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Teacher arrested for attempted murder

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Bottomofthebarrel · 02/03/2024 01:59

This week a teacher at my DD’s secondary school was arrested for attempted murder. He stabbed a woman in the head and neck in broad daylight, and I believe he was only unsuccessful in killing her because other people intervened. She is in a critical condition in hospital, so he could be looking at a murder charge. This has all been in the news, including the BBC.

This man was teaching my own child until very recently. She was given an after school detention by him for being very slightly late to his lesson, and the detention was just him and her sat in a room. That sends shivers down my spine now. I can’t get the whole thing out of my head.

This must be so disturbing for all the kids at the school. I feel that the school are potentially going to struggle more with behaviour control from now on - this man was employed as one of their role models so I can’t help but feel they’ve lost the moral high ground. Not to mention the effect on those who are in their exam years and are now minus a subject teacher.

How the fuck does someone like that become a teacher? I must say in the last 9 years since my DC started secondary, I’ve come across a few - all of them male - teachers who have got my back up and seem to be definite ‘power tripping know it all’ types, and not particularly bright to boot. There’s another male teacher in another local school who was in the news, having to pay £200,000 damages to his neighbour after a childish bullying campaign which went on for years.

Is this the best we can do? I get teaching isn’t the most attractive profession, but it actually terrifies me that these people are supposed to be guiding and leading our children, sometimes on a one to one basis. My worry is that with the current shortage of teachers, and desperation to fill vacancies, the standards are going to sink even lower.

This isn’t a general teacher bashing thread, there are many truly wonderful ones out there, and I know it’s an incredibly difficult job. Just feeling very shaken by what has happened this week. My DD really didn’t like this man and I assumed it was her being a stroppy teen, now I feel awful for not taking her seriously.

OP posts:
Newchapterbeckons · 02/03/2024 11:09

My job carries a great deal of responsibility and expected standards of conduct. On the very rare occasion someone has behaved in a way that does not befit the responsibility and status of our roles, I would be the very first to hold them to account. It would not occur to me to defend the indefensible. I am wondering how teaching as a profession as attracted so many happy to collude and make excuses for even attempted murder.

You can see how sexual and violent abuse has/ had free rein in boarding schools if the culture is as prevalent in real life as it is on here.

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 11:08

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 10:55

His profession might not be relevant to the jury but his profession is relevant to the OP and to me. We do expect a higher standard of behaviour from those who have vulnerable people in their care ( teachers, nurses, doctors , care workers)
Obviously there are people who fall short of the standards but we try to ensure that those who care for the vulnerable have ethical standards so it IS more disturbing when a doctor or teacher etc commits a crime .

I wouldn't expect anyone to be stabbing anyone regardless of their job!

With regards to teachers behaviour in general - I would expect them to behave professionally while they're on the clock, but what they do in their free time is largely irrelevant.

borntobequiet · 02/03/2024 11:06

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:58

Why not their parents are ambitious enough to do it.

Do what?
Are you suggesting that many 5 and 10 year olds would pass Maths GCSE if their parents were ambitious enough? Then surely it’s the parents’ lack of ambition that is standing in their way.

FKAT · 02/03/2024 11:06

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:52

Performatively chill? I think you’re looking to prove a point about so called cool girls . I don’t read those quotes as yea whatevs cool. I read it as yes there is headline violence and some worry that there are paedophile potentially working in schools

the pupils will discuss,gossip this event doesn’t mean they normalise it or think it’s ok. It means it’s a shocking untoward event by an adult they’re told to respect as a role model

And the stone cold classic : Why don’t you re-train and become a teacher?
How does that minimise or cool girl male violence? It’s neither stone cold, nor classic, It is not a classic quip by anyone measure

Finally, I’m not a teacher. The presumptive ,is evident in you 😀😀

The term 'cool girl' means (among other things) a woman who will never criticise a man and ignore or find excuses for their worst behaviour. That's a bunch of quotes showing that. You asked, I gave you the examples. I'm not going to sit around debating whether those examples are apologia for male violence, because they are.

"Why don't you become a teacher?" is a classic MN response every time a poster criticises a teacher. That someone has used this cliche in the context of "if you're so perfect and never murder anyone, why don't YOU become a teacher?" is weird.

Nobody's expecting teachers not to be human. But we are expecting them not to knife people to near-death in broad daylight.

If there was a Sarah Everard thread full of police officers and others discussing how the police have such a hard job, they are only human and are allowed to make mistakes and the public have nothing to fear from them because it's only one murder and it gives the public something to gossip about - I wonder if it would be allowed to stand?

