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To feel anxious about DD being away from me?

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smallpinkdinosaur · 02/03/2024 21:35

DD is almost 3. She has chicken pox so can't go to nursery next week. DH and both work FT and struggling to get the time off next week at short notice, but we've managed between us to cover Wednesday-Friday with a combination of carers leave and annual leave. Anyway, my dad and his wife have offered to look after DD Mon & Tues, so I am taking her there tomorrow afternoon. However my dad and his wife live 120 miles away (just over 2 hrs drive each way). They are the only family support we have so we need to take them up on the offer, but I'm so anxious. It will be 48 hours away from us, and my DD has only ever spent one night away from us (at my dads) and we were close by to her staying in a hotel. I can't be close by this time as I need to work.

She adores my dad and even though she only
Sees him once every 2-3 ish months she runs straight to him shouting "grandad!" and hugs him, which is so lovely. I've explained to her where we are going tomorrow and she's excited to see grandad but I don't think she understands that I wont be staying too. My anxiety is through the roof in case she gets really upset when I need to leave 😟 am I overthinking this?? She will be ok won't she?

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smallpinkdinosaur · 02/03/2024 21:47

DragonGypsyDoris · 02/03/2024 21:47

No, it means that only 8 minutes have passed.

😂

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smallpinkdinosaur · 02/03/2024 21:47

Rachie1973 · 02/03/2024 21:45

I don’t think you need to get a grip but I do think she’ll be totally fine.

You have Mum guilt. Incurable and annoying, like covid :)

Mum guilt is the worst 😭

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DragonGypsyDoris · 02/03/2024 21:47

No, it means that only 8 minutes have passed.

RubyGemStone · 02/03/2024 21:46

Reasonable to be a bit anxious under the circumstances but it seems a good solution so I would focus on not projecting your anxiety on to her. I find they can smell the fear! If she's feeling under the weather too, it might all get a bit much if you're wound up. Just be very breezing when dropping her off like you're popping out to the shops.

Rachie1973 · 02/03/2024 21:45

I don’t think you need to get a grip but I do think she’ll be totally fine.

You have Mum guilt. Incurable and annoying, like covid :)

smallpinkdinosaur · 02/03/2024 21:43

I'll assume the lack of replies means I'm being ridiculous and need to get a grip 😂

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