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Absolutely cannot stand cuddling in bed - anyone else?

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Outtathisworld · 01/03/2024 15:25

Lighthearted

I hate cuddling up to my husband in bed, I just want to turn over not facing him and sleep. I don’t want to be touched whilst I’m sleeping. I can’t even stand his knee or toe touching me.

I’m affectionate all the time but when I’m trying to sleep I hate it.

Anyone else like this?

Friends think I’m funny for not liking being cuddled to sleep. 🤣

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Infinity234 · 01/03/2024 21:00

I’m the same!

Skyblue92 · 01/03/2024 20:58

I love my DH but I’m exactly the same, I hate being cuddled in bed. I’m like don’t invade my side, I want to sleep

DrJoanAllenby · 01/03/2024 20:57

We are the opposite. We start off with me on my side cuddled up to him whilst he's on his back, my leg over his.

Then I turn in my side and he spoons me.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/03/2024 20:56
Pushkinini · 01/03/2024 20:56

I hate it if DH invades my side of the bed. Happy to have a quick goodnight cuddle when we get into bed but after that we turn away from each other to sleep. I get far too hot if we sleep entangled up.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/03/2024 20:54

Anyone else replaying the Friends episode?

I hate cuddling in bed.

Caswallonthefox · 01/03/2024 20:52

I hate cuddling during sleep, it makes me too hot. I'm also a light sleeper.
When I had a partner, I'd be as far away from them as possible. These days, I have a single bed, so nobody, not even my cat,cuddles me

AstralSpace · 01/03/2024 20:46

I hate cuddling in bed too. I need my own space so I have my own duvet too.
Got fed up of either dh being in my space, or taking the duvet off to the other side of the bed.
It now feels like I'm in a separate bed at night and it's bliss.

pensione · 01/03/2024 20:39

I love to be cuddled to sleep, DH doesn’t like it much. It gets a bit lonely.

BadgeronaMoped · 01/03/2024 20:39

I try to tolerate it till DH falls asleep, then I escape Grin

43ontherocksporfavor · 01/03/2024 20:36

We are both the same. Been very happily married for nearly 28 years and from the beginning we will cuddle up when we first get in bed to warm up ( both like a cool bedroom) but after about 5 minutes we both pull away and face away from each other. We are lucky the feeling is mutual.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 01/03/2024 20:33

My DH actually spent our first few weeks together sleeping in a single bed. We slept cuddled up all night. Now, a cuddle is nice occasionally but not whilst I’m trying to sleep! Get off me! DH whinges my hair gets in his face and soon loses interest in the cuddle too so that’s fine.

I currently use a pregnancy pillow and I love it because it means no one is touching me. 😂

Sweetlily99 · 01/03/2024 20:32

I don't like it either just want my own space when i sleep. we have a huge bed!

Katemax82 · 01/03/2024 20:21

I hate because my husband always tries to have sex with me

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Outtathisworld · 01/03/2024 18:45

My husband would definitely like to be cuddled all night - I don’t think I’d ever sleep haha

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Outtathisworld · 01/03/2024 18:45

Iam4eels · 01/03/2024 15:59

Same.

I like him in the bed but not in my space. Part of our reasoning for having a super king-size bed is that I have my sleep space and he has his sleep space. We cuddle up while chatting or for comfort but once I'm ready to sleep I have to not be touched.

Yes this is us 100%
the bed is big enough - get on your own side!!

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lambhotpot · 01/03/2024 17:39

Im single and its staying that way my bed is mine.
Huge 4 poster king size bed with white net curtains drapes all for me fresh clean sheets plump pillows.
Heaven.
I dont think i could share my bed if i tried.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/03/2024 17:38

We go to sleep on our sides with me cuddling up to the back of him with my arm around his waist. At some point I'll wake up with him cuddling me and we always wake up on our own side of the bed but I love the cuddling

TheLittleRedDragon · 01/03/2024 17:20

No, I love a bedtime cuddle! One of the high points of life tbh.

KimberleyClark · 01/03/2024 17:06

Love it. Go to sleep holding hands,well I do anyway.

autumn1610 · 01/03/2024 16:48

with my ex I had to touch him but couldn’t face each other to sleep so would have a finger touching his back or something. Had a fwb recently and Jesus I don’t think he let go of me at all in the night proper struggled getting back to sleep, I could move and he was back on me. It was nice in a way but long term I couldn’t deal with it

thecatsthecats · 01/03/2024 16:47

My husband came to bed after me last night and grabbed me for cuddle.

Fuck off! I have to wake up for the baby in the night, who the hell wakes a sleeping mum?

Simonjt · 01/03/2024 16:34

Anotherparkingthread · 01/03/2024 15:48

Ha! total opposite, we go to sleep all piled on top of eachother like cats. If I put my head on his chest at any time of day I fall asleep.

This is us too, often with an added cat!

user1471517095 · 01/03/2024 16:27

Me, I'm always too warm so sleep with the window open. I do not want another hot body touching mine. And I don't much like him breathing on me either!

Redglitter · 01/03/2024 16:26

I love cuddles when I'm awake, either after sex or before sleeping but when I'm trying to sleep leave me the hell alone.

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