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 11:04

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:52

I pay for their education so they can be in smaller class sizes. I have also homeschooled. The hard work comes from home you know that. When I read stories about a 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE what does that tell you about the system?

“When I read stories about a 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE what does that tell you about the system? “
Not sure why you think these outliers are a) desirable or b) tell you much about “the system”?
I’m sorry you have negative views of school. Don’t lump them all into one - there are some very good schools and very hardworking committed teachers out there.
I know maths is very important- but so is empathy and kindness. If you are interested in raising children who are fair, respectful and well balanced I would suggest you don’t tell them their teachers are just glorified baby sitters .

Iwasafool · 02/03/2024 11:02

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:52

I pay for their education so they can be in smaller class sizes. I have also homeschooled. The hard work comes from home you know that. When I read stories about a 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE what does that tell you about the system?

Does their paid for education involve teachers? Do they know how you view them?

Differentstarts · 02/03/2024 11:02

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 10:55

His profession might not be relevant to the jury but his profession is relevant to the OP and to me. We do expect a higher standard of behaviour from those who have vulnerable people in their care ( teachers, nurses, doctors , care workers)
Obviously there are people who fall short of the standards but we try to ensure that those who care for the vulnerable have ethical standards so it IS more disturbing when a doctor or teacher etc commits a crime .

Then you should lower your standards. There's a reason certain people choose to work in environments that they have close contact with vulnerable people. These stories aren't uncommon of police, teachers, nurses, drs doing unthinkable things, Abuse in care homes, hospitals, police stations and schools. What this teacher did is awful however it was in his personal life and not his work environment, so the fact he's a teacher is irrelevant

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 11:01

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:59

I read your reply. It is nonsensical and my reply remains unchanged and I won’t be rethinking your post

Thanks for giving me some head space. It's not for everyone.

TortolaParadise · 02/03/2024 11:01

Parents and carers are also arrested for similar behaviours and so are children. It is all so very disturbing but sadly reported incidents seem to be increasing.

Unic0rn · 02/03/2024 11:00

Piggywaspushed · 02/03/2024 10:44

You do know really good university graduates can murder people too?

Yes obviously but people are blaming this on the standard of teachers today. You get what you pay for. At the pay teachers receive, literally anyone could be standing in front of your children today, whoever they can get!

borntobequiet · 02/03/2024 11:00

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:55

Open your mind a bit more. Do you honesty think you're going to get an A class education if you leave it up to the teacher???

Absolutely not, because even the best teacher is going to find it difficult to combat poor attitude and disengagement in students who have no support at home, or who are actively encouraged to disengage, something that is far too prevalent.

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:59

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:57

Read my other reply and think again. 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE.

I read your reply. It is nonsensical and my reply remains unchanged and I won’t be rethinking your post

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:58

borntobequiet · 02/03/2024 10:55

When I read stories about a 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE what does that tell you about the system?

Pretty much nothing. Are you suggest that many 5 and 10 year old children should be passing GCSEs?

Why not their parents are ambitious enough to do it.

crumblingschools · 02/03/2024 10:58

@Limesodaagain what sort of crime though, I assume everyone doesn't expect or want anyone to stab another person no matter what their job?

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:57

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 10:55

His profession might not be relevant to the jury but his profession is relevant to the OP and to me. We do expect a higher standard of behaviour from those who have vulnerable people in their care ( teachers, nurses, doctors , care workers)
Obviously there are people who fall short of the standards but we try to ensure that those who care for the vulnerable have ethical standards so it IS more disturbing when a doctor or teacher etc commits a crime .

I agree. In certain professions one is expected to have a high standard behaviour professionally and personally. It is very disturbing when doctor,police,teacher commit crimes. Given the responsibilities of their roles and then implicit trust placed in them

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:57

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:53

I've never held teachers in high regard they are babysitting our children
Not worthy of a reply. Try harder. It’s obvious and lame

Read my other reply and think again. 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE.

borntobequiet · 02/03/2024 10:55

When I read stories about a 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE what does that tell you about the system?

Pretty much nothing. Are you suggest that many 5 and 10 year old children should be passing GCSEs?

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 10:55

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 10:42

I don’t see this as a ‘teacher who tried to kill a woman’. I see it as ‘yet another violent man who tried to kill a woman and who happens to be a teacher’.

Same here, the fact that he's a teacher is secondary and not really relevant to the crime.

