, winter gardens, Tramlines music festival. So much to do! We’ve got the Yorkshire Wildlife Park, stately homes, castles, heritage centres.
Great links to the Peak District, the towns and villages all across the county are surrounded by beautiful countryside. An hour drive to the east coast. Affordable housing compared to the South. & just all round friendly people.

Recommend these towns/villages:
Bawtry, Harworth, Tickhill, Sprotborough, Ravenfield, Wentworth, Dore, Cawthorne.

Imtoooldforallthis · 10/03/2024 17:38

Don't right off east Yorkshire, Beverly is lovely and good value for money.

BirthdayRainbow · 10/03/2024 17:35

I'm thinking for me tbh. Don't need schools. Need a place to run and walk the dog.

theduchessofspork · 10/03/2024 17:34

Harrogate’s quite expensive..

I’d rent for a year. It’s not a bad idea but you will have to make an effort to build a new life. It’s undeniably colder and more rainy.

MintyCedric · 10/03/2024 17:33

Think I’ve driven through Cullingworth a few times…

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loobylou10 · 10/03/2024 16:31

CUllingworth is very nice. Between Haworth and bingley. Good primary school, couple of shops and pubs. A good mix of different sized houses

BirthdayRainbow · 10/03/2024 15:38

Any thoughts on Cullingworth?

SaggyCushionCover · 10/03/2024 12:06

MintyCedric · 10/03/2024 10:17

@SaggyCushionCover that’s interesting because at first glance on Google maps I got the impression Killinghall was a ‘naice’ area!

That looks like a really useful website. Must check out the other local papers online.

It is nice- the article shows the level of anti-social behaviour that constitutes a public meeting!

It is too far to walk into Harrogate though and the traffic can be really really bad. Close to Ripley which is very naice and the greenway runs by for walks/cycle.

MintyCedric · 10/03/2024 11:37

@Yazo renting first is something I’ve considered. It will depend on circumstances when the time comes.

DD has another couple of years at uni, doesn’t want to come back to our current home town and is likely to end up in London or Bristol. We’re both happy driving distances and trains unlikely to be a significant issue.

@Chocochoo where I live now isn’t particularly desirable so that won’t bother me! So long as it’s safe enough and friendly enough I’m all good!

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Blossomgate44 · 10/03/2024 11:20

Job wise, keep an eye on the council website. It is a huge LA so watch distance but centralised jobs often offer hybrid/WFH ( as the council can no longer afford office space for all staff!)

Currently SEN hubs developing. LA also offers a medical education service, attendance officers etc.
https://www.northyorks.gov.uk/jobs-and-careers

North Yorkshire Council has recently been through devolution so Harrogate Borough Council, has become part of NYC.

Jobs and careers

Find out about jobs.

https://www.northyorks.gov.uk/jobs-and-careers

Chocochoo · 10/03/2024 10:55

MintyCedric · 10/03/2024 10:26

@Chocochoo i must admit that even before that article I was leaning away from Killinghall.

I really liked Bilton when I started there last year and am at the same Air BnB this summer so will spend a bit more time just hanging out.

Haven’t been to Knaresborough but will definitely check that out too.

Masham/Ripon are lovely but I’d really like to be in public transport/affordable taxi distance from the centre of Harrogate.

In that case I’d aim for Bilton! Knaresborough is lovely but I don’t think travelling between Harrogate and Knaresborough is great, especially compared to living here. Areas of Bilton are walking distance to town! There are lovely walks from Bilton too, you can even walk to Ripley along the Nidderdale Greenway.

It gets a bit of a bad reputation and is considered as being less desirable, but I honestly think there are no bad parts of Harrogate, and of the three “bad parts”, Bilton, Jennyfields and Starbeck, Bilton comes out on top for me.

Good luck!

