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To move to Yorkshire from the south coast on my own?

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MintyCedric · 02/03/2024 22:26

It’s a medium term plan (DD currently at uni and elderly mum would make it difficult atm) …probably in the next 3-5 years…I’ll be in my early fifties by then.

I’ve lived on the south coast since I was toddler, but these days I have about 3 friends here…one is single but has a very active social life, the other two are married with family commitments.

I fell in love with Yorkshire when I visited for the first time about 8 years ago. I feel like it has all the cultural stuff that interests me, but with less pretension and I love the countryside up there. I’d also be able to get a nicer house than my current one with no mortgage…a major consideration as my mortgage currently runs until I’m 67 and I have limited pension provision.

Despite all these pros, my DD and my best mate are being quite negative and unsupportive. They feel I ‘made more effort’ here to socialise I wouldn’t want to move, but it’s really not about that…I just want a fresh start.

AIBU to think I could move in my fifties, on my own and create a new life for myself?

And if anyone has any opinions on Harrogate and surrounding areas or Otley/Burley/Poole in Wharfdale as places to live…bring it on!

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Franklynne · 06/03/2024 22:39

I'm also a Saltaire resident and it's a brilliant place to live. The houses are beautiful, and we have loads of very good independent shops, bars, restaurants and cafes and loads of stuff going on which you can get involved in. I've met loads of people here. 15 mins on the train to Leeds and a short walk up the glen to get to the moor. It really is a beautiful place.

Wimpeyspread · 06/03/2024 22:30

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 20:40

@Wimpeyspread wow that is quite the move!

It was, but no regrets at all - I have found my tribe at last!

BIossomtoes · 06/03/2024 22:19

angieloumc · 02/03/2024 23:06

I live in Saltaire, I absolutely love it. I've lived in Yorkshire since I was about ten and can't imagine living anywhere else. You do get a lot more house for your money here, Skipton is a lovely place to live and I can also recommend Ilkley.

Oh, you lucky, lucky person. I fell in love with Saltaire.

MereDintofPandiculation · 06/03/2024 22:10

Settle is nice - market square (touristy in summer but none the less pleasant for that), excellent fish and chips, large supermarket, rail to Leeds (though only about 4 a day (I might be wrong about that), more trains if you're prepared to go to Giggleswick or Long Preston both a short drive away), and you're on the Settle and Carlisle Line. I keep toying with a move to Settle.

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SaggyCushionCover · 06/03/2024 21:17

Zanatdy · 06/03/2024 20:49

Oh wow, that’s mad to think I’m looking at 2 bed flats here in south east for the same price

They have lived there less that 2 years and will be selling at a loss.

SaggyCushionCover · 06/03/2024 21:16

DevaleraSpawnOfSatan · 03/03/2024 11:29

Harrogate is very cliquey and the traffic is horrendous.

Now if I had my time over again, ( I am now happily ensconced in the HC) I would go for Skipton over Harrogate.

Depends where in Harrogate you live
I live Southside and either go into town, stay Southside or go to the A1 via Wetherby and rarely experience any traffic. But if you are Northside then the traffic can be awful.

Op- you mention Bilton. I like Bilton - it is one of the areas that has a true sense of community. It can have bad traffic though.

I dont think that Harrogate is cliquey- it is a big place with an aspect of transience as a tourist town. People tend to spend more time in the smaller communities within the town.

The weather is generally rubbish- Harrogate has a microclimate but if you are not weather bothered that's good.

Zanatdy · 06/03/2024 20:55

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 20:51

@Zanatdy exactly.

I have a little 3 bed terrace which I love but the area and parking are crap and I’ll be paying a mortgage until I’m 67 as it stands.

Financially moving north is a no brainer.

Yep exactly, I have given up on idea of buying a flat that’s going to cost me loads when I can head to the north. I’ll have nothing to keep me here once DD goes to Uni. Their dad has a house locally too if any want to stay down south (until they get own place). I am tempted to go somewhere further north (Durham) where it’s cheaper again. I change my mind every day

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 20:51

@Zanatdy exactly.

I have a little 3 bed terrace which I love but the area and parking are crap and I’ll be paying a mortgage until I’m 67 as it stands.

Financially moving north is a no brainer.

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Zanatdy · 06/03/2024 20:49

MintyCedric · 03/03/2024 10:33

This is my dream house based on browsing over the last couple of years, although at the present time it wouldn’t fulfill the mortgage free criteria.

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/140967365#/?channel=RES_BUY

Oh wow, that’s mad to think I’m looking at 2 bed flats here in south east for the same price

Zanatdy · 06/03/2024 20:42

Absolutely - I’m intending to do a similar distance move. I moved to the South East 23yrs ago for work and once my youngest goes to Uni in 2.5yrs I’m heading back up north. I grew up in North wales but will be based in Liverpool 3 days a week so thinking of the coast between Liverpool and Southport. Then I’m 30 mins to work, 1hr or so to my mum & old school friends. I’ve got no concerns about making new friends in my early 50’s, plus I’ll have work and weekends I can head to my mums etc. It means I can finally buy my own place as I’m priced out here in the south east

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 20:40

@Wimpeyspread wow that is quite the move!