His profession might not be relevant to the jury but his profession is relevant to the OP and to me. We do expect a higher standard of behaviour from those who have vulnerable people in their care ( teachers, nurses, doctors , care workers)
Obviously there are people who fall short of the standards but we try to ensure that those who care for the vulnerable have ethical standards so it IS more disturbing when a doctor or teacher etc commits a crime .

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:55

borntobequiet · 02/03/2024 10:52

And hopefully instilling some more positive attitudes in them than they find at home.

Open your mind a bit more. Do you honesty think you're going to get an A class education if you leave it up to the teacher???

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:53

I've never held teachers in high regard they are babysitting our children
Not worthy of a reply. Try harder. It’s obvious and lame

borntobequiet · 02/03/2024 10:52

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:40

I've never held teachers in high regard they are babysitting our children.

And hopefully instilling some more positive attitudes in them than they find at home.

Zone2NorthLondon · 02/03/2024 10:52

FKAT · 02/03/2024 10:42

Sure - all these in the first 2 pages of the thread:

I find someone who's committed a domestic murder/attempted murder a lot less of a concern then the amount of paedophiles that work in schools up and down the country.

Teachers fight, do drugs etc OP it's just a job to many of them they're only human.

My husband's old teacher was convicted of murder or manslaughter and my husband said it was very sad as he'd obviously gone off the rails.

Honestly the kids are probably loving it. We had something like this at my school when I was a teen and it was like the best gossip we’d ever heard.

And the stone cold classic:

Why don’t you re-train and become a teacher?

Normalisation of male violence and being performatively chill about a woman who's nearly lost her life in a horrific manner.

Oh and "Can you elaborate with examples?" Grin Grin- the teacher is strong in you

Edited

Performatively chill? I think you’re looking to prove a point about so called cool girls . I don’t read those quotes as yea whatevs cool. I read it as yes there is headline violence and some worry that there are paedophile potentially working in schools

the pupils will discuss,gossip this event doesn’t mean they normalise it or think it’s ok. It means it’s a shocking untoward event by an adult they’re told to respect as a role model

And the stone cold classic : Why don’t you re-train and become a teacher?
How does that minimise or cool girl male violence? It’s neither stone cold, nor classic, It is not a classic quip by anyone measure

Finally, I’m not a teacher. The presumptive ,is evident in you 😀😀

welshpolarbear · 02/03/2024 10:52

SignoraVolpe · 02/03/2024 06:18

My dgs’s headmaster was arrested the first week that dgs started secondary.
Dgs was beyond excited to ring and tell me.

What is worrying about dg’s head is that he’d been accused and found guilty by the governors of bullying teachers, however he was allowed to stay on.
Then he was filmed grabbing a pupil by their collar, nothing was done.
He finally is being investigated for sexual activity with a girl 13 - 15.

He obviously ruled by fear including the governors.

It was my DS's first day there too!

I don't know how he was even in position after the amount of bullying he'd done.

Absolutely sick.

Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 10:52

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 10:43

Hmmm - As a teacher I can imagine the impact your view has on the behaviour and attitudes of your dc

I pay for their education so they can be in smaller class sizes. I have also homeschooled. The hard work comes from home you know that. When I read stories about a 5 and 10 year old passing their Maths GCSE what does that tell you about the system?

CHRIS003 · 02/03/2024 10:50

UnderScoredBrain · 02/03/2024 05:42

OP you cannot say anything negative about teachers on mumsnet.

This will be hugely traumatic for many children, particularly those who trusted them - as teenagers they still have developing frontal lobes and yes it may impact them in ways it wouldn’t an adult.

The entire vetting / enhanced DBS process needs to change and the school need to support their students.

I would really focus and think about how you can support your daughter and peers if needed.

This is absolutely grim

How would you change the dbs / vetting system to catch a man like this ?
The dbs checking system was bought in after the Soham murders in early 2000's
After Ian Huntley was employed as a caretaker at the girls school despite having been investigated for incidents involving under age girls in his private life in another county.
The system will flag up people who have been charged or investigated or banned from working with children but how do stop someone getting a job if they have never been in trouble before ?
If the investigation into the teacher flags up that he had convictions for violence and they employed him then the school will be in all sorts of trouble but if he has no history of violence on record then how would changing the dbs checking system make any difference? You say the whole system needs to change but what would you propose? Change it to what ?
This man may have been an abuser to a wife / girlfriend in his life away from school but how would a dbs check show this up if he has never come to the attention of the police ?

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