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Friend that constantly talks about herself

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lomplan · 02/03/2024 13:09

I have a friend that talks about herself all the time. She calls me often and the entire time is just me listening to her talk, when I try to talk about stuff going on in my life it's rare that she seems interested.

We met up yesterday and it was just the same again, 90% of the conversation and talking was her. I'm a very active listener, but she is the complete opposite when I'm talking.

Do I say something? It's boring and exhausting.

She texts and calls me a lot and we have meet ups arranged but I really can't be arsed anymore.

I'm not sure how to navigate this without upsetting her?

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 02/03/2024 16:05

Some people are just like that. I have two that probably couldn't tell you my dch's names, because they always only talk about themselves. The thing about being on transmit all the time and never on receive is true. I would gradually reduce the contact to an annual occasional phone call.

Pantsinthewash · 02/03/2024 15:55

I'm in the same boat! Will be seeing my friend in the week and am gently going to mention it. If she is not aware, then she can't do anything about it, so I hope by being kind and honest she will see what I am saying. If not, I would be sorry to lose such an old friend, but I just feel so "unheard" and bored with the dynamic that something has to change. I completely get that there will be times in a friendship that one person maybe needs to offload more than the other, but there rarely seems the opportunity for the conversation to be more balanced or focus on me for once. Grrr!! Wish me luck!

BCBird · 02/03/2024 13:22

Stop wasting your precious time with this person. I had a friend like that . It self- centered.

rainbowstardrops · 02/03/2024 13:19

I have a friend like this. Whatever we start talking about always ends with her interrupting and talking about her and her family instead. It's bloody irritating!
We aren't as close anymore because we met through our children being at school together and they're much older now but I just can't be arsed to tolerate it now.

OneAtATime · 02/03/2024 13:13

Slowly reduce the amount of time you spend with her or speak to her. Or just tell her she’s on transmit mode all the time.

lomplan · 02/03/2024 13:11

She seems totally oblivious to it, though.

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Shinyandnew1 · 02/03/2024 13:11

She clearly doesn’t really care about upsetting you, so I wouldn’t worry too much about upsetting her.

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