Yazo · 10/03/2024 10:38

How about renting first? Many people move to Yorkshire because of the idea of Yorkshire (especially Harrogate) and although Yorkshire is beautiful on the whole and there is more of a culture of talking to people/anyone I don't think it's necessarily friendlier. There are plenty of lonely people in Yorkshire! Plus a lot of deprivation , social problems and not always enthusiasm for southerners. I'd focus a little on connection to your daughter. How close is it by train or to the motorway? As much as you shouldn't do everything based on what she approves of, living somewhere accessible makes a difference. As someone who has moved from family and where I grew up I must say that on the whole people don't visit you, the onus is always on you to make the million trips around the place to keep up with everyone so be warned.

MintyCedric · 10/03/2024 10:26

@Chocochoo i must admit that even before that article I was leaning away from Killinghall.

I really liked Bilton when I started there last year and am at the same Air BnB this summer so will spend a bit more time just hanging out.

Haven’t been to Knaresborough but will definitely check that out too.

Masham/Ripon are lovely but I’d really like to be in public transport/affordable taxi distance from the centre of Harrogate.

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Chocochoo · 10/03/2024 10:19

OP I would avoid Killinghall and opt for Knaresborough or Bilton.

Plenty of places to work - five state secondary schools in Harrogate town alone!

MintyCedric · 10/03/2024 10:17

@SaggyCushionCover that’s interesting because at first glance on Google maps I got the impression Killinghall was a ‘naice’ area!

That looks like a really useful website. Must check out the other local papers online.

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SaggyCushionCover · 10/03/2024 09:40

https://thestrayferret.co.uk/residents-call-for-action-after-spate-of-violence-in-killinghall/

On a slightly more serious and realistic note- Killinghall is a traffic nightmare. Too many houses built in the wrong place with no infrastructure. To get out you mostly have to go through Ripon, Knaresborough or Harrogate - and so you hit traffic multiple times.

Residents call for action after spate of violence in Killinghall - The Stray Ferret

Residents called for action at a packed meeting of Killinghall Parish Council last night after a spate of violence and anti-social behaviour.

https://thestrayferret.co.uk/residents-call-for-action-after-spate-of-violence-in-killinghall/

MintyCedric · 09/03/2024 23:12

I mean the cats will be an incentive for her to visit not a DD replacement 🤣

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MintyCedric · 09/03/2024 23:11

@Hippee thats great to know. It keeps popping up on my wider Harrogate searches so will deffo check out. I’m travelling up on a Wednesday so will get and early start and have a look at the market.

@Bridgetoo DD has absolutely no desire to come back her when she’s done. Hoping to to end up in London, also considering staying in Bristol (where she’s currently at uni) for a bit. There has even been talk of a master at York.
We have a lovely relationship but she’s very independent so not something I’m really factoring into any great extent…and I can always visit her once she’s settled. Besides…I’ll have the cats 😁

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Hippee · 09/03/2024 22:30

Killinghall is on the no.36 bus route (runs from Ripon to Leeds), so is very convenient. However, it has two major roads running through it, so doesn't feel very village-y to me. It has a little Tesco and a lovely kitchen shop/farm shop, but no pub at the moment, and the doctor's surgery is closing down.

Knaresborough is lovely. Small market town, weekly market on a Wednesday, castle, river (with rowing boats) and Mother Shipton's Cave. Easy access to A1. Railway station with trains to Leeds, Harrogate and York. Lots of shops, pubs/cafes and a little theatre. Events include a summer Arts Festival (FEVA) and the famous Bed Race.

Bridgetoo · 09/03/2024 22:23

I grew up in the 80s and 90s in the Otley/Whatfedale area. It was an idyllic childhood filled with lots of strong Yorkshire characters. Like a pp I'm down south now and will probably never return up north, which makes me quite sad.

However OP I would be wary of your daughter's warnings. What if she never visits? It's a very long journey from the south coast - too far for a weekend.

Cleaningupthemess · 09/03/2024 21:48

Ivegotthis. I love Northallerton and noticed no one had mentioned it. Lucky you living there

Cleaningupthemess · 09/03/2024 21:47

These are the ones in Beverley I was trying to link

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To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?
ivegotthisyeah · 09/03/2024 21:46

Yay I've scrolled through the whole post and some one has finally mentioned my home town!!
Excellent train links in Northallerton and the market town has lots to offer with the dales in your door step not too remote either