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Teacher arrested for attempted murder

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Bottomofthebarrel · 02/03/2024 01:59

This week a teacher at my DD’s secondary school was arrested for attempted murder. He stabbed a woman in the head and neck in broad daylight, and I believe he was only unsuccessful in killing her because other people intervened. She is in a critical condition in hospital, so he could be looking at a murder charge. This has all been in the news, including the BBC.

This man was teaching my own child until very recently. She was given an after school detention by him for being very slightly late to his lesson, and the detention was just him and her sat in a room. That sends shivers down my spine now. I can’t get the whole thing out of my head.

This must be so disturbing for all the kids at the school. I feel that the school are potentially going to struggle more with behaviour control from now on - this man was employed as one of their role models so I can’t help but feel they’ve lost the moral high ground. Not to mention the effect on those who are in their exam years and are now minus a subject teacher.

How the fuck does someone like that become a teacher? I must say in the last 9 years since my DC started secondary, I’ve come across a few - all of them male - teachers who have got my back up and seem to be definite ‘power tripping know it all’ types, and not particularly bright to boot. There’s another male teacher in another local school who was in the news, having to pay £200,000 damages to his neighbour after a childish bullying campaign which went on for years.

Is this the best we can do? I get teaching isn’t the most attractive profession, but it actually terrifies me that these people are supposed to be guiding and leading our children, sometimes on a one to one basis. My worry is that with the current shortage of teachers, and desperation to fill vacancies, the standards are going to sink even lower.

This isn’t a general teacher bashing thread, there are many truly wonderful ones out there, and I know it’s an incredibly difficult job. Just feeling very shaken by what has happened this week. My DD really didn’t like this man and I assumed it was her being a stroppy teen, now I feel awful for not taking her seriously.

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Carpediemmakeitcount · 02/03/2024 12:08

"Teachers need support and respect from the parents or it becomes an impossible job."

That's a two way street it works both ways or it won't work. Everyone deserves respect and should be earned not given because you are a teacher. Teachers should not be immune from criticism.

Piggywaspushed · 02/03/2024 12:07

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Wait... so now what some posters say on MN, is worse than attempted murder?

pontipinemum · 02/03/2024 12:07

I would be seriously shocked, and I think it will shock the kids in the school.

I don't think lippy kids saying well I'm not as bad as him will be tolerated.

There are evil people in every walk of life. Of course we hope they don't come in contact with our kids.

A few years ago in Ireland a school vice principal murdered his wife, their 3 sons then killed himself. That absolutely shook the community. But I don't think it ended up having any reputation damage or lasting behavioural scar on the school. Of course it will always be connected to that school though.

user1984778379202 · 02/03/2024 12:06

Newchapterbeckons · 02/03/2024 11:55

Forums are able to speak about anything !!! They do not have to follow any such legislation. It’s called democracy

Maybe read up on your media law before posting something that simply isn't true.

Newchapterbeckons · 02/03/2024 12:06

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 12:00

I agree with this.
Can we agree

  1. NO ONE should commit murder .
  2. Those who are in positions of authority/ care are and must be carefully vetted.
  3. Sometimes people will slip through the vetting processes
  4. It is understandable that a parent would feel upset upon hearing that a teacher who taught her child has been arrested for attempted murder.

There are a number of people who are using this thread to make sweeping generalisations about teachers. It’s unfair and demoralising to read. I’ve been teaching for over thirty years and the vast majority of teachers are committed and hardworking and care about their students. There are wider societal issues that have made teaching a difficult job. Teachers need support
and respect from the parents or it becomes an impossible job.

Aren’t you dismayed and demoralised by the posts on here demeaning the op, dismissing a violent slaying of an innocent woman by a teacher as mere mental health issues? Saying the job/money/kids drove him to it?

I agree I would feel utterly bereft reading this thread, but not for the same reason as you!

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 12:04

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“Witnessing the op being silenced, shouted down, having her feelings of shock minimised, her child’s exposure to risk dismissed. It is deeply shocking that a braying bunch of teachers should enter the thread on mass and take down the op in the way that they have. “
I agree with this
I’m a teacher and I’m shocked by the reaction of some on here.

