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Absolutely cannot stand cuddling in bed - anyone else?

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Outtathisworld · 01/03/2024 15:25

Lighthearted

I hate cuddling up to my husband in bed, I just want to turn over not facing him and sleep. I don’t want to be touched whilst I’m sleeping. I can’t even stand his knee or toe touching me.

I’m affectionate all the time but when I’m trying to sleep I hate it.

Anyone else like this?

Friends think I’m funny for not liking being cuddled to sleep. 🤣

OP posts:
EndoEnd · 01/03/2024 22:20

HATE IT. I have sensory issues, so cuddling while I'm trying to decompress from an overstimulating day really isn't ideal.

Copperoliverbear · 01/03/2024 22:16

Yes get too hot. X

AnotherCoffeeBreak · 01/03/2024 22:13

I’ve always been like this. It’s what super king beds and separate duvets were invented for!

OhMehGoddess · 01/03/2024 22:11

Anotherparkingthread · 01/03/2024 15:48

Ha! total opposite, we go to sleep all piled on top of eachother like cats. If I put my head on his chest at any time of day I fall asleep.

We've cuddled for 20 years now. The cat just cuddles in under my arm or is on top of me. Our youngest comes through and cuddle in every night too. I'm the middle of the bed burrito.

teenagetantrums · 01/03/2024 22:10

I hate it, l dont mind a quick cuddle and kiss before l turn over, but come to bed after me and wake me up trying to givev me a cuddle l litteraly lose my shit, I'm a menopausal woman who dosent sleep well, If I'm asleep l want to stay asleep...

Brightandbubly · 01/03/2024 22:05

Love a cuddle v active sex life seperate bedrooms are the best

NothingVenturedAndAllThat · 01/03/2024 22:04

It's too hot. We cuddle then I roll over and he strokes my butt until I fall asleep. It's a great system 🤣🤣🤣

Alwaystired2023 · 01/03/2024 22:03

Omg yes please do not touch me get your lovely big manly body off me do look at me 🤣🤣🤣 sex is great and I don't mind cuddling babies or children all night but no thank you DP

Titsywoo · 01/03/2024 22:02

I love cuddles before we turn the lights off, I love them in the morning, I even apparently get very cuddly in the middle of the night while I am asleep.

But I CANNOT be cuddled or touched in anyway when I am trying to fall asleep.

Poor DH would love to be cuddled up all night long. Guess he married the wrong woman Grin

SorrowsPrayers · 01/03/2024 21:45

We have separate rooms now and sleep so much better. When we used to share a bed I absolutely hated being touched. But even worse was being breathed on. Yuck!

Tulipvase · 01/03/2024 21:44

My husband would be more cuddly in bed but I don’t like it. I want my space in bed.

We’ve been married 22 years so it hasn’t caused too much of a problem.

LuluBlakey1 · 01/03/2024 21:42

I like it in the Winter but DH radiates heat and it's terrible in the summer- I like him a foot away from me.

Louisetopaz21 · 01/03/2024 21:39

I love cuddling up to my DH something I look forward to everyday but I cannot sleep face to face as I dont like breath in my face.

BoobyDazzler · 01/03/2024 21:19

I’m not a fan either. A little cuddle pre/post sex, a bit of a head rub occasionally and maybe the occasional massage, ok. Other than that - don’t touch me, and especially don’t fucking touch me while I’m asleep 🤣

Karensgoldleggings · 01/03/2024 21:14

Sorry meant to reply to@Blakessevenrideagain

Karensgoldleggings · 01/03/2024 21:13

Same
Love having my own room and bed
DH can fart, snore and toss and turn alone
Heaven !

artfuldodgerjack · 01/03/2024 21:10

If I'm napping I can sleep cuddled up, but I can't at nighttime! We have a quick cuddle, a kiss goodnight and then both roll over and lay in opposite sides.

Mum2jenny · 01/03/2024 21:09

I’m the same, love to cuddle, but do need space to sleep.

LegoLady95 · 01/03/2024 21:08

Absolutely cannot bear to be touching at all to get to sleep, and seperate quilts are a must. I just get too hot otherwise.

Roryhon · 01/03/2024 21:08

My husband is the only person I’ve ever been relaxed with sleeping in the same bed. We tend to snuggle when we get in, and I often fall asleep on his chest, but we mainly sleep separate, often back to back. Especially nowadays while I’m menopausal and running hot and cold!

Londonrach1 · 01/03/2024 21:07

Love a cuddle and hold a part of his PJs but yes need to fall asleep without him touching me...he too hot when he touches me .I like to be cold to fall asleep but do like to hold a corner of his PJs to know he near by...zzz

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 01/03/2024 21:07

Love it but not face to face, big spoon, little spoon is much better.

He just needs to keep his toes away from me. If they touch me, cuddles end.

BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 01/03/2024 21:06

I love cuddling in bed but find I just get to hot to sleep

If there's a way to combine a cuddle and air conditioning sign me up!

Blakessevenrideagain · 01/03/2024 21:03

I can't sleep if I'm in bed with anyone or anything. I now have my own room. DH has his, I have mine! Cats in the kitchen, the dog has the hallway and front room. Everyone gets sleep.

Sapphire387 · 01/03/2024 21:03

Funny how different and strong the preferences are.

DH and I are 'sleep compatible' in that we both love cuddling to sleep.

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