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MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 20:39

I must admit I don’t fancy Keighley itself.

Adding Riddleston and Settle to the recce list!

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Ringpeace · 06/03/2024 20:22

Have a look at Settle. Lovely town with frequent trains to Leeds.

I know Keighley very well indeed - I grew up there. It's a shadow of its former self. Literally nothing left in what remains of the town centre. Absolutely hollowed out with lots of social problems. It breaks my heart when I return. Some of the villages like Oxenhope and Haworth are very nice.

whoami24601 · 06/03/2024 20:04

OP I live in Keighley and the area you're looking at there is not the nicest. I'm in Riddlesden which is lovely and has a great community feel if that's what you're after. Enough shops in walking distance to survive without a car and 3 decent pubs. Also on the main bus route to Bradford but also near enough to walk into keighley for the train. We love it here!

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 19:35

@MereDintofPandiculation how are you? I was on the EP threads a couple of years back. Currently still tethered down south by mum but plotting my escape when the time comes 😁.

Budget for place up north is between £250-£300k ideally.

I’ve been idly looking on and off for a couple of years and think that’s manageable.

I only need two bedrooms so long as they’re a decent size, off road or dedicated parking and not fussed about a huge garden…a little outdoor space for books, bubbly and BBQ and drying my washing on the rare warm, sunny days will do me, even a little courtyard would be fine.

Really would like a kitchen/diner.

Dream cottage I posted the other day was on for £315k 18 months ago. It’s possible I might have a bit of wiggle room in the budget when the time comes but don’t want to go too crazy!

Public transport links is a good point. Is there public transport between BiW and Harrogate?

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MereDintofPandiculation · 06/03/2024 19:26

My father moved up to the area when he was 86 and most definitely carved himself out a new life, becoming active in various societies and making a "lifelong" friend.

MereDintofPandiculation · 06/03/2024 19:11

Harrogate is expensive, as is Ilkley, but both have a train station.

Otley is lovely, but not on the railway, Pool is very small, and has no train or bus. It's on a main road. so I never feel it has a centre, though it has a thriving Village Hall and an active Parish Council.

Burley in Wharfedale (not Burley in Leeds) is a good bet. It's got a bypass, so doesn't have through traffic, and it's on the train line between Ilkley and Leeds. Still feels rural, with Rombalds Moor (Ilkley Moor) easily walkable, and it's a short and easy drive/train journey into Ilkley for shops and culture. It's only about 20 mins by train from Leeds (though nearly 3 times that if your drive). Nice little village.

Utley is down on the AIre, on the outskirts of Keighley. It's on the other side of Rombalds Moor from Ilkley. Saltaire is expensive for the area, as is Bramhope. It'd help if we knew your approximate budget - for example if you looked on rightmove and said "I can afford Otley but not Harrogate" we might be able to make more targeted suggestions.

Wimpeyspread · 06/03/2024 19:11

I have recently moved from the southwest to a Scottish island on my own in my 60s - never happier. Just do it! The only drawback moving south to north is that you probably wouldn’t be able to move back due to the difference in property values

Ulysees · 06/03/2024 19:11

How exciting. I live close to Yorkshire and it's gorgeous.
Have you thought about the coastal areas? I live by the sea and can't imagine leaving it now.

Roselilly36 · 06/03/2024 19:05

Do it OP, Harrogate is gorgeous, and probably not too far off Brighton property prices. I have lived in Brighton in the past, wouldn’t ever go back. We relocated a few years ago, a very big move, best thing we ever did. What’s the worse thing that could happen, you don’t like it and you move again. I don’t believe in all the forever home nonsense, life changes and you need to adapt. Good luck.

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 18:59

LlynTegid · 06/03/2024 18:38

I hope it works out for you. I would suggest visiting in December or January though before you finally move, to be certain. I also think you should choose somewhere that is OK if for some reason you cannot drive, be it temporary or for good as you get older.

Thanks. My mum keeps going about Yorkshire weather and how I’ll cope, and I know I need to factor this in.

I don’t want to live somewhere right out in the countryside and have always checked when looking at houses that there’s a decent corner shop or small supermarket in walking distance, and ideally a pub and GP too.

The extra money the move will free up will allow me to get a small 4WD car and I’m really hoping to find somewhere with a cellar and a log burner so can have a little preppers stash!

I absolutely loathe really hot weather and tbh the lower temperatures and proper winters are part of the attraction of moving north for me.

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LlynTegid · 06/03/2024 18:38

I hope it works out for you. I would suggest visiting in December or January though before you finally move, to be certain. I also think you should choose somewhere that is OK if for some reason you cannot drive, be it temporary or for good as you get older.

MintyCedric · 06/03/2024 18:25

Well I’ve booked into lovely Air B&B in Harrogate during in the summer hols and am off for a recce.

Realistically it’s a 3-5 year plan but I’m so excited and really appreciate all the advice on here.

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