Limesodaagain · 02/03/2024 12:00

user1984778379202 · 02/03/2024 11:44

Surprised @MNHQ is still keeping this thread up. For one thing, it's too divisive for anyone to agree on, and it's just triggering nastiness and spite, and now the suspect has been arrested and charged, proceedings are active and reporting restrictions do apply, so it's a legal minefield too.

I agree with this.
Can we agree

  1. NO ONE should commit murder .
  2. Those who are in positions of authority/ care are and must be carefully vetted.
  3. Sometimes people will slip through the vetting processes
  4. It is understandable that a parent would feel upset upon hearing that a teacher who taught her child has been arrested for attempted murder.

There are a number of people who are using this thread to make sweeping generalisations about teachers. It’s unfair and demoralising to read. I’ve been teaching for over thirty years and the vast majority of teachers are committed and hardworking and care about their students. There are wider societal issues that have made teaching a difficult job. Teachers need support
and respect from the parents or it becomes an impossible job.

Livingtothefull · 02/03/2024 11:59

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 10:37

I don't know about Shipman, but many of Lucy Letby's colleagues raised concerns about her and were shut down - and even forced to apologise for it.

There were concerns raised about Shipman as well. Another local GP and an undertaker raised concerns about the high number of deaths of Shipman's patients. But the resulting police enquiry was abortive and botched, and so he was free to continue to kill more victims.

Taxbreaks · 02/03/2024 11:57

Different take to may posters here.
Along with many decisions that our 'betters' have made on our behalf, without any form of consultation (elimination of safe spaces, concurrent rather than consecutive sentences, crimes against assets aren't serious even if they make vulnerable people afraid to live law-abiding lives, victim-shaming and gaslighting ...) there seems to be an assumption that any person's natural state is one of being useful in society, respectful of others and safe to be let out in public.
If taxpayers and the electorate were given a choice (David Cameron probably has misgivings) would we be happier to take violent and repeat offenders out of society for many decades? Police in London in a rare feat of ingenuity and conscientiousness put a tracker in a bike in an area with lots of CCTV, they caught the gang who had stolen £200,000 of bikes and bike theft dropped by 90%.
Teachers, police officers and medical staff self-select their careers, with assumptions that they feel some vocation or desire to help vulnerable people - to the extent that Wayne Couzens should have been prevented by three police forces from getting a Warrant card (legitimately authorising him to make arrests while on- or off-duty) and carrying a gun. Those in a position to keep him out always gave him the benefit of the doubt.

Newchapterbeckons · 02/03/2024 11:56

Dotjones · 02/03/2024 11:55

It is a sinister culture of silencing anyone that dares to speak up that reflects the character and moral fibre of the people entrusted to care for the most vulnerable in our society. It is far worse than the attempted murder.

How many attempted murders is it the equivalent of?

It suggests a culture rotten to the core, if this thread is anything to go by.

x2boys · 02/03/2024 11:55

UnderScoredBrain · 02/03/2024 05:56

I’m unsure but the Couzens inquiry has stated this recently and it has also come out in the IICSA

There are too many ways to hide backgrounds (ie I was abused by an NHS member of staff who was using an alias and not declared to DBS).

A DBS can only show crimes of which a,person has been convicted off ( although I think an enhanced one can have others relevant info on it)
Even if this teacher wss regularly attacking his partner ,if it had never been reported there would be no record or conviction, s.

Dotjones · 02/03/2024 11:55

It is a sinister culture of silencing anyone that dares to speak up that reflects the character and moral fibre of the people entrusted to care for the most vulnerable in our society. It is far worse than the attempted murder.

How many attempted murders is it the equivalent of?

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 11:55

Piggywaspushed · 02/03/2024 11:45

Schools literally hold records of staff dismissals . There is prison data.
Misconduct hearings are in the public domain.

It's not helpful to suggest schools are full of criminal teachers.

It is also literally not relevant to the awful crime committed by this man.

Segueing off on to things that teachers may -or may not- have done in schools oevr the last 40 or so years isn't productive or relevant.

It strongly suggests people think this man attacked and nearly killed a woman because he was a teacher - and that somehow his colleagues(nay the whole profession) colluded with this.

I'd wager that the vast majority of parents pay absolutely no attention to the reasons for staff dismissals, prison data and misconduct hearings.

I also never said schools were "full of criminal teachers" - I said that it's probably more common than we think and most cases never reach the news, you'd have to actively go looking.

I've also said (multiple times) that his profession is completely irrelevant when it comes to what happened. It's horrendous because it's horrendous, not because he's a teacher.

Newchapterbeckons · 02/03/2024 11:55

user1984778379202 · 02/03/2024 11:44

Surprised @MNHQ is still keeping this thread up. For one thing, it's too divisive for anyone to agree on, and it's just triggering nastiness and spite, and now the suspect has been arrested and charged, proceedings are active and reporting restrictions do apply, so it's a legal minefield too.

Forums are able to speak about anything !!! They do not have to follow any such legislation. It’s called democracy

Newchapterbeckons · 02/03/2024 11:52

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5128gap · 02/03/2024 11:52

How awful for you, your DD and the rest of the school. And for his victim of course. Most people are fortunate enough not to have a person like this come so close to home, so don't realise quite how shocking and disturbing it is, how it shakes your confidence in who should be trusted, and even (rightly or wrongly) feels like a danger to your child was narrowly averted and brings fear for them to the surface. You will take some time to process this, and part of that is looking for what went wrong, so your questions are understandable. Hopefully, the school will have some support in place.

DriftingDora · 02/03/2024 11:50

Bottomofthebarrel · 02/03/2024 02:16

I don’t mean the remaining staff SHOULD lose the moral high ground, of course they haven’t done anything wrong and I’m sure are horrendously affected by what’s happened. However it’s the perfect comeback for a lippy kid though isn’t it, if they get in trouble, whatever they do isn’t going to be as bad as what Mr Jones did. They were being told to respect this man until Monday, then he finished work for the day and promptly tried to kill someone.

This is just ridiculous. Of course it's a terrible thing to happen and shocking for everyone else associated with the school, but how in heaven's name could what happened reflect on other teachers at the school? They are individuals, and some are good, some are bad, some will suffer from a mental breakdown at some point perhaps - that's life. Because this incident happened, it doesn't imply that the other teachers shouldn't be treated in the same way as before (and with respect, I'd hope). How does the appalling action of one colleague alter the way others are treated? It makes no sense at all and theories like this could contribute to making a bad situation even worse.

Piggywaspushed · 02/03/2024 11:45

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 11:33

I don't think it's as rare as we like to pretend it is.

Lots of crimes never really make the papers and it's very easy to brush things under the carpet and pretend Mr so-and-so is off sick or Mrs X had to leave suddenly because of a family emergency.

Schools literally hold records of staff dismissals . There is prison data.
Misconduct hearings are in the public domain.

It's not helpful to suggest schools are full of criminal teachers.

It is also literally not relevant to the awful crime committed by this man.

Segueing off on to things that teachers may -or may not- have done in schools oevr the last 40 or so years isn't productive or relevant.

It strongly suggests people think this man attacked and nearly killed a woman because he was a teacher - and that somehow his colleagues(nay the whole profession) colluded with this.

user1984778379202 · 02/03/2024 11:44

Surprised @MNHQ is still keeping this thread up. For one thing, it's too divisive for anyone to agree on, and it's just triggering nastiness and spite, and now the suspect has been arrested and charged, proceedings are active and reporting restrictions do apply, so it's a legal minefield too.

PylaSheight · 02/03/2024 11:42

How the hell do you know what the impact will be to the children? On pupils already struggling with anxiety and stress. It’s an horrendous situation, stop minimising!!

@Newchapterbeckons well, it didn't happen in the college, and (as far as we're aware) he doesn't have previous for harming children. It's also highly likely that his victim is a current or former romantic partner, which is often the case, so his MO is not attacking pupils. Plus a fair few posters have said how shocking event at their school when they were children didn't traumatise anyone, it was exciting gossip.

So although the pupils may be shocked, I actually think it does more harm than good to assume they'll be affected and doing the "Oh god darling, isn't it awful. And to think you were in the same room as him!" How do you feel about that? Would you like counselling?" routine. Possibly what would help those already struggling with their MH would be to help stop them navel-gazing rather than assume they need support, and to highlight the prevalence of male on female violence in romantic relationships instead if they must. Highlight it wasn't a teacher on pupil attack, and to centre the victim rather than themselves.

x2boys · 02/03/2024 11:40

Bottomofthebarrel · 02/03/2024 01:59

This week a teacher at my DD’s secondary school was arrested for attempted murder. He stabbed a woman in the head and neck in broad daylight, and I believe he was only unsuccessful in killing her because other people intervened. She is in a critical condition in hospital, so he could be looking at a murder charge. This has all been in the news, including the BBC.

This man was teaching my own child until very recently. She was given an after school detention by him for being very slightly late to his lesson, and the detention was just him and her sat in a room. That sends shivers down my spine now. I can’t get the whole thing out of my head.

This must be so disturbing for all the kids at the school. I feel that the school are potentially going to struggle more with behaviour control from now on - this man was employed as one of their role models so I can’t help but feel they’ve lost the moral high ground. Not to mention the effect on those who are in their exam years and are now minus a subject teacher.

How the fuck does someone like that become a teacher? I must say in the last 9 years since my DC started secondary, I’ve come across a few - all of them male - teachers who have got my back up and seem to be definite ‘power tripping know it all’ types, and not particularly bright to boot. There’s another male teacher in another local school who was in the news, having to pay £200,000 damages to his neighbour after a childish bullying campaign which went on for years.

Is this the best we can do? I get teaching isn’t the most attractive profession, but it actually terrifies me that these people are supposed to be guiding and leading our children, sometimes on a one to one basis. My worry is that with the current shortage of teachers, and desperation to fill vacancies, the standards are going to sink even lower.

This isn’t a general teacher bashing thread, there are many truly wonderful ones out there, and I know it’s an incredibly difficult job. Just feeling very shaken by what has happened this week. My DD really didn’t like this man and I assumed it was her being a stroppy teen, now I feel awful for not taking her seriously.

How is this the schools fault?
18years ago there was an horrific murder of a year 7 child by a year 10child who both attended the same s school.I went to ( admittedly years,after I lef) and my nephews subsequently attended
I don doubt the students there at the time were traumatized by it but was in no way the schools fault
.

crumblingschools · 02/03/2024 11:38

There are 1.5 million people working in schools, statistically you are going to get some who commit crimes, no matter what safeguarding procedures are in place.

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 11:33

Piggywaspushed · 02/03/2024 11:30

I have been teaching for 30 years and it has never happened in any schools I have worked in. It is extremely rare (thank God). Two teachers at my DS's school, left fairly forcibly both regarding incidents outside of school. One of these was basic homophobia dressed up as concern.

This thread is stoking paranoia.

I don't think it's as rare as we like to pretend it is.

Lots of crimes never really make the papers and it's very easy to brush things under the carpet and pretend Mr so-and-so is off sick or Mrs X had to leave suddenly because of a family emergency.

Piggywaspushed · 02/03/2024 11:30

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 11:26

I suspect that there are schools up and down the country who have lost teachers because of their behaviour.

Of course, stabbing someone is very much on the extreme end of things but I can think of at least two who were fired for inappropriate behaviour around pupils - one involved corporal punishment and the other selling drugs behind the art block.

I have been teaching for 30 years and it has never happened in any schools I have worked in. It is extremely rare (thank God). Two teachers at my DS's school, left fairly forcibly both regarding incidents outside of school. One of these was basic homophobia dressed up as concern.

This thread is stoking paranoia.

cardibach · 02/03/2024 11:30

BluntFatball · 02/03/2024 06:13

There is no "solution". You can't predict who may or may not commit a crime. Anyone is capable of snapping in a fit of rage, having a mental breakdown or indeed planning to kill someone - including teens.

We can try to predict it. It’s why we bother collecting crime statistics.

It’s interesting to see some on mumsnet leaping to the defence of a man who tried to kill a woman… just because he is a teacher. Including earlier pondering about why he had mental health problems and linking it with being a poor teacher (who I’m sure, poor lamb, was driven to knife a woman in the neck).

I guess that’s why the bad ones are attracted to the profession. They know many will fall over themselves to show how progressive they are, how they’d never suspect them of any ulterior motives, never ever.

Where has anyone leapt to his defence?